Your personal style and trends
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There are many fashion trends out there that fits all body types, shapes and looks, but in the end your personal style will always shine through your looks no matter what you wear.
Whether you are wearing trendy pants, coats, dresses, shoes, jackets, jeans etc. your personal look will always be what defines your look. Combining new trends with your personal style makes you stand out from the crowd. Try something new, or combine other trends with your personal style. Be you and remember your personal style when following new fashion trends.
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Fashion Trend Forecasting - Get Familiar With the Latest Fashion Trends
The fashion industry always has a shake-up of new trends, and it is not easy to predict future trends. Professionals working in the fashion industries like manufacturers and fashion designers work hard to know the latest fashion trends so that they can rock and create a buzz with their upcoming fashion collections.
Fashion trend predictions can be complicated as there are several categories of fashion for different people all over the world. Some of the most popular fashion categories include
In addition to this, fashion styles also keep changing with the seasons, and this is the reason for the evolution of the terms "Summer Collection" and "Winter Collection." Therefore, it is important to analyze the trend-spotters to recognize what is popular and design products accordingly. To get rid of the complications, trend forecasting fashion is an effective and helpful technique. This technique is used by professional forecasters who conduct market research and analyze the purchasing pattern of various customers. This research is conducted to get an idea about the stuff that would trend in the future. When the technique of forecasting was initially evolved, forecasters did not have access to a large number of resources for conducting their research. As a result, fashion weeks or shows and purchasing patterns of customers were the only reliable sources through which trends were predicted. However, with the advancement of technology, deeper market research can be conducted by considering various factors affecting fashion changes. Therefore, better meaningful results can be obtained when compared to the traditional methods. The need for fashion forecasting is increased compared to the past because celebrities and social media highly influence today's fashion trends. Customers do not spend much time selecting the right kind of fashion, and their preference is usually based on the fashion trends followed by famous personalities. The most influenced category here is women's clothing trends that keep changing quickly, and therefore predicting the trends becomes a little difficult. Therefore, the fashion industry keeps facing rapid changes and complicates the process of trend predictions.
Kinds of fashion trend forecasting:
As there is a strong need for fashion forecasting for today's market, this technique is classified into two types. Fashion forecasters can use either of these techniques to predict the fashion trends based on the category of fashion.
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Summer event season is here with a bang. We're certainly making up for lost time this year with weddings, birthday bashes and summer occasions like Ascot back in the calendar. The Great Dress Hunt can require serious planning, but there's one collection that is really helping in this department. Karen Millen is known for its beautiful floral dresses, and this year, it has really excelled with a special collaboration with botanical artist Rui Jiang. She has created spectacular watercolour images inspired by her love for all the flowers in the British countryside. She really studies the colour and form of flowers in detail. She grows violas and roses in her own garden and meticulously examines each bud before picking up the paintbrush.
And these dress designs perfectly complement her watercolour prints. They all have voluminous fabric and exaggerated silhouettes, which give each piece a rippling movement and sense of romance. The collection is filled with occasion-ready winners, but we've hand-selected five that we know will be super popular this year, including a cute minidress and a halterneck slip. Keep scrolling for the five dresses that are beyond perfect for your next wedding or summer party.
Style Notes: This dress has a beautiful, spring-green botanical print, which pairs perfectly with the dramatic sleeves and tied waist. The print is perfect for a wedding or summer occasion, but the volume of fabric gives it a fashion edge.
Style Notes: This silk and cotton minidress feels really special thanks to the voluminous sleeves and pretty buttons down the front. The print is a really romantic nod to English country gardens. We'd style it with chunky gold jewellery and sandals for a contemporary spin.
Style Notes: These floral midi dresses come in both sleeved and sleeveless options, and both pack a punch thanks to the full skirt. Jiang's rose-garden print is perfect for an outdoor reception.
Style Notes: This dress has a unique mirrored botanical print, and the sweeping satin gives the dress a rippling movement. The wide, fluted sleeves and cut-out detail on the back are the perfect finishing touches.
Style Notes: This dress makes me want to be at a wedding reception with a gin and tonic in hand. The slinky cut and halter neckline give this a '90s feel, which blends perfectly with the vibrant green motif.
14 Hair Scarves That Instantly Elevate Any Hairstyle Posted: Wed, 11 May 2022 08:31:46 +0000
At Who What Wear, we love switching up our hairstyle. Whether we're looking for wedding guest hairstyle inspo, or the best claw clip hairstyles to update our look, we're always up to the challenge of finding the chicest ones. Lately, we've been spotting fashion girls switching up their look with hair scarves – and they look so cool.
What makes hair scarves so great is that they are so versatile; there are so many ways to wear them. Whether they're wrapped around the base of a ponytail, weaved into a plait or simply tied around the head, they instantly update even the most basic of outfits, and make your look ten times more expensive. Did we mention they're great for distracting from greasy roots, too?
Below, we've rounded up some of the best hair scarves to add to your hair accessory wardrobe. From budget-friendly high street hair scarves to investment pieces (we all dream of Hermès' silk scarves, after all), let us inspire you to try out some of these hair scarf looks.
A printed scarf looks chic for the beach – especially if it's Chanel.
More of a minimalist? This fits the bill.
H&M do some of the best hair scarves on the hughstreet. This floral one feels luxe.
A classic Liberty print scarf makes for a timeless investment piece that you'll wear again and again.
A statement print in monochrome colours always looks cool. This one from & Other Stories looks way more expensive than it's price tag.
How pretty is this blue Gucci version?
The baroque print makes this scarf timeless.
This bright orange scarf from Burberry has beautiful detailing and would look elegant tied into a bow.
A long, thin hair scarf looks great tied into a bun or ponytail.
A simple print like stripes gives an understated look. Simply tie into a ponytail and go.
This would look so good paired with a neutral outfit or tied onto the handle of your bag.
An Hermes scarf will become a wear forever piece. We love this vintage one.
Worn in a bandana, a hair scarf makes a statement while protecting your lengths.
We're obsessed with the leopard detailing.
This will go with everything.
How cute is this half up, half down hairstyle with a scarf?
This minimalist print ticks all the boxes.
It seems Rochelle Humes has placed a Mango order recently, as the outfit she wore for her latest appearance on This Morning can attest. Of course, Humes is no stranger when it comes to unearthing excellent high-street buys—we’ve chronicled such in a thorough breakdown of her best on-air looks—but her latest discovery might be her most stylish yet.
The TV presenter showcases her outfits every day before she goes live on-air, and her most recent look caught my attention for one very valid reason.
I consult Mango’s new-in section daily, and one of the items that caught my eye on my most recent scroll was a pair of tan high-waist, wide-leg trousers with a sleek front seam. As they are polished and timeless, I instantly found them appealing and began plotting out a handful of items I could wear them with. Imagine my delight, then, when I saw that Humes had already got her hands on the same pair of trousers and was styling them in a very cool way indeed—with a knitted vest from Karen Millen boasting the tangerine hue fashion people love right now.
While they might look like The Row, Humes’s trousers actually hail from the high street—from Mango for £36, no less.
Although her entire outfit impressed me, I want to pull the focus back to her expensive-looking Mango trousers. I love the clean lines and minimal detailing on these strides, which adds to their overall premium-feeling aesthetic. The colourway also gets my stamp of approval, as it presents an alternative to the darker trousers that you likely already have in your wardrobe whilst being just as versatile. Throw in their puddle-pooling length, and this just might be the best pair of tailored trousers to come from the high street this season.
If you love Rochelle Humes’s Mango trousers and Karen Millen top as much as I do, you’ll be pleased to hear that both are still in stock. Scroll on to get a better look at them, then keep going to browse my edit of other stylish wide-leg trousers on the market right now.
The colour of these trousers looks expensive in its own right.
How cool is this knitted vest?
COS has some very strong wide-leg trouser options at the moment.
The Frankie Shop tailoring never fails to impress me.
These trousers come in so many chic colours.
If you can’t get enough of the tangerine trend.
I love the high waistline on these trousers.
The Row’s trousers are beloved by Rosie Huntington-Whiteley.
You can’t go wrong with a classic black pair.
This best-selling COS pair has just had a restock.
Drawstring waists are comfortable and chic in equal measure.
Switch things up with cornflower blue.
Wear this Karen Millen pair just like the model—with a white knitted vest and strappy sandals.
IMO, double pleats make for a more flattering silhouette.
Soft, buttery tones are trending in a big way for summer 2022.
Give navy trousers a fresh overhaul by styling them with lime-green accessories.
The beauty of wide-leg trousers is that they go with practically every shoe type, from heeled mules to trainers.
It can be very easy to fall into a hairstyle rut, particularly if you're rushing around in the mornings and your hair just isn't playing ball. We often spot incredible hairstyles on our feeds, but when it comes to replicating them in real life, they can prove challenging. While they may look easy, they often take an age to do or are so complicated and fiddly that they leave us throwing down our hair tools in a huff.
That being said, it can be handy to have a couple of go-to looks that you can effortlessly default to when your look needs an update. Thankfully, we've spied lots of easy to copy hairstyles (that don't require a hairdressing qualification) on our feeds that you can do in five minutes or less. They're that easy—and they look pretty chic too.
Simply tie your hair into a low pony and tie a bow into your hair with ribbon. Done! Tuck your lengths behind your ears to show off your earrings.
Experiment by matching or clashing your ribbon with your outfit.
It's the age-old question: Hair up or down? This hairstyle lets you have the best of both. We love how Hailey's slicked half-ponytail makes for a great evening look.
This look also works well if you have a fringe. Experiment with wearing the ponytail higher or lower on your head. It can easily be transformed for day or nighttime.
Mix up your usual bun by letting the ends poke out. We love this '90s spiky bun on Charithra Chandran.
No matter your hair length or texture, a hairband elevates your look. These splurgy headbands practically style your hair themselves.
Not just for Blair Waldorf or Clueless' Alicia Silverstone, a plain black headband will always tie your look together.
An instant update to your everyday ponytail. Simply tie your hair up as you usually would and plait three sections of hair together before securing with a hair tie. We love this unexpected half-plaited ponytail.
For a more relaxed daytime take, plait your hair into a low side ponytail.
When in doubt, a bun is always a hairstyle winner. We've even coined it the style of 2022. These tend to hold better on second or third-day hair, so save this style for after your wash day.
Experiment with the placement on your bun to switch it up. We love a bun placed at the nape of the neck. Alternatively, if you want to wear it higher up on your head, follow the line of your cheekbones diagonally to find the most flattering placement.
Curls and coils look chic piled on top of the crown.
Switch it up by leaving a couple of tendrils to frame your face.
If you're yet to join in on the claw-clip hairstyles, now is the time. Perfect for throwing hair up, they can give something extra to a messy bun.
If your hair is thick or long, opt for a larger claw clip that will hold your hair in place more easily.
Upgrade your ponytail by adding some curls or waves to the lengths. We love how Charithra's ponytail sits high up on the crown before cascading down.
This looks equally stylish when tied lower at the nape of the neck.
Perfect for warmer weather when you might want your hair out of your face, a topknot style is practical and stylish, especially paired with an off-the-shoulder top.
Changing your hairstyle can sometimes be as simple as changing up your parting. If you usually wear a middle parting, why not flip it to one side? To find the best parting, follow the highest point of your eyebrow up towards your hairline—that is the most flattering place to part your hair.
Try adding clips to your hairstyle to instantly refresh your look. We love Nay's start-studded coils.
For days when not even dry shampoo can save you, a hair scarf always adds glamour to your look whether your have a short hairstyle or longer lengths.
A good hair oil keeps curls hydrated and bouncy while adding lustre to lengths.
Keep slick buns in check with a hair pomade, as it will lock down any flyaways or edges.
A flexible hairspray will give your style longevity but can easily be brushed out for second-day style switch-ups.
Silk hair ties are gentler on hair, helping to prevent damage.
A paddle brush will be your trusty go-to for detangling hair before styling.
Summer is just around the corner. I can almost smell the sweet scent of tropical sunscreen, salty ocean water and watermelon in the air. And aside from a much-needed holiday, I have one thing on my mind: summer clothes. With lots on the calendar this warm-weather season, I'm dreaming up all the chic and easy ensembles that will carry me through the sweltering season in style. I've already been saving plenty of outfit ideas on Instagram that I fully plan to copy and paste on myself.
If you're looking for uncomplicated outfits that don't take too long to put together but exude an effortlessly chic aesthetic, then this one's for you. Below, you'll find ensembles featuring elevated staples and trend-forward items, and several of these outfits require only two to three pieces that can take you from day to night in style. Keep scrolling to get sartorially inspired for summer and shop the looks.
For an evening summer look, a silky top and chic relaxed trousers are a match made in heaven. Keep your accessories polished and go for black slides and a sleek crossbody bag.
This champagne shade was made to evenings out.
The puddling effect is perfect.
These look really expensive.
This black cross-body bag will go with so many outfits.
A breezy linen shirt and shorts in neutral hues are perfect for keeping cool and looking effortlessly stylish. A raffia tote and cushy thong sandals are the perfect accessories to finish your look.
Wear open over swimwear or buttoned up with jeans.
Lightweight linen is a summer must-have.
A versatile shoe that can be styled with slick tailoring or beachwear.
This is sure to carry all your necessities - be it towels, books and sunscreen or travel mugs and a laptop.
I love the contrast of a polished vest styled with colourful, silky pants for the perfect casual-chic summer look. Finish with modern flatforms.
Also style with jeans.
This blue is heavenly.
Ultimate Y2K vibes.
What's easier than a matching skirt set? Opt for one in a pretty fabric such as pointelle or crochet—the ideal no-brainer summer look.
This co-ordinating set is easy to throw on and go.
A white tank is a summer staple. Give it a fashion-person touch by pairing it with relaxed trousers pinched at the waist with a belt and an oversized button-down.
A base piece for so many outfits.
Just as stylish with heels or sandals.
H&M always has great basics.
Also look great with skirts.
White shirts are so versatile.
Uncomplicated doesn't need to be boring. Summer is the perfect opportunity to try a vibrant hue. Opt for this season's trending orange.
This organic cotton shirt is a bold piece.
What's not to like?
An architectural marvel.
A white dress is a summer essential. Go for a lightweight maxi length paired with minimalist slides. Easy and effortless.
Cut-outs are a summer favourite.
A high-street hero.
For a summer night out, a sleek strapless black dress is as chic as it gets and leans into this season's trending '90s vibe. Add a fashion-forward touch and style with a gold chain belt.
When styling this dress it's all about the accessories.
This will look great over shirts too.
A tube top and high-waisted maxi skirt within the same colour scheme exude an effortless elegance. Add a simple bucket hat and colourful sandals for one chic summer ensemble.
Autumnal tones work just as well in summer.
Lightweight and loose are the perfect summer combination.
We think we'll be seeing a lot more from this cool South Korean brand.
For shade on sunny days.
Sometimes, the simplest outfits can be the most striking. Case in point? A white tank paired with a silky midi skirt. It's understated yet luxurious.
Low key with jeans or elevated with tailored trousers.
Love the subtle texture.
Harris Reed is undoubtedly one of the most exciting designers working in the industry right now, who at only 25 years old has already made a powerful mark. He doesn’t simply make clothes, but uses his designs and platform to spark conversation, fight for inclusivity and champion gender fluidity. Harris only founded his eponymous label three years ago but his aesthetic is firmly established. He mixes aristocratic references with '70s silhouettes, the grittiness of London nightlife and a glam rock spirit, making a theatrical look which he describes as ‘Romanticism Gone Nonbinary.’ Each collection includes gigantic hats, gowns made from deadstock fabrics and exaggerated flares—signatures which have made his show the hottest ticket during London Fashion Week.
Harry Styles was an early supporter, wearing a tailored suit with a hoop-skirt in tulle and satin on his cover of American Vogue in November 2020. “To wear Harris’s clothes is to be having fun,” Styles told the New Yorker. “Every frill is there to be played with, and an overwhelming sense of freedom shall rain down upon you.” This sense of release is at the core of everything Harris does, as he says the performance of dressing up is as important to him as the design process. Having created his label before even finishing his studies at Central Saint Martins, and side-stepping the traditional production model to only focus on made-to-order, Reed is a shining example to young designers of how to do things differently.
It is natural then that he has quickly turned to mentorship, joining forces with Klarna to launch a competition for young talent to represent a gender fluid world through a sustainable lens. Reed is the perfect mentor as alongside his dedication to demi-couture he also understands the importance of commercial partnerships and how they can amplify your brand to become a global powerhouse—he's worked with MAC Cosmetics and Missoma on collaborations, to name a few. In addition, his knowledge of social media, engaging an audience and looking for multiple offshoot opportunities to expand his business cement him as quite the modern polymath. "It’s funny but I wear a lot of hats for someone who makes hats!" jokes Reed, and he's not wrong.
I spoke with Reed about the power of mentorship, how he found his aesthetic and the biggest misconceptions about gender fluid fashion.
A look from Harris Reed's February 2022 collection, Sixty Years a Queen
You’ve had such an amazing few years—what has been the milestone moment for you so far?
You asked for one but I’ll give you three! One of the biggest things for me was being featured in the New Yorker—it felt like such a milestone moment. In terms of my design career, there have been a lot of extraordinary moments. Working with Adele on her music video and flying to LA—she was the funniest person I’ve ever met. So it was quite surreal. My last show creatively was a big turning moment, because it was my first show after the start of the pandemic where we could be collaborative in the physical aspects, and we worked with Sam Smith [who performed during the presentation] and insane milliners. I remember sitting backstage watching it happen and the insane front row and it felt extremely surreal. It felt like a ‘knock-on-wood, it’s only up from here’ feeling. Someone in my team put their hand on my shoulder and I broke down sobbing, like we’ve done this. Two years of the pandemic and doing it with one model, a skeleton crew, working from a hotel room, dyeing fabric in a bathtub—to be able to work in a free space and have the collaboration being so physical, it was just so emotional.
How was Adele to work with?
She’s so amazing to work with. Jamie, her stylist, I met years ago in Los Angeles and she said ‘I’m going to keep my eyes on you.’ She came to me and said she’s doing a new chapter of Adele, and said she needs some fluid fabulousness. I wanted to bring my identity with Adele, who has such a specific style, it’s very Audrey Hepburn and gorgeous. It was such a pleasure to mix my style DNA with hers. Those are the collaborations I love. It’s like working with Harry Styles—the moments with people that are tactile and hands on and to be in a space when you’re learning from someone is so special. Instead of going through PRs and managers and agents, but dealing with someone who has a vision and really believes in the work too. You learn from those really collaborative moments, and Adele was just fabulous!
Is there anything left on your bucket list that you really want to achieve?
The Oscars is still my one red carpet I’m yet to hit with a major moment. I’m hoping the next Oscars I can. As a young designer I’m excited to see people taking more risks. As people always wear designers they have contracts with, so you see everyone wearing the same thing, and I’m excited for the people pushing the envelope whether it’s Adele, Harry Styles or Selena Gomez, they are taking a risk. Stylists are seeing the pay off. I’m excited for the designers I sit with. It’s very exciting to see those new designers hitting the red carpet, and we need to see that change. It’s like come on show me a bit of a mix!
I also really want to direct a film. My father has been in film his whole life and he won an Oscar a few years ago for an incredible documentary, and I watched that process and it reminds me of the story telling in my own collections. For me, I would love to do something directing or costume wise. Baz Luhrmann if you’re listening! It’s a mix between Jean Paul Gautier the Fifth Element costume design or me doing a Tom Ford Nocturnal Animals. Maybe taking a year to do an indie film with someone fabulous!
How do you approach collaborations?
"It’s such an easy thing. I couldn’t be doing what I’m doing without these collaborations, so whether it’s a Klarna or a Missoma, and the things I have in the hat waiting to pull out. I go about it from a very gut feeling—I’m unapologetically who I am, and fighting for fluidity, and if it meshes well then it meshes well. I have been lucky that things have always arrived at the right timing. Klarna, I wanted to do something within the mentoring space in a way that felt authentic and that could be very achievable and make an impact. It’s when there is a synergy and a common excitement. I am 25 and I do want to do things that excite me, and I have the big business brain, and I couldn’t be 25 making a company through a global pandemic making big hats and gowns that are fluid without having a business brain. It’s a gut intuition."
Harris Reed at the Met Gala with Iman
What will you be looking for when it comes for talent in the Klarna competition?
We are looking for the next team for the September collection at the moment, and I just love looking through people’s work and so for me, I love to see excitement and innovation. I like when people look at something through a lens. My advice I always give to people is ‘Look at something from a personal lens. Don’t do what you think people want you to do, or do something because it’s trendy or cool or in right now.' Whether it’s your culture or your sexuality or your background, I love looking at people’s work when it’s tailored to who they are and how they see the future. I think that’s always amazing. I have at times been like ‘Who is your market, who is your person?’ and that just makes it not me any more and the more I did that I lost who I was. The minute I was like ‘I’m doing gender fluid and myself’ is when global retail partners started happening because it was real to who I was. When I’m looking at these Klarna applications, it’s people who are looking at life through their personal lens that will stand out. Sustainability is also really important to me. My last collection was all upcycled upholstery fabrics, so I always look out for the sustainability aspect too.
There are certain signatures that are very Harris Reed—how did you find those signatures?
The first outfit I ever made was the pink look, and at a time when I was going by they/them and I didn’t see any representation of myself out there. Brands like Gucci were starting to touch on it but I didn’t have money for Gucci. I made something that was authentic to myself and my body. I was looking at the 70s and regal realness and the 17th century and these princes—for me it was a Queer mash up, and it was camp fabulous and over the top. I made that look that became the staple of everything I did after, and it was just because I needed something for a night out and had two hours to make something! It’s like that flare that I did for Harry’s tour and the blouse that I did to everyone from Solange Knowles to Adele, and it became the staple. The first thing I ever made at Central Saint Martins was a giant white hat, that ended up being shot on Solange Knowles. That hat kept being a staple and I’ve continued to play with the circle, and how it looks on the head and the face. It’s the flair, the blouse and the hat for me. People always know me for platforms, because I’m 6 foot 4 and always wear at least a four inch heel. So I’m always close to 7 foot. Flares are fun and look amazing on different body types, whether it’s Lizzo who is curvaceous and fabulous or Harry Styles who is slightly shorter and a different build. Flares have a universal way of looking amazing. Musicians want the idea of movement and physical fluidity on their body and so it’s always felt very true to the brand.
Looks from Harris Reed's September 2021 and February 2022 collections
When the Harry Styles moment happened, we weren’t seeing gender fluidity from other places—how do you think it’s moved forward since then and what still needs to be done to be more inclusive?
There has been a lot of amazing strides, whether looking at casting and using non-binary, trans models and more queer representations, or brands going into more “feminine” silhouettes as society would deem them on “men”. There is still a lot to be done. I think there is a larger conversation, and a lot of people moving to fashion being more fluid is a lot for commercial reasons. I hope I’m being successful because it’s something I really believe in and there’s a lot of transparency there. When it works, with a brand like Alessandro Michele at Gucci, it’s just part of his life to highlight his “weirdos”. I love that he says that because it’s us all being that weird kid and claiming that word for yourself. But when a brand does a unisex fluid range that is grey sweatshirt and hoodies—that just isn’t it. I’m quite excited for the next batch of creative directors who will switch it up and how people will implement their own ethos into major houses—that’s how you will get pure change. When people don’t have a connection to fluid fashion and are making decision, it doesn’t really work.
What do you think are the biggest misconceptions about gender fluid fashion?
People are always like ‘I love it, it’s so free, and fun’ — and then put it on a white cis male the whole time. That’s not really fluid. They get it from a design perspective, making it more universal and different body types, but from an ecommerce perspective or advertising perspective it falls back to being the same choice models with a lack of diversity. The 360 is when people go wrong with it. It’s about having that perspective across models, designs, sizing and everything you do.
A look from Harris Reed's February 2022 collection, Sixty Years a Queen
What is it about upcycling that really speaks to you?
Going to Central Saint Martins for five years it was really about how do you challenge yourself and sustainability was one of the main topics. From early on I knew my ethos was fluidity and then I thought what can I do that reflects what goes on in the world as well. For me I wanted to reuse fabric to feel ultra luxe—so it pushed me to find dead stock lace and amazing upholstery silks. I love a challenge and I like when there is a constraint because you get much better designs. If you have a full budget you can get a bit lazy. Everyone’s favourite look last season was the full yellow look—and that was one I designed with a massive gown on the bottom and we didn’t have enough fabric for the bottom, and I was so upset. Buying more yellow silk would defeat the purpose of it being made completely from dead stock and made into something new. We made it into trousers and a more tapered waistcoat and a larger blouse, and it ended up being everyone’s favourite. Through the challenges you get something much more beautiful.
Setting up a business is such a huge undertaking—what have you learned in this process?
When you go to fashion school, you’re not taught how to do an invoice. You leave school with big ambitions and you learn along the way. I have had collaborators and mentors who have been able to give me guidance. I’ve had to lean on my community to get where I am, it’s now been three years and we are turning a profit each year, I’m hiring a new person, I’m privately owned. I’ve been fundingit through projects to keep building everything up. It’s been about having amazing mentors. In 2022 I always say ‘does a fashion brand even make clothing any more?’—that’s joking, but I want to do made to measure because it allows me to be fully gender fluid because each body can be fitted correctly. If we’re doing a partnership, that needs to be clever and beautiful, and align with the brand, but bring in capital so we can go into our next collection. It’s funny but I wear a lot of hats for someone who makes hats!
Harris Reed's September 2021 collection, Found
How does London influence your style?
London to me is everything. I’ve now been here almost 8 years, but can’t imagine being anywhere else. There’s a grit and a rawness. I remember first being here and being in this incredible scene of drag, and it’s such a melting pot. If I go back to LA where I’m from I’d be clutching at straws to find the inspiration, whereas here, going to the V&A or a rave in a forest, there’s so much inspiration everywhere and it fuels what I do and my brand.
Have you always expressed yourself through clothes growing up?
I’m really gross and say ‘I didn’t chose fashion, fashion chose me!’ I was very “flamboyant” from a young age and was very labelled as a child. Through what I wore I reclaimed who I was and my identity. I enjoy dressing up and the art and performance of dressing up, even more than the design process. I think that’s why I really enjoyed interning at Gucci in Rome, because it was all so informed from vintage and history and was very tactile in that sense. For me fashion was how I reclaimed who I was and my authentic self.
Where do you shop for yourself when you're not wearing your brand?
I am obsessed with Retro Woman in Notting Hill. It’s where I get the majority of things—in the basement you get Prada trousers for £20. I love Dover Street Market, and rarely buy things, but I love the amazing edit of what is beautiful. I love a department store and to watch what people are touching, buying, and looking at. I am very obsessed with the experience of shopping. Ladbroke Market I’m obsessed with too. My favourite brands are Haider Ackermann and Ann Demeulemeester.
Emma Watson wearing a Harris Reed look made from Oxfam wedding dresses, styled with jewellery from his collection with Missoma
I can’t imagine how many messages you get on Instagram all the time—how do you switch off?
I have a really good partner who makes me hide my phone when I get into the house. I’m very fortunate that I have a reach to people. If you want someone who is fighting for something and has a meaning then I’m that person. I’ll have thousands of messages from people saying they came out or they didn’t know you could have a career in the arts—it always makes me cry. I get messages from people all over the world. I know what it’s like to be that young queer person and the only queer representation I saw was Kurt Hummel on Glee and that was so far from me. I want to be any kind of guidance or mentor to people, so switching off is turning my phone off and in my kitchen drawer, and not jump on Instagram, Whatsapp and email. I can’t be available to everyone all the time because then I’m not the best version of myself to create something new or say something or go do a talk. I’m 25 so I’m learning the balance of when to say no and to respect my own time. That is why I’m excited by this Klarna competition because it gives people solid time and support from me. Any mistakes you can share also really help people learn, so sharing vulnerability too can really help someone grow.
Click here to learn more about Harris Reed's competition with Klarna and the mentoring support the winner will receive.These 5 Hair Colours Will Be Most Requested In Salons This Summer Posted: Mon, 09 May 2022 05:37:33 +0000
Looking at the weather forecast, it looks like summer has finally arrived. As we plan our summer wardrobes and holidays, it's only natural to want to switch up our look, and even go for a shorter look. There's something about summertime that always encourages us to switch up our hair colour too. Whether we opt for a few sun kissed slices of colour through our lengths, or experiment with an entire new hue, there's an optimistic mood as the days become longer and the sun (hopefully) shines. And hair colourists are seeing appointments book up as we plan our hair colour for the summer.
"Whatever colour you go for it’s important to protect your hair from damage," says Paul Percival, founder of Percy & Reed. He recommends using a regular mask to keep your hair – and colour – in top condition.
If you're looking for some summer hair colour inspiration, then look no further. We spoke to some of the top salons and hair colourists to find out exactly what hair colours are going to be big news for 2022. Prepared to be inspired and get your hair colourist on speed-dial.
"Copper and auburn tones were a trend last year and will be huge again. These strong colours are a nice base for lighter pieces of freehand colour, which can personalise and bring out your style and cut," says Paul. Neville Hair & Beauty colourist, Domenico Casella, is also seeing a resurgence of the hue. So much so, the 'Classic Renaissance' colour has become a permanent fixture on the salons colour menu, and uses henna to create the luxurious colour.
Copper colour made bespoke. Ask your hair colourist to add multi-dimensional tones to your lengths to add depth.
Summer is the time to experiment with bold hues, and Winnie shows us how it's done with this bright red.
A regular mask helps to keep that salon-fresh shine to your hair colour.
Ash blonde goes expensive for summer 2022. Think creamy, ash blonde with an expensive looking finish. "Ash blonde will be a key colour partly because in recent years so many people have tried to do their own colour and experienced breakage and damage when they lift it," says Paul. "An ash blonde tone lightens the hair without lifting it to the point of damage. It will always look expensive and can really bring out a cut or hair style with framing round the face or lighter tones underneath," he says.
Susana Cabral, junior colourist at Neville Hair and Beauty agrees that this hue will be popular this summer. "Ash tones create a smooth visual aesthetic for the client and are easily worn," says Susana. "Ash tones compliment both light and dark bases, making it increasingly diverse for everyone."
Blonde in summer is always a winner, as demonstrated on Cass Dimico.
Keep blonde looking expensive by using a heat protecting spray on your hair – your colour will last much longer.
Expensive looking brunette has been trending for 2022, and it's showing no signs of stopping for summer. "Luxury Brunette will continue to be big this summer." says Seniz Alkan, Colour Artistic Director at Neville Hair & Beauty. "This is a colour that cannot be achieved through at-home box colour due to the multitude of deep luscious layers that are placed throughout the hair," she says. "The hair colour shimmers and glimmers in natural light, the end result is multi dimensional with luxury depth."
Lighter colours shine on top of a dark space and give natural brunettes a summer update.
Multi-dimensional colours bounce light from the hair, giving an expensive-looking gloss.
Keep brunette tones looking shine with this colour-depositing mask. It will keep hair in good condition between salon visits.
Not sure what hair colour to go for? Having a consultation with your hair colourist can give you guidance. Your colourist will be able to give you direction on what suits you, from colour to placement, to best bring out your features and suit your style.
Colour placement around the face can frame your features.
"Using a delicate touch to slice sections just below the crown, I divide the hair in two before applying the colour of the client's choice," says Saniz. "By using this colour technique, I can create a pop of vivid colour underneath which blends beautifully with the natural colour which overlaps it."
Summer weather isn't always kind to your hair colour. UV rays can fade and distort it, so use products with a UV filter to help counter the effects.
If you're feeling experimental for summer, then you'll be pleased to hear that punk-inspired, bold hair colour is trending. "Punk hair is back with fun, bold colours seen on many celebs right now," says Paul. "Bright colours will bring you out of your comfort zone but it’s great to be adventurous with a vivid tones and summer is a great time for this."
Want to dip your toe in the trend? "Contrast colour is also still huge," says Paul. "Putting a dark tone underneath and lighter on top works particularly well on bobs mid lengths because it makes the hair look thicker," he says.
Vivid colours can take their toll on damaged hair, so a regular treatment will keep hair healthy-looking.
As someone who can be a bit lazy (or a lot lazy) when it comes to styling my hair, a go-to move that I like to employ sometimes is adding a statement-making headband and calling it a day. There's little to no styling involved, and I'm pretty much guaranteed at least a compliment or two. A headband can really pull your whole look together—both makeup- and outfit-wise.
The great thing about hair accessories like headbands is that they can be pretty affordable, too. There are some great options to be found that are under £20. But if you really want to take things up a notch and are serious about this accessory, why not splurge on a designer one?
Okay, yes, it is easy to balk at paying £100 or more for a headband, but if you really want to go all in on this hair accessory, it might be worth the investment for you. Keep cost per wear in mind. Plus, with proper care, these designer accessories will last you a long time. And just think: You'll automatically look put-together every time you don it—no hot tools or intricate styling skills required.
Intrigued? Take a look at some options below.
It doesn't get more classic than this braided headband from Sophie Buhai. This style will be a timeless piece in your collection.
A velvet bow always looks chic. Wear in the warmer months to elevate a summer dress or wear with your favourite blazer come winter.
Studs and leather? This headband is the best balance between something that's both traditional and more modern.
This straw headband from Gigi Burris is so perfect for summer holidays.
This satin headband will look so pretty on a lot of different hairstyles—wear your hair down, in a sleek bun, or maybe even in a messy updo. It's a great accessory to accompany your wedding guest hairstyles, too.
With a slimline frame and glittering crystals, this headband will elevate your outfit for any occasion.
The classic bow headband gets an updated twist here. The pink and white stripes add interest to your outfit.
A leather headband adds instant luxe.
This silk-satin headband won't tug on hair and looks just as chic on the beach as it does for evening.
A tortoiseshell design always looks classic. This headband has internal combs to keep the hair and any flyaways in place.
The layered velvet bows and crystal embellishments on this headband already make a big statement, so you really don't have to do anything hairstyling-wise.
For something a little more flashy and glam, don this sleek gold-plated headband that's embossed with Balmain's logo. The interior has nubuck lining to keep your hair in place.
The pretty jewelled gold-wire frame give this headband a romantic and vintage-inspired touch.
With the knotted top in the shape of a rose, this is the definition of a statement-making headpiece.
This hair scarf is the ultimate accessory and helps to protect your lengths too.
Add some sparkle to your hairstyle with this embellished hair clip. It also features the double-G logo.
Brides to be, meet the perfect match to your dress. This feathered hair accessory is inspired by Grecian wreaths and, as the designer puts it, "a crown for any goddess at her wedding."
Elevate your ponytail with this sleek gold leather hairpin.
With summer nearly upon us and summer holidays on my mind, I've been thinking a lot about what fashion will look like for the season ahead and the items that will end up in my suitcase. Looking to the fashion set, there are already a number of trends that have momentum behind them. Pieces like sporty sunglasses, which may have seemed niche last season, are already taking over but are truly primed to have an even bigger moment this summer.
I've also been studying the runways and predict there are trends from both the spring/summer 2022 and fall/winter 2022 that will be in the spotlight this summer. Immediately, the white logo tank from Prada's fall collection comes to mind. While that particular piece may not be dropping until fall, there are cool versions on the market right now from brands such as Fendi and Marine Serre if you want to be an early adopter of the trend. Ahead, I'm diving into more summer fashion trends that everyone will wear in 2022.
Thanks to Prada, white logo tanks are about to be the latest It item.
Fashion insiders are already getting an early start on the trend.
This piece is sitting at the top of my shopping list.
Cool and comfortable.
Style this with slouchy jeans.
Designers made a huge case for sporty sunglasses on the runways.
Fashion insiders have already embraced the trend, but it will only get bigger as we move into summer.
It doesn't get cooler.
I'm here for this colorway.
Chanel brought back '90s-inspired swimwear on its S/S 22 runway, and it made a huge impact.
Expect to see throwback swimsuits everywhere this summer.
The swimsuit that everyone is talking about.
Good American has the perfect '90s silhouette.
These high-rise bikini bottoms really tap into the throwback silhouette.
The big-bag trend continues to get reinvented each season. The latest take? Big shopper bags—a silhouette that is much more wearable than the XXL bags from previous collections.
Zoë Kravitz has already embraced the trend, wearing the just-dropped Icare Maxi Shopper Bag from Saint Laurent.
Get ready to see this Saint Laurent bag everywhere.
Perfect if you're on the go.
The Chanel 22 bag is about to take over.
While knee-high boots might seem like an unexpected trend for summer, get ready to see them everywhere. In particular, Balenciaga's Cagole Boots are already proving to be in huge demand.
How to wear knee-high boots for summer? With bare legs and micro hemlines.
Cooler than cool.
A true classic.
Pair these with a miniskirt.
Barely-there pieces with cutouts, gauzy fabrics, and floss straps are one of the defining trends this year that will continue into summer thanks in part to Nensi Dojaka, who has mastered the aesthetic.
It doesn't get more summer 2022 than "naked" fashion pieces.
How stunning is this colour?
To wear alone as a swimsuit or paired with low-rise pants.
Style this under a blazer.
Growing up I took to thrifting as an Olympic sport, prying re-sale sites and rails of vintage and charity shops, for inspired one-off pieces. As I journeyed further into conscious shopping (and technology caught up), I discovered an array of labels beyond the high street names I was accustomed to and became enamoured with independent brands. I have gradually built up a mental directory of designers and artisans with sustainability at the core of their brand philosophy.
Chances are if we’ve talked fashion IRL, I’m chatting away about a small brand I recently discovered, marvelling at their artistry and attention to detail (it’s one of my favourite things to talk about). This year, in particular, I’ve added discovered more independent brands than ever before. They’re fast becoming my worst kept secrets and for good reason.
With made-to-measure models, scrupulous methods and designers boasting fashion expertise, it’s a refreshing approach to shopping that should be celebrated, as an exhilarating foray into mindful consumerism. The pre-loved, small brand market has become an antidote to overconsumption, as it encourages a mindful-led approach. With the emergence of fresh talent and the typical shopper becoming increasingly discerning about where to part with their hard-earned cash, there’s been a rise in the popularity of independent brands over the last few years.
If you’re wanting to shop small and don’t quite know where to start, or simply want to add some new names to your roster, here are some lesser-known brands I think deserve to be on your radar in 2022.
Behind Sunshine Living is a one-woman production. British designer Sakara sources fabrics, hand designs, darns, and packages all pieces in her quaint home studio. Her collection is intimate, which reflects her brand philosophy—long-standing, wardrobe staples that can be effortlessly interchanged. You’ll find pieces from the classic white shirt (with coconut shell buttons) to linen totes and wide-leg culottes, made from organic cotton. You needn’t worry if you’re tall, petite, or in-between sizes, as she also offers bespoke customisation. The Lovina trousers have become part of my everyday WFH uniform and fit just right. Recently introduced is the bamboo slip dress which looks soft to the touch.
Mariona and Hannah debuted their SS22 collection at Paris Fashion Week earlier this year. Their ethos is simple and reflects their namesake—timeless, minimalist staples with sharp tailoring and made-to-measure pieces. Their mindful approach extends to their business model, in which they have small production runs on a limited basis, to avoid waste. They also offer a take-back scheme to encourage circularity, when your garment has come to the end of its life. Black to Grey reflects the modern Scandi aesthetic and draws inspiration from nature, spanning from geology to cosmology. Look out for bold injections of colour, if you’re wanting to level up the bones of your wardrobe for something a little more striking.
You may have seen Three Graces make their way onto luxury retailer sites and it’s no surprise that buyers are gravitating toward their offerings. Catherine Johnson’s UK based brand boasts conscientious styles that I can guarantee will remain in your wardrobe for years to come. Although their USP pertains to warm-weather dressing, their polished, classic silhouettes and wrap styles are also appropriate for formal occasions. This season’s collection is playful with a slight nod to SS22 trends, featuring asymmetric styles and exposed back detailing, yet it’s still in keeping with the brand ethos. You may know that dresses are my kryptonite, but two pieces are a close second and the Benjamin skirt and top duo have piqued my interest.
This B Corp certified brand is founded by designer and sustainability advocate, Lora Nikolaeva. In addition to overseeing the production and manufacturing process of Lora Gene, Lora educates her customers on how best to make informed decisions and the nuance of textiles and fabrics. The latest collection is centred around the expression of womanhood and includes pieces that will transcend throughout the seasons. From timeless trench coats, to slip dresses (in naturally dyed fabrics, no less), there’s something for everyone and best of all, it’s made to last. The brand honours the importance of inclusivity, with most styles ranging from a UK 8 – 28, with the added benefit of custom sizing.
Sustainability is at the forefront of Lily Rose Dambelli's brand. The entire collection is made from deadstock, recycled and organic materials, and there’s an expert level of diligence about the entire garment composition, from fastenings to threads. The limited collection encapsulates ease of comfort, paired with gilded opulence, through the use of rich tones of bronze, terracotta, cream and black. Their pieces wouldn’t look out of place at formal or casual events, as their offerings teeter between whimsical summer dressing, to occasion appropriate attire. Think Great Gatsby but 2022. I’m particularly impressed by the innovation of the Annabel dress. It’s a classic tier style midi with shirring, made from 100% Naia™- an OEKO-TEX certified, regenerated cellulose fibre. It’s also a convertible design, meaning the dress can also be worn as a top and skirt. Absolute genius if you’re wanting your wardrobe to work even harder!
Jamaican native Rachel Scott founded Diotima in her hometown, Kingston. The collection comprises artisanal ready-to-wear pieces that ooze exuberance. At the heart, is the implicit homage to Scott’s roots, portrayed through handcrafted techniques and nods to Dancehall and Carnival, both of which are synonymous with Jamaican culture. The emphasis is on crochet weaves and tailored pieces with a twist, with enhanced shaping and tawny shades.
If like me, you’re taken with all things Parisian, you’ll be pleased to know that style maven Sabina Socol has taken a foray into fashion design, with the release of her very own label, Pujka. Pujka reflects the highly sought-after Parisian aesthetic, from a woman who embodies the soul and spirit of Paris. You’ll find classic micro floral print, slim-line fits, wrap and midi dresses, with saccharine pops of colour. The brand is still in its infancy and released an extended collection just last month. The standout piece has to be the green ensemble. It's reminiscent of the iconic Gwyneth Paltrow look from Great Expectations.
A brand that breathes new lease of life into deadstock is always magic in my eyes. Realms London's visuals conjure imagery of folklore and wanderment. Their pieces carry an air of fantasy into the real world. You'll most likely agree that their dresses, in rose and lavender hues were made for frolicking in tufty fields and romance. To add to the intimate sentiment each piece is made to order, just for you.
Frankie Shop knows a thing or two about creating a cult wardrobe item. The brand, born in New York’s Lower East Side in 2014 by a Parisian founder (a power combo of cool to say the least), pretty much went viral from day one with its minimalist yet confident aesthetic that fashion people to this day can’t get enough of. From the ubiquitous quilted jacket that’s become a firm capsule staple to the instantly recognisable slouchy tailoring, we’ve come to expect great things from Frankie Shop with each new season. For some brands that pressure could be a curse, but not this one— the pieces just keep getting better and better without fail.
How cute does Emili look in the purple version.
Maybe it’s because they tend to focus on perfecting a few hero items that are made to last rather than releasing extensive short-term collections; it could be because they seem to be able to read into what we all truly want to wear. Either way, the latest capsule wardrobe piece the brand have put their perfectly oversized stamp on is the humble bomber jacket— and of course, it doesn’t disappoint. Released in four colours (for now), the Astra shell jacket is the modern twist on a classic we didn’t even know we needed. And since the bomber is set to be huge news again for autumn/winter 2022 and beyond, we’re predicting a sellout soon enough.
Of course, it didn’t take long for fashion’s coolest people to jump on it, and we’ve already seen a handful of the most stylish influencers sporting their Astra bombers. Luckily, it's just landed in a few colours on Net-a-Porter and in black at Selfridges, so if you’ve been searching for that perfect spring jacket to take with you into autumn as well— look no further. Keep scrolling to see how influencers have been styling theirs so far, and then shop the bomber (and more of our favourite Frankie Shop picks) below...
Hannah makes her khaki style work for the warmer months with a bandeau and high waisted trousers at fashion week.
Emili loves it so much she has it in green too.
Karina wore the new black style in her Instagram stories recently,
Linda is always a fan of an elevated basic.
While I love a statement lipstick shade, there is a certain about of beauty admin that comes with maintaining a bright red lip (I'm that girl with the lipstick on her teeth, always). Lipstick usually parches my lips too, so I'm always on the lookout for hydrating formulas that won't dry them out. As someone who is never more than two feet away from her lip balm, I sometimes yearn for something a bit more luxe to apply, but won't dry out my lips. Enter lip oils.
With the hydration of a lip balm and the shine of a gloss, these are the perfect hybrid for achieving a glossy look, without the stickiness or upkeep of a lipstick. Whether you want a tint of colour or a clear oil to add shine to your natural lip colour, so many great lip oils have been cropping up of late. Here are some of the best ones to try...
With the colour of a lip balm and the shine of a gloss, this really nourishes lips while offering a subtle wash of colour. This comes in five shades from sheer pink to bright coral and you'll feel so chic pulling this out of your handbag.
With a non-sticky formula and eight shades to choose from, this is a favourite among many. We have our eyes peeled on this jammy plum hue for summer.
Prefer a clear lip oil? This non-tinted formula is packed with nourishing ingredients to keep lips soft.
If you want a more opaque formula in your lip oil, Westman Atelier's deliver. With six shades from muted pink to burgundy and fuchsia, there's a colour for everyone.
Hourglass' Icon lip oil is a true blue-toned red, which makes teeth look brighter. Note the 24-karat gold applicator applicator which makes applying this so luxurious.
If you're lips are in dire need to hydration, this tinted oil will come to rescue chapped lips. As the name aptly suggests, it's like a retreat for compromised lips, helping to hydrate while giving a sheer beige wash of colour to the lips.
This silky formula comes in three shades but the fig shade is the perfect muted berry hue. This glides over lips to condition any dry patches.
Want a lip oil with shimmer? Nars' laguna lip oil has just the right amount of bronze shimmer that glows as it hydrates.
There’s a lot to be joyful about this year. Many of us (myself included) will embark on our first abroad holiday in two years, weddings can resume without official restrictions, and gatherings can be held, well, just for the absolute fun of it. Throw in a milestone Jubilee the whole country will be celebrating, and this summer is effectively going to be one gloriously overdue party. Now, this is Who What Wear, so naturally, the question turns to, what are you going to wear? Might I suggest embracing the euphoria by styling yourself in one (or more) of the dopamine colours that are so prevalent in the new collections.
The summer 2022 runways looked as if a confetti cannon had gone off, as shades of pink, lilac, and yellow fluttered their way into the hearts of everyone in attendance. That’s not to say that there weren’t pieces to appease those with muted palettes, but the resounding aesthetic from SS22 was celebratory, and the most defiant colour trends reflected that. The blush shades from previous seasons transformed into Hubba-Bubba bubblegum. At the same time, more vibrant tones, such as Amalfi tangerine and garden-pea green were presented in a slew of grown-up silhouettes, taking them to high-end territory.
Indeed, this kaleidoscope of colour was seen everywhere, from New York to Paris—and now, they're lighting up our social media feeds, as influencers have begun to embrace them as we hurtle towards summer. But which summer 2022 fashion colours are truly taking off? We hardly had to deliberate over the six big winners.
Ahead, feast your eyes on the rainbow of shades that’ll make your wardrobe a more joyful place this summer.
Style Notes: You can thank Bottega Veneta for putting green—specifically Kelly green—back on the fashion map a few seasons ago but, now, we’re beginning to see a shift towards slightly softer shades of green coming through. Emilia Wickstead channelled the shade through dresses, while L’Agence took the suited approach.
Our columnist Monikh owns this jacket, and it looks so chic.
Bright tailored trousers are going to be a big hit for summer.
Just add jeans.
Draping and an on-trend colour? This dress will fly.
Bright shirts are very much a thing this season.
Style Notes: It’s no secret that fashion people are into orange in a big way right now, but what I find most intriguing is how it has also been adopted by minimalist dressers. I put this down to the punchy tone requiring next to no styling, for it’s already enough of a statement on its own. Take cues from Hanifa and invest in a bright orange dress to set yourself apart from the rest at any summer soirée you attend.
I love the combination of a square neckline and a full skirt.
I’d be tempted to invest in the matching top also.
Commit the name to memory—D’Accori shoes are going to be everywhere this summer.
See what I mean about bright tailored trousers?
So many of our editors want this Frankie Shop shirt.
Style Notes: Although I’m a big fan of the orange shade we’ve just spoken about, I have to agree with Elle Woods when she said “whoever said orange is the new pink was seriously disturbed”. Orange might indeed be fabulous, but pink has proven themselves perennial, not just on the runway, but in our wardrobes. For 2022, embrace bubblegum, Barbie-inspired hues, the sort seen at PatBo.
Another item our editors collectively love.
I have these shoes in cream, and can confirm they’re super comfortable.
Beautiful; just add strappy sandals.
The ultimate holiday swimsuit.
Style Notes: It’s been a few seasons since blue felt quote so relevant as it does now, and I, for one, couldn’t be happier about it. For 2022, striking shades of energy-surge cobalt took to the runway in various forms—from structured suiting at Stella McCartney to louche-but-luxe co-ords at Hellessy. What makes it so appealing is its sheer versatility; it is currently being used for everyday wardrobe staples like vests and trousers, and to elevate swimwear, so prepare to see a lot of it this summer.
Don’t you think this looks designer?
I have a feeling colour-block swimwear is going to be huge this summer.
A chic alternative to straight-leg denim.
Racer vests are a fashion favourite.
Style Notes: Call it lemon, call it butter, but definitely don’t call it white. Creamy tones bordering on yellow are another key look from the spring/summer 2022 runways, and its only ramping up the closer to summer we get. Less committal than the other shades on this list, I imagine this’ll be the shade pared-back dressers reach for in lieu of beige this season. My source? Jil Sander.
This would look incredible with a white knotted shirt.
I’d like to wear (and own) this entire outfit, please.
Selkie’s dresses come in an impressively diverse size range.
This will look impeccable with wide-leg trousers and tan slider sandals.
The oversize blazer every fashion person wants to own (if they don’t already do so).
This will pep up anything you choose to wear it with.
Matteau’s dresses are always some of the most popular come summer.
A prime example of how to do elegant arm-candy.
Back at it again with the bright tailored trousers.
I’m not saying The Row is entirely responsible for the minimal aesthetic that’s so popular right now— but it would be an understatement to say that they’ve had a pretty big influence on it. From a wider perspective, the fashion world has been moving towards a less trend-focused and more classic capsule approach for a while now, thankfully— it’s an important move in making all our wardrobes more sustainable and longer-lasting. But there’s no denying the Olsen twins’ luxury label made pieces like the simple white shirt catwalk-worthy again, spearheading the move to a simpler aesthetic in the designer arena. One quick glance at their offering on Net-a-Porter and it’s clear to see their focus on versatile basics, from the perfect T-shirt to the dream pair of jeans.
Unfortunately, though, we know all too well that The Row’s price point is not what we’d call ‘accessible’ or anywhere near ‘affordable’. It might well be justified at times by the quality— not just of the fabrics but of the creative processes too— and, of course, by the fact that these are anti-trend pieces that will live in your wardrobes forever. But you’ll be glad to hear, I’m here today to tell you it is possible to achieve the same polished, timeless wardrobe on a more realistic budget.
Since I myself am a stylist with classic and often minimalist style, I’m always on the lookout for the most expensive-looking pieces that give off The Row vibes. So, today, I thought I’d share with you my findings from years of research. Below you’ll find my answers to achieving an affordable capsule wardrobe— from the ultimate high street white shirt, to the simple sandals all your friends will ask you about.
Keep scrolling to see the items and shop any gaps you might be looking to fill in your own capsule wardrobe…
Shirts are a capsule wardrobe staple— whether you prefer a crisp white, classic blue or perhaps a linen for summer, the high street has some amazing affordable options.
This is 100% cotton.
An oversized fit instantly makes a shirt look more expensive.
This neutral shade feels very premium.
This could also work as a very chic beach cover up.
Choosing a floor-puddling wide-leg trouser over a cropped tapered or skinny style instantly elevates your outfit— whether the trousers or high street or designer. Plus, they're surprisingly versatile making them a great capsule piece— you can wear wide-legs with trainers and a tank top for weekends, heels and a nice top for date night and shirts and loafers for the office.
This greige colour feels really elevated.
If I didn't know I would guess these were actually from The Row.
Every time I see an influencer in these (which happens a lot), I always think they must be designer.
The simpler the sandal, the more expensive they look in my experience. The Row's sandals don't have shouty logos or garish features which is what makes them so timeless and chic. So opt for similar minimalist options (in real leather where possible) on the affordable end of the scale and you'll achieve the same look.
The woven detailing makes these understated sandals anything but boring.
Subtle details like a suede flatform sole can really elevate a basic sandal.
When I first saw these classic leather slides I couldn't believe how affordable they were. I'm sure they'll sell out, especially since they're a style that will never age.
A simple black dress has a place at the core of any polished capsule wardrobe. They're versatile, easy to wear and eternally flattering— just be sure to look out for elevated details when shopping for styles on the high street. Whether that's bows, ruching or a dropped waist perhaps.
This has such a pretty back.
A loose throw-on dress can often look more expensive than a form-fitting one.
I love the ruched waist on this Tove-esque style. It's just been restocked in white as well.
This is such a versatile style.
When searching for the perfect expensive-looking jeans for your affordable capsule wardrobe, my advice would be to look for darker denims, non-frayed hems and interesting silhouettes.
These come in sizes up to a UK 26.
These are & Other Stories' bestselling jeans for a reason.
This barrel-leg shape is a twist on a classic wide leg that your capsule will thank you for.
T-shir ts and ribbed vests are valuable layering pieces in a capsule wardrobe, and since cotton is cotton it's often the case that an affordable version will appear the same as a designer piece. For the most polished look, opt for heavier fabrics, organic cotton and crisp white or creamy colour tones.
This is made from organic cotton.
This slightly thicker cotton will last longer.
I'd wear this with white denim all summer.
Cashmere is of course never cheap, but when you can be paying upwards of £1,000 at The Row, a similar M&S jumper for £79 definitely counts as an 'affordable' option. The best part? I've tried all of these styles below and the quality has always held up against my designer cashmere pieces. A wool knit might not be the first thing you think of for the spring/summer season but you’ll be grateful for that thin layer on cooler evenings in the UK and on holiday. They look so chic thrown over shoulders or around the waist of a slip dress as an emergency layer, and then in winter they come into their own under coats— which is surely the key to a versatile capsule wardrobe.
Our favourite affordable cashmere on the high street.
This browny grey colour feels very expensive.
This one is so soft.
As a lover of fashion, I have always dreamed about visiting Paris. The great food, amazing museums, and next-level fashion always seemed so romantic to me. Unfortunately, I have still never been to Paris, but that hasn’t stopped me from my growing obsession with the city transitioning into an obsession with Parisian street style. The French fashion girls seem to just get it. They have mastered the art of being casual chic and effortlessly cool—a vibe I’m always going for. Throughout looking at my favourite French influencers and other sources of fashion inspiration, I noticed six items that can help me achieve a French-girl aesthetic. Keep scrolling to see the items that are helping me attempt to achieve Parisian style.
Loose trousers are a cool-girl wardrobe staple. They have this sophisticated yet casual vibe to them and can be styled in so many ways, making them not only a personal favourite but extremely versatile.
A key player for parisian style.
The baggier the better.
Dress up or down with a shirt and boots, or trainers and a tee.
Obsessed with this colour.
We love this styled with sandals.
Don’t knock the classic white cotton T-shirt. I wear a classic white tee almost every day, and I’m noticing French girls embrace this classic staple by styling it with chic tailored denim and blazers or their favorite miniskirts.
A wardrobe hero.
Throw on and go.
12 more colours to choose from.
The look that can take you from coffee to running errands, to brunch, to a date and back. I excitedly wait until minidress season every year, it seems so do Parisian fashion girls.
Reformation knows how to make must-have dress.
Ready for summer.
You'll wear this for years to come.
Everyone needs a Little Black Dress.
The slip dress has become the go-to look for a five-minute way to an effortlessly chic outfit. Personally, I’m obsessed. I love any look I can style with sneakers, sandals, or heels.
This slip dress also comes in bold green.
Nightwear as daywear.
Style with boots, trainers or sandals.
The perfect companion for a bold coloured blazer.
I had to highlight this cut-out back.
Tailored trouser shorts are the perfect mix of work and play. The tailored look gives these shorts an elevated feel while keeping the casualness of a classic short. You can go with a classic neutral pair or be bold and go with a colorful or patterned pair. Either way, I’m in love.
A gorgeous hue.
The complete suit has won my heart.
The matching shirt is a real find.
From office to free time.
The ultimate spring coat if you ask me. The trench coat is a classic staple that never goes out of style. It’ll be hard to find a stylish Parisian without one in their closet.
This indigo shade is totally chic.
Shop from sizes 4XL to XS.
Now this is a standout piece.
A classic trench coat will be in style forever.
After 15 years in fashion I have lived through many a pair of It jeans. Some I've invested in, some I've swerved, but while trends come and go, all of the biggest hitting denim buys have always had the same thing in common: they're really easy to wear. That might sound obvious considering we're talking about the world's most relied-upon go-to item, but there have been some pretty wacky and wild jeans created over the past few decades and the more extreme they are the more dated they look. Many of the past's It jeans could still stand up as solid choices today. Current/Elliot's original baggy boyfriend jeans are in my wardrobe and remain useful; J Brand's Lovestory flares are still some of the best out there for that silhouette; Levi's 501s will never, ever die and Agolde's crossover straight-leg styles continue to spark many an imitator.
Simone Ashley wearing Mango's Greta jeans. So it's interesting to see a denim fan club uniting over a pair of high-street jeans because normally this kind of cult status is reserved for designer pairs only. Just this week did rising star Simone Ashley (of Bridgerton fame) cement the position of Mango's wide-leg, low-slung cargo jeans, wearing them out and about in New York after the Met Gala. Pairing the Greta jeans with a cropped white tee, "dad" sneaks and a studded leather jacket this look was indicative of the era we first started to see this denim style emerge during: the '00s. Many an influencer has followed the same kind of formula referencing back to when low-slung baggy jeans were last in vogue, but we have also witness of slew of others totally reframing them too. You'll find Grece Ghanem making them look rather posh with a twee cardigan and heels or Jen Azoulay giving a cutesy spin with a pink bouclé jacket. The Gretas are surprisingly versatile but that's precisely what makes a pair of It jeans last. Keep scrolling to see who has worn them (and how) plus shop them for yourself.
For a great weekend look channel this outfit with a suede jacket and fisherman sandals.
You can wears yours lower á la Y2k. Jen combines a sweet jacket with strappy heels for a fancier look.
Grece smartens the casual jeans up with a cardigan and heels.
These jeans come in a lighter wash too—which is very well suited to a going-out combination like this.
This clean blue wash will go with so many staple and extravagant items.
The lighter wash feels more beachy and bohemian.
Perfect for wearing with a variety of different shoe styles.
A very smart cut for the minimalists out there.
Weekday's wide-leg Ace jeans are very popular.
An ankle-grazing option for those of you who don't want hems to drag on the ground.
Looking for something more directional? Here it is.
These darted jeans have extra volume in the leg if you're looking for a baggier fit.
For more of a '70s vibe, choose these.
I could imagine Hailey Bieber in these. Up next, the best high-rise wide-leg jeans available now.The Controversial Swim Trend I'm So Into Right Now Posted: Fri, 06 May 2022 05:41:00 +0000
If I were to write a short list of clothing items that scare me, somewhere after super-tight dresses and before uncomfortable shoes and white jeans, you'd find white swimsuits. I don't particularly love wearing swimsuits in the first place (but buy them anyway), so if you take a category that already makes me uncomfortable and choose a white, nowhere-to-hide iteration, I'm downright petrified. It's kind of how my co-worker Maxine feels about another popular swim trend.
Nonetheless, you can imagine my confusion when I suddenly noticed how many of my favourites suits were actually white. Maybe seeing so many of them (after all, they are having a moment) helped, but I'd be lying if I said I didn't end up ordering a couple while researching for stories.
Will I end up channeling my inner Sofia Richie this summer? Only time will tell, but for now, you can shop all the nicest white bikinis and one-pieces I have my eyes on below and see how some of my other favourite stylish women are pulling them off along the way.
This could definitely double as a top.
Chic and affordable.
If you want to get Sofia's exact look, this bikini is the place to start.
I'm here for the weaving technique
Love the ribbed texture.
Vix Swimwear has elevated a classic triangle bikini with beautiful bead details.
Just look at that cutout.
This asymmetric style is a masterpiece.
This take on cutouts that we have been calling "negative space" is so on trend.
The low v-neckline is accentuated by the pom-pom details.
The beaded details, though.
So many cut-outs.
Alaïa always has the best details.
Obsessed with the knot detailing.
Shop the matching bottoms here.
The perfect one-piece.
This post was originally published at an earlier date and has been recently updated.
A change of season is the ideal time to switch up your makeup. While a heavier lipstick or darker eyeshadow might work in the colder winter months, it doesn't always translate for warmer climate. We'll often switch out full coverage foundations for lightweight skin tints as the temperatures rise, and choose colours that pair perfect with our summer wardrobe.
However, shifting from a seasonal makeup rut can be tricky. So, we enlisted the help of some of the top makeup artists to help guide the way to some of the top summer makeup trends for 2022.
“Bold colours in all forms is a big trend,” says makeup artist, Lan Nguyen-Grealis. “As colour cosmetics begin to grow again, fun in makeup is back on track. Whether in block or as a eyeliner detail the products are here to stay," she says, predicting that long lasting formulas in bright hues will be big news for summer."
If you prefer your eyes to have more definition, apply your usual black eyeliner and stack one (or why not two?) colourful liners on top.
A touch of bright eyeshadow in the corners of the eyes is a playful nod to the trend.
Go bold for summer with an electric hue.
Glowing skin is the ultimate summer beauty look. "Think clean, effortless no makeup makeup," says Lan. "There are so many skincare creams infused with makeup that offer easy natural coverage. From BB creams and CC creams to water tints, these contains active ingredients to help the natural skin texture. It's perfect for makeup on the go and is ideal for the busy lifestyles," she says.
If your skin is on the oiler side, powder any troublesome areas and let your other features shine.
Tap highlighter into the inner corners of your eyes to instantly brighten and open up the eyes.
Apply this dewy highlighter to the high points of your face (think cheekbones, temples and the orbital bone) to add a glitter-free sheen to the skin.
"Brows are big, brushed and youthful and give a minimal look," says Lan. "Groomed brows with staying power are made achievable with long-lasting pencils, gels with wax products to keep them in place."
A sweep of a clear gel through the brows keeps them looking neat yet minimal if you're not a fan of filling them in.
For a softer look, opt for an eyeshadow matched to the shade of your brows, and use an angled eyebrow brush for diffused definition.
Helps to tame hairs into place, without leaving a sticky residue.
Chanel makeup artist Anna Payne predicts the return of bronzer for summer, but with a 90s twist. She recommends using a cream or water-tinted bronzer to give skin a subtle wash of colour. You should still be able to see your real skin through it.
Sweep bronzer along the forehead, cheekbones and nose a la Lily Aldridge.
If you want to add more colour to the skin, apply a blusher on top to enhance the sun kissed look.
This tinted serum gives skin a subtle hint of colour – it's like a skin filter in a bottle.
Metallic eyes are back. But this time, it's about choosing textures that have a sheer wash of colour and sparkle to the lids, recommends Anna. Look for formulas that deliver a wet-look effect to your lids.
Pat a shimmer eyeshadow into the middle of the lid – we love this sheer touch of green over neutral eyeshadow.
For deeper complexions, a soft berry shadow looks so pretty for summer.
We're obsessed with Simone Ashley (full stop) and her glossy eyeshadow look.
Switch it up by applying a touch in the inner and outer corners of your eyes.
This glittering eyeshadow adds a translucent wash of shimmer to the lids to keep it looking modern.
Blusher formulas have come a long way. Gone are the days of chalky powder blushes that sit on the skin. For summer, look for cream and liquid formulas that bounce light away from the skin for a multi-dimensional, radiant look.
Nothing says summer like a flush of colour on the skin. Anna recommends applying a lighter shade all over the apples of your cheeks, before applying a slightly deeper hue on the top to create dimension.
This liquid blush leaves a glassy sheen to the skin, and the brush applicator makes it so easy to apply on the go.
For summer, it makes sense to extend the glow on our faces to the skin on our bodies, giving an expensive looking sheen to shins, shoulders and décolletage. Look for skin perfecting body makeup that reflects light to get your glow on.
Jourdan Dunn shows us how a décolletage glow is done. Mix a liquid highlighter into your usual body lotion to achieve a glossy sheen to the skin.
Prep skin with an oil-based body scrub to give your skin an extra gleam.
The cult body makeup lends skin a beautiful glow while evening the skin tone.
Whether it's the Euphoria effect or feeling more free-spirited after two years in lockdown, we're getting more experimental with eyeliner placement. Reverse eyeliner is placed underneath the lash line, and works very well on hooded eye shapes if you struggle to apply liner to your upper lash line.
Featuring neutral and bright eyeshadows, you can easily switch up your eyeliner looks by using an angled eyeshadow brush.
Something very exciting has been happening at Who What Wear HQ: we've been designing a sustainable summer capsule collection in collaboration with our very own community of readers and fashion super-fans. There's still time to influence decisions and get access to the collection before everyone else—join our Facebook or Slack groups, and keep reading to discover more.
Over the years we've noticed a gap in the market for sensibly-priced, cleverly-designed pieces that manage to bridge the gap between being trend-led and yet classic enough to rely upon and pull out of your wardrobe time and again—the kinds of pieces that never fail you. From direct audience feedback we know all too well how frustrating shopping for these tick-all-the-boxes items can be, especially when you are trying to find sustainable versions to boot. So here's where our range, Drop 01 by Who What Wear UK, comes to save the day (the summer, the year, and maybe a whole lifetime of getting dressed!).
We're offering a completely new and radical way to buy well-priced, long-lasting clothes that you'll LOVE. We'll be reducing waste thanks to a made-to-order model (powered by our partner Unfolded) and the collection will chock-full of the top designs that have been created by and voted in thanks to our discerning community. Fans of the project have been instrumental throughout the process, helping to make all-important decisions about everything from fabrics and prints through to final silhouettes. We already have over 1000 insiders contributing on this level for Drop 01—and there is still time for YOU to be involved in how the collection materialises as well as getting first access to shop it. Sign up (on Facebook or Slack) to get exclusive access to our Insiders community, and keep reading to learn more about the collection.
Although I can't yet reveal the full line-up, I can guarantee you there's something (okay, probably minimum three things) for everyone in there and all of the seasonal bases have been well and truly covered. If there are any gaps in your current closet—whether that's for basic items or wow one—I think they'll be filled soon.
Who What Wear has always been about making style accessible and joyful, and we're taking a truly democratic approach for this capsule collection. It all started with our editors—a group of people with a love for fashion, with realistic personal budgets, our own fashion hangups and plenty of opinions on the perfect items we can never seem to find. We also have a wealth of experience when it comes to analysing what our readers engage with and ultimately buy, so therefore we own a nuanced understanding of what can make a Brit girl click "add to basket." We're known for documenting the trends (only the best ones with longevity, of course) but we're also just as popular for our content around basics, classics, capsule wardrobes, sustainable edits and re-styling ideas. So this collection will feature both elements—timeless styles with clever, practical details that still feel new and fresh for the season ahead.
Over 1000 of our wonderful readers have joined us as Insiders and collaborated alongisde our editors to create the first ever line—Drop 01. The editorial team kicked off the process, first setting about decoding the season's topline trends and moods, drilling down into the staples every summer wardrobe could benefit from, picking apart the design flaws we see so regularly (no pockets! not bra-friendly!) and then—many Pinterest boards later—the design ideas started to emerge for our community's persual and approval.
The Insiders have been pivotal in instructing the design of every element of the collection from from helping us pick colours and prints to choose hemlines and naming the items. Only the most popular items make the final cut, ensuring that we have the kind of collection that truly resonates for a cross-section of this country's fashion-loving people. We hope that this entirely new approach has enabled us to design a perfect summer collection that just so happens to be made sustainably without the creation of any waste thanks to a pre-order model.
As you can imagine, the team here is ultra-aware of how clothes make us all feel. There is great satisfaction we take from finding pieces that are not only flattering but practical, infinitely re-wearable and conciously produced too. So to be able to craft a line full of items that tick all of these boxes has been a dream come true.
From inefficiencies in the production chain to worker inequalities, it's hard to ignore the impact our fashion choices can have on the wider world. That's part of the reason why we were so keen to partner with Unfolded: This limited edition capsule collection will be made sustainably creating no waste and each item sold will not only pay garment workers better but will help fund a child in the manufacturing communities’ education. Thanks to the brand's partnership with non-governmental organisation Pratham in India we are aiming to support over 1,000 children in education for the next 12 months. Each garment has a value of a period of time for education and when you purchase something you'll have that information at your fingertips. Cool, right?
There are many other sustainable and creative checkpoints for us to travel though together and you can still be a part of this journey by simply signing up to join us over on Facebook or Slack—plus, you'll be first to get your hands on the collection!5 Summer Shoe Trends That All of Our Editors Are Seriously Into Posted: Thu, 05 May 2022 06:53:29 +0000
When it comes to event dressing, we find it's all too easy to focus so much on finding the perfect dress or outfit that your shoe choices can get left to a last-minute panic. It pays to get ahead when it comes to shoe shopping, as not only does that give you time to wear in your new heels, saving you from blisters, but also the right pair of shoes can really make an outfit. After years of flats and trainers taking precedence, the high heel is back with a bang. This year, it's all about "wow" sandals, from stacked, super-high platforms to rainbow-hued options. There is one place that has all of our favourite shoe trends covered this summer: Russell and Bromley.
Russell and Bromley is loved for its beautiful winter boots and timeless loafers, but it's also amazing for statement sandals and party shoes. Emma Spedding, Who What Wear's editor, swears by the Topform Sandals, which are chunky platform heels and remarkably comfortable despite their 8.5-centimetre heel. They feel really sturdy and solid to walk in thanks to the three-centimetre platform, so Emma knows she can rely on them for every wedding or fashion week event.
There are five summer shoe trends, in particular, that stand out right now. Keep scrolling to see our edit of party- and wedding-ready shoes.
This bubblegum-pink shade is so pretty.
These would look amazing with floral midi dresses.
Classic heels you'll wear again and again.
This silhouette is so beautiful.
A wow colour.
These aren't too high, making them a comfortable choice.
The red is a real statement.
Orange is trending this year.
The square toe is really fashion-forward.
A party twist on the Topforms.
White sandals go with everything.
Very low, comfortable heels.
The curved heel is so beautiful.
The pink-croc effect is seriously cool.
These look so luxurious.
These tiny floss straps are so cool.
Sandals you'll wear every day.
This punchy-orange trend is so striking.
We love how these twist around the ankle.
The overarching mood of autumn/winter 2022's fashion trends can be summed up in one word: nostalgia. Now, nostalgia comes in many different forms depending on your age, experiences and interests. Whatever you might associate with happier, simpler times has likely been translated onto the runways for the upcoming season because the creative collectives in New York, London, Milan and Paris have all been feeling that desire for a better life. Designers powered through the past two pandemic years with optimism, channeling their energies in quite literal pick-me-up trends like dopamine dressing—a hashtag that continues to garner attention on almost all social platforms—but with the easing up of restrictions and the a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel, more varied style directions are opening up too.
Although the loudest takes on nostalgia are defining the AW22 outlook (more on that in a minute), for the minimalists out there, who perhaps have felt a little underserved in the past couple of seasons, a return to '90s and '00s basics will provide a great palette cleanser. If there's going to be one viral item of the season it'll be Prada's white vest. Yes, that's correct: As we roll into the winter months, there's a surprisingly humble, surprisingly summery item that will be on the majority of fashion people's wishlists. We can already see that plain(ish) whites vests are trending in high fashion circles—Loewe's anagram-emblazoned version is selling like crazy. Other subtle riffs on minimalism are on offer: oversized tailoring, classic suits, bomber jackets, maxi skirts and neutral colours are plentiful for those who want them.
Euphoria—the costumes, the cast, the makeup, the wild lifestyles—felt omnipresent throughout the shows. The throngs of young fans hopeful of getting a peek of Jacob Elordie or Sydney Sweeney walking into a fashion show seemed to be larger than ever. But there's no denying the big pink attention-seeking elephant in the room—TikTok and youth-driven pop culture is the dominant force for autumn/winter's look. The perception of TikTok is that it's the place where "extra af" has found its natural home and that no Y2K stone will be left unturned. To a point that is true, but I would argue that the platform offers much more across personal style, subcultures and age groups, and I think that it's actually this diversity and freedom of taste that has led to designers not only tapping into yet more skimpy noughties looks and a veritable banquet of party looks for the best-night-ever but little offshoots like #gothaesthetic too. "Expect the unexpected,” says fashion expert and Flannels' Head of Womenswear Elevation Emma Ilori. "Over the top, more is more, experimental wardrobes—pushing the boundaries of everyday dressing. We’re ready to be out and be seen, think fresh-off-the-runway social media moments and head-turning full looks." And things couldn't be more committed to that idea than over at Valentino, where—during what could arguably be the show of the season—creative director Pierpaolo Piccioli crafted a custom hot-pink hue in collaboration with Pantone. Prepare to see Valentino Pink PP (or at least as close as any other brand can get) everywhere.
"The season’s overarching mood is one of fun and extravagance, and the AW trends are set to be all about OTT fashion. Bags are getting bigger, colours are getting brighter, and everything seems to have been covered in shiny sequins," says Morgane LeCaer, Content Lead at Lyst. And almost every single buyer I spoke to echoed the sentiment—investing heavily in clothes and accessories that spark joy in the most conspicuous of ways. "More is definitely still more, with party continuing to be the predominant trend for the upcoming season," says Heather Gramston, Head of Womenswear Buying, Browns. "As a company, we’ve invested in partywear across our ready-to-wear collections and non-apparel, and we anticipate the Browns customer will be wanting to dress up at every given opportunity."
There was a surreal vibe over in Paris—Loewe, Rick Owens and Schiaparelli's conceptual take on fashion is attracting a new and younger crowd of dedicated shoppers who not only want items that provide uniqueness in every single #GRWM post but could potentially hold their value and become more important over time—resale is the new side hustle, after all. The surreality wasn't limited to aesthetics, as the fashion world found itself in quite a predicament during the show season as war was launched on Ukraine by Russia. While each person is allowed their opinion on whether the spectacle of catwalk shows should have continued or not, it's important for me to share that I have received messages from Ukrainian fashion brands who are miraculously keeping their business running and want retail to keep going. As this story is one of the most popular of the season, I want to take the chance to say please support these great labels if you can: Sleeper, Anna October and Vita Kin are just a couple of my favourites.
Without further ado, keep reading for the full rundown of autumn/winter's fashion trends for 2022, as told by the experts.
"We’re extremely excited that our favourite Y2K trend has endured for another season. Ahluwalia, Etro and Gauchere showcased some incredibly nostalgic low-slung waistlines which we predict will be a huge hit with our customers" says Libby Page, fashion expert and Senior Market Editor, NET-A-PORTER.
The difference with this take on the '90s is that it's all about pared back looks from the era. Think of the OG set like Helmut Lang, Ann Demuelemeester or Jil Sander and you're on the right track. It's all plain skirts, even plainer vests, simple, low-slung trousers and not a scrap of makeup.
Lyst's Morgane LeCaer notes that this "low-key luxury" could be seen at Bottega Veneta (under new stewardship with Matthieu Blazy) and The Row, and that it provides the oppositional aesthetic to all of the loud looks available throughout the rest of the runways.
Simple it may seem, a great vest provides the foundation of many a current outfit combination.
Jackets played a big part in any decent '90s uniform and we saw the return of not only the classic moto, or biker, jacket but bombers too. Already this year, thanks to social media, moto jackets have been making a comeback and searches for secondhand versions on Depop have spiked over the past few months.
Marni's off-the-shoulder styling will provide many with a more directional idea, while Maria Grazia Chiuri repositioned the item as a cool way to toughen up a pretty skirt. The look of heavy-duty leathers extended past outerwear and into biker-jacket-skirts or motocross leather pants, with some brands going so far as to double or triple up on leather pieces worn together for the full "I just left my Harley outside" effect.
Another classic wardrobe piece that only gets better over time.
“Dopamine dressing will be ever-present. Mood-boosting hues with bright Barbie
pinks made a splash on the Valentino, Prada, and Versace runways. Green is also a top fashion
colour, equalling 11% of current investment, blue at 10% and pink at 7%," says Kayla Marci, Market Analyst, Edited. "The runways prove that
AW22 will be unseasonably bright and retailers can look to colour up their best-performing
coats, dresses, suit sets and sweaters in hot magenta, red, royal purple, tangerine, zesty green
and azure to provide shoppers positive sentiments tied to their apparel purchases."
The exact application of colour through designer collections is also what will influence many of us. Designers chose particular shades to repeatedly use (often head-to-toe) rather than opting for more complex clashes or combinations. As already noted, Valentino's show was either all pink or all black, Stella McCartney leant into purple repeatedly (after also supporting it for SS22) and designers such as Sarah Burton at McQueen or Gabriela Hearst as her namesake brand explored a citrus range. Bottega Veneta's Insta-friendly leather fringed skirts in purple and green will offer a cool way to do vibrancy in a more understated way with a simple grey knit.
Pink dresses have been popular year after year, so this is less of a trend and more of a bona fide staple.
If there's one (welcome) hangover from the pandemic it's comfortable footwear. This summer has been gripped by Birkenstock Boston Clog mania and, fortunately, many designer brands are offering equally "ugly" and foot-loving options for autumn/winter 2022. With biker style back in vogue it's no wonder that stompy moto boots are also returning. Continuing from the last few autumn seasons' track soles, any similar boots you've bought recently still stand up. You will start to see the addition of a few tweaks going forward: steel-toe caps, lace-up details, square toes, metal hardware, longer-length reaching up mid-calf or even up to the knee.
Add them to a pretty outfit and they'll instantly temper it. Pop on a pair with a '90s look and you'll look like a celeb arriving at LAX back in the day. Try them out with a short skirt and the casual makeover will be complete. Basically—wear them!
Proenza leads the pack for chunky soles and these are still looking good many seasons after they were introduced.
"1990s nostalgia will continue to influence autumn/winter 2022 fashion, with mood-boosting hues and gender-fluid tailoring dominating the market—think hot pinks, chartreuse and slouchy, oversized blazers," says Marci. And it's that slouchy oversized blazer—a trend that has been burning for quite a few seasons now—that appears to be most prominent. Where the trend for oversized silhouettes had previously been balanced out with slimmer fits or bare skin, for autumn/winter 2022 you'll find a dedication to the look head-to-toe.
"This is all about refined, pared-back luxury that has a real sense of ease when it comes to styling choices—think vest tops with beautifully tailored trousers and silky slip skirts with matching shirts," explains Who What Wear Editor Emma Spedding. "It’s Gwyneth Paltrow. It’s Carolyn Bessette-Kennedy. And it’s, in my opinion, the chicest way to get dressed this autumn."
Blame it on Billie Eilish, or a general yearning for clothes to feel completely relaxed in without reverting back to loungewear, but baggy is in. MaxMara went large on everything, from coats to pants and layered jackets. Acne Studios set their jumbo blazers against wader-style boots. Khaite's baggy jeans and giant jacket combo will doubtless spark many an outfit recreation within fashion circles and beyond. The easiest pieces to add to your wardrobe? Try for a pair of higher-waisted baggy jeans and a bigger blazer—you'll get a lot of use out of both, together and apart.
The one, the only: It's the oversized blazer our readers love to buy!
Nostalgia for far flung travel, for slow fashion and homespun craft, for special hand-me-down knits… all of these warm, fuzzy feelings have been translated into a slew of truly unique pieces that have a bohemian lilt. The colours are earthy and grounded, the patterns are organic and random, the textures are far too luxe and interesting toresist your touch, and, in all honesty, these are the kinds of timeless looks that really do surpass seasons, years and trends because we will always have an appreciation of things that are well-made and feel a little offbeat.
Altuzarra has cemented tie-dye as a bit of a signature and it comes in very cool mix 'n' match forms for AW22, and many other brands have committed to eclectic looks head-to-toe. I like where there's an injection of tailoring, such as Johnathan Simkhai's sharp flares worn with a poncho.
Quilted and patchwork jackets are already a hot ticket for SS22, so they'll definitely keep going.
There are many strong print and pattern ideas coming through for autumn/winter 2022 but a proliferation of luxe leopard really stood out to me as feeling fresh again after a stint in the background. Although there are differing scales and finishes, animal prints can be employed in many ways and that's why they have become a "neutral" as many an editor or stylist will state. You can be a bit hippy like Dries Van Noten, posh and uptown like Giambattista Valli, minimalistic like Proenza, maximalistic like Roberto Cavalli… the options are pretty endless and it's never a bad thing to invest in anyway—leopard always finds its way home (to your wardrobe).
A figure-enhancing dress that is also surprisingly timeless and comfortable? Win.
"Last season’s sexy has evolved into something more elevated and glamorous, with looks for every occasion and an all-out approach to going out-out again. We saw cut-outs galore from Julia Fox’s show-open for LaQuan Smith, daring midriff-exposed looks and sheer delights from KNWLS, and the ultimate head-to-toe pink at Valentino," says Gramston. What I have particularly enjoyed from this slew of after-dark looks is just how unique and non-conformist each one is. It speaks to a time when individuality was more interlinked with party culture, finding your tribe and heading to a place where you could be celebrated for your differences.
“In a post-covid world, everything is being flipped on its head. It is better to be over-dressed than under, and Miu Miu is stepping into this year with the must-have pieces that every it-girl is reaching for. Super cropped tops, low-rise skirts and embellishment in all the right places," agrees Elori.
Scared of a cut-out dress or holographic trousers? Don't worry, just a smattering of crystal jewellery will do.
Every editor came away from the shows in Milan and Paris knowing (and telling everyone else) just one thing: Bomber jackets are going to be BIG news once more. From simplistic black flight jackets at Givenchy to shrunken suede ones at Miu Miu through to supersized, waist-nipped satin styles at both Sacai and Prada, it would appear that there is an iteration of this classic outerwear style to suit all tastes.
Each and every year searches for "bomber jackets" spike around November time according to Google Trends, but I predict that the volume of those interested in purchasing will increase and start far sooner this season. Although many of us are well-versed in a flight-jacket-and-jeans combo, what has changed is perhaps how bomber jackets are being worn this time around, with fancier items such as lacy skirts and heels or in a more relaxed way slouchy tailored trousers and sneaks.
Mark my words: Frankie Shop's new bomber will be fast to sell out.
"From sequins to embellishments, the magpie inside of me has been awakened by the AW22 catwalks and all the shine that came with them. My main takeaway? Sparkles aren't just for Christmas (although that too)—this year it's all about wearing them with pride in your day-to-day winter wardrobe. From jeans at PatBo to grey jumpers at EckhausLatta and puffer coats at 3.1 Phillip Lim— this is your sign to start dressing down your diamantés rather than saving them for best. You certainly won't find me complaining," says Emily Dawes, Who What Wear UK's Affiliate Editor and expert.
"Sparkles were strongly represented, both on-and-off the runway. Personal favourites were the crystal-pink bag from Off-White and Paris Texas’s encrusted knee-high boots" adds Gramston. What has prompted this? Ilori has a theory: "It is the Kirakira affect—an extra dosage of twinkle to everything and anything."
Add a plain knit and you have an instantly striking outfit.
“Autumn 2022 will signal workwear's long-awaited comeback post Pandemic, with designers juxtaposing sleek minimalism with feminine skirts and suits in their collections once seen in the 1990s. Though the runway spoke to more traditional, pre-pandemic office attire than the elevated work leisure we are used to seeing, comfort elements still remained incorporated to suit hybrid lifestyles which has been normal for shoppers in 2022,” explains Marci of this new wave of tailoring.
"A suit is my absolute go-to when I want to feel confident and polished—whether that's for the office, a dinner or an event—so I was thrilled to see tailoring woven into so many of the new season catwalk collections," says Dawes. "This wasn't business as usual though, and contrary to the flowing neutral tones layered with plenty of skin on show that we've seen in previous seasons, traditional and androgynous were the overarching themes for autumn/winter 2022. Don't be afraid to raid your boyfriend's closet for his favourite tweed blazer when you want to try this trend, then. Styling wise, all buttoned up was the look of the day (bar a few slithers of midriff at Michael Kors)— and whatever you do, don't forget the tie."
COS's wide-leg trousers are the best wide-leg trousers. Fact.
Considering it is a staple part of the '90s lexicon I wasn't surprised to see maxi skirts making themselves known for the new season. The trend for a slimmer-cut (often tube-like) maxi started earlier this year and it looks like the trend will continue way into the colder months.
"The updated long, lean skirt silhouettes were an evolution from the micro-hemlines that we’ve seen various iterations of for the past couple of seasons. Stand-out skirt-moments came from Calvin Klein, Ludovic de Saint Sernin, Saint Laurent, Acne and Diesel," says Gramston, simultaneously noting some of the industry's most sought-after names right now.
As plain as it may seem, a perfect-fit black maxi is hard to find but incredibly useful in any closet.
"I've always rooted for happily ever afters, stories where love conquers all, and it would appear designers have shared this same sentiment this season, tapping into this euphoric state when creating their most beautiful looks for autumn/winter 2022. With fabrications so light they were reminiscent of Cloud Nine, painted in a delicate palette of rose, ivory, and eggshell, then punctuated with throws of passion red, these are clothes that invite you to be the main character in your own, very fashionable love story. Who needs Heathcliff, Mr Darcy or Viscount Bridgerton when you have Cecilie Bahnsen or Simone Rocha in your life?" says Maxine Eggenberger, Who What Wear's Acting Assistant Editor, and she's quite right. This season's crop of extra pretty items is enough to make even the stoniest minimalist feel a little love for pink and chiffon and frou.
Easy romantic vibes for the summer and into the winter with layers and tights.
If the commitment to fully colourful ensembles has you spooked, then designers have a solution: Add a bold bag. "I am a big fan of Bottega Veneta’s colourful Jodie bags, so love seeing how this has extended further in the autumn/winter 2022 trends and collections," says Spedding. "You’ll find lots of bright pink handbags thanks to the likes of Valentino and Chanel, which will brighten up even the simplest of outfits. Although these will look amazing with colourful outfits, I love how they’ll look with jeans, a T-shirt and a boxy blazer."
So they work with neutral looks and more vibrant ones and there's practically every hue available and in every kind of finish. You'll find quilted, squishy numbers in sumptuously soft leathers (Bottega Veneta), more rigid pops of colour in structured bags (Valentino), posh in tweeds (Chanel, of course) or playful in mini satin (Miu Miu, be mine).
Personally? I'll go for an offbeat colour like this—it matches and yet perfectly clashes with everything!
"For those who subscribe to the goth aesthetic full-time, it's so much more than a trend, it's a lifestyle, and the last thing I want to do is trivialise it. Still, it would be remiss not to chart the impact goth has on the fashion industry. With roots in romanticism, offset with grunge flair, gothic looks crop up on the runway every autumn/winter season, but for 2022, it feels more prevalent than ever," says Eggenberger. "The antithesis to the bright and joyful colours that have dominated for the past few years, all-black ensembles with gothic accents were some of the most striking in the new collections—we’ve already touched on how Valentino used it to startling affect against its PP Pink ensembles. Other highlights include The Row's Sheer mesh polo neck dress, Isabel Marant's dominatrix-style over-the-knee boots worn with..Trust Me—These Basket Bags Will Look Good With Every Single Summer Outfit Posted: Thu, 05 May 2022 05:31:03 +0000
In my homeland, Ghana, an abundance of palm grows far and wide across the continent, which subsequently makes raffia one of the humble cornerstones of the bustling economy. It carries the load of labourers with ample provisions and is also used to tote everyday essentials. Although the millennia aged woven technique has gained popularity of late, the ancient material carries the pride and integrity of cultures and much like those life stories, it’s made to be lived in.
Made covetable by style icon Jane Birkin (who wore hard shell wicker with effortless allure in the 60s/70s), it’s evident that basket bags are an accessory that can truly withstand the test of time. There’s nothing that conjures the feeling of summer quite like swapping a leather tote for a jute, bamboo, or palm weft bag at the first signs of sunshine. There’s an understated Parisian influence about these market bags. They’re practical, stylish and make the best accompaniment to off-duty jeans and T-shirt looks. They are as hardworking as they are hardwearing and can be worn for many outings, from farmer’s markets and bike rides to low-key business meetings.
It was only a matter of years ago when Loewe took the humble tote, worn by everyone from Ibiza to South Africa and made it one of the most highly coveted fashion accessories I’ve seen to date. The understated designer accessory has the seal of approval from many fashion editors around the globe (including the WWW team!) However, there’s an assortment of basket bags and woven totes that look just as timeless as their designer counterparts.
Depending on your wants and needs, a woven bag may be better suited. They become more supple with use and are easier to pack when travelling. I’m a huge fan of Dragon Diffusion—a specialist retailer that celebrates local artisans, with offerings of leather goods that develops a rich patina with age.
This year, retailers are boasting some of the most varied selections I’ve seen, from woven leather styles to open crochet weaves, rope bags and structured rattan for beach days and beyond. If you’re in the market for a summer basket bag I have 20 of the best I’ve seen to share with you. Keep scrolling to see my edit.
The 2022 update of the highly coveted Loewe basket bag.
A touch of green and a knotted handle, which if I might add, looks rather sturdy.
A multitoned bag with silver hardware.
If I didn’t already have a woven bag this would be high on my list.
The structure will hold itself well and it's big enough to be used as a carry-on.
Handcrafted in Ghana, this is a playful take on a straw bag.
A great addition to a paired back, casual wardrobe. Bonus points for the concealed bag.
Don't sleep on Aje's accessories—this clutch with gold hardware is the perfect way to amp up an evening outfit.
This looks even better IRL!
With an added pouch for your valuables.
It's the little touches, like the adjustable handle...
Be like Jane Birkin and wander around with this cool girl basket (in her namesake, no less).
The white crossbody strap adds a casual touch to this accessory.
A quaint and compact take on traditional woven styles.
The interwoven leather trim makes this piece all the more special.
Such a chic shape.
This wouldn't be out of place in Ibiza town.
If you carry everything but the kitchen sink.
This sweet white handle evokes picnic memories.
Make like a Parisian and frequent your favourite coffee shops with this chic bag as your companion.
A classic in a bold inky colourway.
The black leather handle is striking against the natural palm weave - great if you're one with a preference for monochrome dressing.
You needn't abandon a staple colour in the summer months. I can see this with a navy knit, jeans and slides.
You may not instantly think of a crochet style, but this soft bag adds a subtle touch of bohemian to an outfit.
A truly unique piece in shape and design.
A fun rope handle if you're after something a little playful.
Made to sit comfortably in the nook of your underarm.
If ever there was a swimwear season for travel restrictions to be reduced and our suitcases to reflect the excitement, it is this year—2022's swimwear trends are ready to go. I am a self-confessed swimwear obsessive and after over a decade as a buying director for my own swimwear business, I’m always on the lookout for the next big designers and trends. I’m always asked why I love swimwear so much, and to be honest it just kind of happened. I have so many beautiful memories of dreamy summers spent on the beach with my family in Puglia growing up so for me swimwear is synonymous with being happy and having fun—I always felt my most confident in the sun and that was mostly down to the swimwear I picked up on shopping trips with my mother. Then there's the fact a bikini or swimsuit can have a longer life than many other fashion purchases—in fact, most swimwear styles rarely date and if you buy well, you will hold onto pieces for years to come.
But how to know which styles will actually suit your body shape? Well, that takes a little practice with trying on different styles to see what suits your own body. If you’re a swimwear rookie sometimes the best way is to order a selection of styles to try on at home and see what works and what you feel most comfortable in. There are many beautiful designs that standout on the page but may not all actually translate into being flattering, comfortable or practical—this is what ultimately sets one swimwear buyer apart from another.
For 2022's swimwear trends discreet need not apply. If you’re lucky enough to get away this year then summer 2022 is all about getting dressed up for the beach. Minimalism has no place here. Even the most streamlined of swimsuits have delicate cut-out details, wrap-around straps or standout 3D corsages. These swimwear trends are so fabulous they really speak for themselves so here are my 5 top swimwear trends for 2022. I hope you enjoy wearing them as much as you like reading this too!
Seventies-inspired halterneck swimsuits with flower cut-out details are having a moment and will add a touch of instant glamour to your beach look.
This is by far my favourite high street version of this trend.
French designer Jacquemeus has been leading the return of 90's minimalism. This is one of the most sought after swimsuits of the summer.
British label Hunza G has added this aptly named Ursula (the Bond girl FYI) swimsuit to their offering. If you're looking for support whilst wanting to buy into this trend this style will tick both boxes.
Spaghetti straps aren't for everyone. The endless iterations of this trend are the best thing about it.
Italian label Amazuìn is fast becoming a cult fave amongst the influencer crowd. This style is already a regular fixture on the grid for monochrome lovers.
Louisa Ballou is a favourite amongst A-listers from Bella Hadid to the Kardashians. Pair with the matching skirt, dress or sarong to create this season's matchy matchy beach vibe.
Magda Butrym's debut swimwear collection has fast become a favourite for influencers with her jumbo corsages.
If Magda is a little out of your price range Zara has cleverly tapped into this trend with high-waisted bikinis and slick one-shoulder swimsuits on offer.
Solid colours work best for this trend. Look for hues such as white, black, pink or red.
Zebra print is back for 2022.
Wrap-around bikinis don't have to be super sexy and high cut. Matteau's paired back aesthetic works perfectly with this style and creates a super chic and grown up look.
Hints of seventies details can be found across the swimwear category this season. Again, showing how versatile each trend can be.
Sometimes swimwear just needs to be fun, colourful and full of sass!
I love finding unique bikinis that you're unlikely to see anyone else wearing. I was instantly drawn to the fun colourful beading on this bikini. It's these little details that set each style apart.
This high-cut pant will length your legs and also balance our wider ups to draw the eye to your waist.
Choose a lurex fabric to counterbalance the simple design. Oserée nails it every time.
The more embellished the detail the better. Anything goes!
The high-leg V-pant is a nod to some of the most iconic swimwear references from the nineties - and also one of the most flattering bikinis I've ever tried.
Whilst the '90s pant is a pretty simple cut, feel free to have fun with choosing your bikini top to match. This gathered style is great for smaller and larger busts alike.
Sian Swimwear is the go-to for sexy minimalist swimwear and was one of the first to bring back this handkerchief style.
The gold seashell straps add polish to this vibrant print.
Metallic fabrics and finishes are showing no sign of disappearing any time soon. this halterneck style would look fab with a pair of high-waisted trousers on holiday too.
Next up, read about the celebrity bikini trend we're all talking about!This Hair Wand Gives Salon Worthy Waves – And It’s Only £35 Posted: Wed, 04 May 2022 10:35:46 +0000
During my time as a beauty journalist, I've been lucky enough to try out lots of hair tools. Having worked on a specialist hair magazine for two years, I've sat in the chair of many a hairdresser, who've talked me through their favourite hair wands, hair tongs and hairdryers to achieve that salon magic they create. From Cloud Nine to ghd and Dyson, there are always new innovations launching. But, despite having tried a lot of professional hair tools (which often come with a big price tag) there is one hair tool that I always come back to for loose waves. And it's only £35.
Using the Mark Hill Pick 'N' Mix Styler with the small barrel attachment.
My hair has always been long and is relatively thick, so getting a curl to stay in my hair is a challenge. Quite often, most hair tongs will give me that initial loose wave that I'm after, but after a couple of hours–or the slightest gust of wind–they tend to drop out. Gutting when you've just spent 45 minutes curling your hair. So when I was sent Mark Hill's Pick 'N' Mix Styler, I didn't expect much, but when I tried it I instantly knew it would be my go-to. I knew it was worth writing a review on it when people started asking me what I used to add waves into my hair.
Second day hair after using the Mark Hill Pick 'N' Mix Styler.
The Mark Hill Pick 'N' Mix Styler has a handle base which you buy on its own, and you can buy nearly 20 different styling attachment wands and tongs in different sizes and shapes. I'm a big fan of this as it ultimately saves you from having to buy an entire new hair tool every time you want to switch up your hairstyle. I use the small barrel on my hair and there is something about this styling barrel that really gets my waves to stay in place, even for a second day.
You can buy the handle base separately and choose which interchangeable styling attachments you want to use.
I opt for the small barrel, which gives a good curl size that brushes out into a soft yet long-lasting wave.
What I love about this wand, and what sets it apart from others that I've tried, is that it gives a really long lasting curl to the hair. When I curl my hair with this, it gives me a tight curl (which initially gives prom in 2007 vibes, I'll admit). But, once I've let the curls cool down –this bit is really important to make your style last for longer–I brush them out with a paddle brush or wide toothed comb, which I'll spritz with hairspray, to soften the curls into loose waves. This process really helps to give the waves longevity, shine and that salon-worthy bounce. And for £35 for the handle and the wand, it's seriously worth shouting about.
Want looser waves? The medium barrel gives a softer curl.
If you have really long hair, this attachment is for you. It's 8 inches long (an additional two more than the rest of the stylers in the range) so you can wrap more of your hair around it.
If you have curly or coily hair, this corkscrew styling wand helps to create definition.
If a glamorous 's' wave is more your style, this deep waver helps to create the look effortlessly.
This brush attachment slots into the handle to give heated straightening. Perfect for running through the hair to add shine and smooth flyaways.
Give hair bounce with this round brush attachment.
Prefer your hairstyles to have a tong? This attachment has one to make curling hair easier.
If you have super long lengths, but want to give a luxe wave, this extra large attachment allows you to wave large sections of hair.
Beachy waves are made so easy with this deep waver, which gives tighter waves to the hair.
If you regularly curl and straighten your hair, this attachment gives you two in one.
Looking polished is a goal for most of us, I would imagine, whatever your personal style. How realistic that may be with our busy family and day to day lives is another matter, but we can at least aim to look like we have it all together by wearing a chic outfit— right? Of course, it is possible to build a wardrobe of expensive-looking pieces on a budget (you only have to check out my weekly high street column to know that). But it’s also true that some wardrobe classics are absolutely worth investing in, especially to get better quality and more premium fabrics that will undoubtedly last a lot longer in your wardrobe.
The key is, of course, identifying which items it’s actually worth spending a bit more on— you know, the ones that will then elevate the rest of your wardrobe and make all those high street basics look even better. After all, if you’re parting with your hard earned cash— you want to do it wisely and get it right. So, with summer well and truly on its way, I’ve put my decade of fashion industry experience to good use and thought long and hard about which warm-weather pieces I believe are truly the best ones to invest in for the months and years ahead.
The list below consists of classic anti-trend items you’ll no doubt get endless wear out of— especially since these are items that either make an instant outfit or go with everything else you own. Think classic white sundresses, handwoven bags and beautifully made leather sandals. And whether you spend the summer in the city or are planning on jetting to far-off climes— they’ll see you through heat waves and beach days alike.
This edit of core staples is anything but boring, and basically forms a mini summer capsule. Add them all to your wardrobe and you’re set for looking impeccably polished all season, or you could add just one or two to your existing collection and they would have just as much worth. Yes, there are some designer purchases in there, but there are also some elevated options from your favourite, more affordable brands too.
Keep scrolling, then, to see and shop the seven summer fashion trends that are truly worth investing in. I have a feeling you’re going to love these pieces as much as I do…
Kate Moss sightings are certainly rarer than we’d like, but after clocking her latest low-key ensemble our editors are in agreement of one thing—they’re always worth the wait.
Though she and lookalike daughter Lila Moss turned heads at the 2022 Met Gala extravaganza this week, the look we’re referring to is one she wore for a day spent in the city ahead of the glitzy event.
As always, Kate Moss proved to be right on trend, as the super was seen out running errands before her turn on the red carpet. For he outing, Moss chose to don an elegant floral print maxi dress, the red buds popping against the classic black backdrop of her frock. If you’ve consulted our trend report, then you’ll already know that maxi hemlines are a key look for spring/summer 2022, so it’s little wonder that Moss was quick to wear one.
One trend-ticking item, however, wasn’t enough for the fashion icon, who wisely decided to pair her maxi with a pair of of-the-moment platform heels. Finishing her get-up with a some oversize Velvet Canyon sunglasses, this is precisely the sort of look we’d expect from Moss, who draws on the influence of the ‘70s to form her achingly-cool aesthetic. It goes without saying that we were impressed by Moss’s showstopping Met Gala look, but this outfit is arguably what the model does best—an elevated take on everyday wear that we can hardly resist copying. Handily, this is one Kate Moss outfit that you can emulate on any budget—scroll below for proof.
As a fashion editor, unsurprisingly, I'm the go-to sources of information for my friends and family when it comes to anything style-related. Whether it's a dress for a big date or simply the perfect white tee, I've addressed every question you could imagine. And today I'm going to provide a solution to the age-old conundrum—what to wear to a hen do.
So, what do you wear to a hen do? The fact is that there's not one simple sartorial solution. Every hen do comes with a myriad of scheduled activities, and each one lasts an entire day, if not a weekend or a few days. That means your outfit really needs to work hard to not only last from pancakes at breakfast to partying at night, but also be practical and comfortable enough to wear for a 12-hour period, minimum.
And the fact is that if it's your best friend's wedding, the likelihood is that you've organised the hen do for all 20 of her closest mates; such is the logistical nightmare of the whole thing that you've probably barely had time think about what to pack for yourself. This is why I decided to address this particular style dilemma, just as wedding season is beginning to ramp up. Whether you're heading to a far-flung destination or getting cosy in the countryside, scroll down to see my suggestions on what to wear to a hen do, whatever your plans involve.
Jetting away for a few days means more clothing to pack, but chances are you'll be flying with hand luggage only, so multipurpose dresses are really essential. Choose styles that are dressy enough for the bar but not too delicate for the beach. Stow them in your beach bag to throw on over your swimsuit after dark. Style with a pair of simple yet comfortable espadrilles for a chic day-to-night look. Just like dresses, a co-ord presents an easy outfit solution that doesn’t take much styling effort on your part—short styles are proving all the rage right now, so why not look the part in doing so? Just add gold earrings. Oh, and don’t forget the sun cream.
The perfect holiday dress.
Wear this swimsuit with a pair of wide-leg trousers for cocktails.
Only pack shoes in shades that’ll go with lots of different outfits.
You’ll get so much wear out of this short back on home soil, too.
The comfiest shorts you’ll ever wear.
We've all been to one of those hen parties where you start the day around noon for a late boozy bottomless brunch, followed by a wealth of activities like life-drawing sessions, a cocktail-making class, and a prosecco-fuelled treasure hunt. A chic yet comfortable midi skirt is an ideal choice for this sort of hen—the easy throw-on style with a fun print or pretty fabric means you don't have to worry about too much about accessorising—pair it with a vest top underneath for when you want to look fancier, but keep a cosy knit to hand for whenever a venue change is underway. Flat shoes are ideal, too, as after a day on your feet, the last thing you’ll want to do is dance the night away in a pair of heels. A bag big enough to fit said jumper in, along with the usual hen party regalia, is also advisable.
Tie this round your shoulders or your waist for a laid-back look.
This will dress up instantly with a pair of gold earrings.
Try styling this skirt with trainers, too.
Dream summer sandal contender.
I have this bag, and always receive compliments on it.
What do you mean, you need more than just pyjamas for a country retreat? Okay, you probably do. But this suitcase needs to be all about the basics. Think jeans, easy T-shirts and cosy sweaters and a decent jacket for evenings in the garden when the sun has gone down. But don't forget your pyjamas—opt for luxe sleepwear that works for daytime, too, for the many, many photos you know are going to be taken throughout the hen.
It’s practical, but still fashionable.
Dark jeans are really having a moment.
No field or cobbled street is a match for these track-sole ankle boots.
Pyjamas you’ll never want to take off.
A cosy layer for lounging in is essential.
Off to the continent for a weekend of sightseeing and sangria sipping? What you need is a series of easy-wearing simple separates that you can mix and match. A pair of tailored trousers for day or night, a selection of good cotton T-shirts and a cover-up you can throw on and look chic in. Plus, you should pack a pair if trainers for pounding the pavements in and a versatile pair of heels for evenings. Oh, and your sunglasses.
Trenches are perfect way to look stylish when you’re out exploring a city.
I get all of my jersey basics from M&S.
I’m in love with this sage shade.
Although roomy, the sleek design of this bag means it’ll carry from day to night seamlessly.
Fashion’s favourite trainer is a good bet.
A great pair of sandals is always a good investment. Pick the perfect, versatile style and you’ll wear them basically every day from spring until the cooler days of autumn, and then look forward to pulling them out again next year, too. That’s why it’s often worth spending a little more on a pair you really love that has long-lasting quality.
Enter: The Row’s fisherman sandals. Comfortable, and surprisingly easy to style with so many different outfits, it’s no wonder that this minimalist leather strappy style has garnered a huge following amongst fashion’s most stylish people ever since they first showed up on the Olsen Twins’ catwalk a few seasons ago. Despite their focus on anti-trend collections full of timeless staples, it would be an understatement to say the luxury label has a talent for dictating some of fashion’s most wanted pieces— and these sandals are the latest in a long line of utterly (and sometimes strangely) desirable classics created by The Row.
Ok, they’re not the daintiest sandals in the world, but if any sandal trend has proven its worth lately it’s chunkier, so-called “ugly” ones. From flatform flip flops to Birkenstocks— it’s clear fashion has a penchant for practical footwear that’s set to last. Controversial they may be, but there’s no doubt the fisherman style provides the perfect antidote to pretty dresses and relaxed summer tailoring.
Keep scrolling and you can shop this in-demand style in the black and white colour ways while they’re still in stock (last year they both sold out before summer even arrived, you’ve been warned), as well as some more of the best fisherman sandals on the market right now. I’ve also added in some examples of how influencers have been styling theirs with everything from classic blue jeans to airy white dresses, in case you were still in need of some chic minimalist spring outfit inspo. You’re welcome…
They balance out a pretty white dress so well.
Just add them to jeans for an easy everyday look.
TyLynn pairs them with cropped tailored trousers to great effect.
The perfect addition to a midi skirt.
They even work for cooler months layered with socks.
How chic do they look paired with a suit for summer?
The white pair feel really fresh for summer.
Black is such a classic, and as proven above they can even be worn in winter.
The buckle on these make them feel extra elevated.
Probably the best high street option I've found.
Such a good affordable version.
If you prefer a less chunky sole, opt for these Whisteles ones.
For premium leather you know will only get better with age, I love this Grenson pair.
ASOS has tapped into the trend with this pair.
A fisherman sandal with Gucci's iconic horsebit detailing— what's not to like?
If you're a big fan of a chunkier style, this tread-sole version will be right up your street.
If you grew up in the 2000s, you'll probably be surprised to hear that the decade's fashion trends are once again popular. I was born in 1994, and if you ask me, the decade still feels like it happened just yesterday. I grew up watching Britney Spears music videos and vying to get my hands on basically everything Paris Hilton wore. For me, 2000s fashion trends are even more nostalgic than those of the '80s or '90s.
Yes, I'm talking about the teeny-tiny handbags and even tinier strappy sandals that defined the decade's aesthetic. I won't lie, though. I'm thankful that not everything we wore in the 2000s is making it into the 2010s because, well, styles like ultra-low-rise jeans are best left in the past (in my opinion). But if you're as ready as we are to embrace the best of noughties fashion once again, see all the 2000s fashion trends that are still going strong ever since their initial resurgence.
WHO: Paris Hilton, 2005
The hair accessories are still popping up everywhere from Gucci to Claire's. The good news is that you don't have to spend a fortune to nail this noughties trend.
The sparklier the better.
WHO: Destiny's Child, 2005
One thing we'll always remember this decade for was how committed everyone was to achieving a standout look. In other words, the coordination level was 100. No matter which current It colour you choose, test it out from head to toe (and channel Destiny's Child while you're at it).
This buttery yellow is pastel perfection.
The corset bodice contrasts the flowing skirt.
WHO: Britney Spears, 2003
Yes, the "ugly" chic pants are officially a trend of the present-day, and we're not even sorry to say that we're excited to start wearing the practical style.
A key style this season.
H&M always comes through with great style at great prices.
WHO: Kate Moss, 2003
Strappy sandals are still having a major moment, and we're thanking icons like Kate Moss who made the shoes look so good.
Style with dresses or sleek tailoring.
These will never go out of style.
WHO: Eva Longoria, 2005
Whether logo-filled, baguette-shaped, or the iconic Dior saddle, consider this the 2000s It bag trend to own.
Rachel Green would approve.
With various patterns and colours there's a Staud Tommy bag for everyone.
WHO: Rihanna, 2005
Trendsetters are already ditching their skinny jeans for looser-fitting pairs, but it's the high-waisted pairs we're after in 2020.
These really elongate your silhouette.
Easy to dress up or down with trainers or heels.
Bucket hats are continuing to be relevant, along with furry and printed versions dominating the market.
A pop of colour to finish your look.
We'll take one in every colour.
WHO: Ashley and Mary-Kate Olsen, 2001
Cropped T-shirts and tank tops immediately feel like the fresh basic you need. You'll find us diving deep into the 2000s trend by wearing them with our cargo pants and tiny bags.
Total retro vibes in classic Fiorucci fashion.
A 90's twist on a classic breton.
WHO: Minnie Driver, 2005
Ready or not, this shoe trend is bubbling back up again—except that 2022's versions are much sleeker and strappier.
Paris Texas always gets it right.
An architectural masterpiece.
WHO: Tyra Banks, 2004
Thought you'd sworn off the loud colour for good? Think again. Lime green is just one of the colours vying to be the next millennial pink, so prepare to see a lot of it in the coming months.
These hit two trends at once.
This post was originally published at an earlier date and has since been updated.Hailey Bieber and Alexa Chung Wore a Wedding Dresses to the Met Gala Posted: Tue, 03 May 2022 09:38:07 +0000
If you were one of the many brides-to-be who had to postpone their weddings due to COVID, let this be the one upside to delaying your big day, especially if you also held off on buying *the* dress. On the steps of tonight's Met Gala, where the biggest names in fashion come together in gowns that will be talked about for decades (no really, they will be), Hailey Bieber arrived in what can only be described as the wedding dress of our dreams. And she wasn't the only one.
For the annual event, Bieber, who wore custom Off-White to her actual wedding in 2019, chose a white, silk slip dress by Saint Laurent that was inspired by an Yves Saint Laurent gown worn by supermodel Jerry Hall on the runway at the designer's spring 2002 Haute Couture retrospective show in Paris. With the slip, both Hall and Bieber wore a feather-trimmed shawl perfectly fit for a bride in 2022.
No worries if slip dresses aren't what you had in mind for your big day, though. There were plenty of other bridal-esque ensembles at the 2022 Met Gala for you to consider, from Cynthia Erivo's sheer lace Louis Vuitton drop-waist gown to Paloma Elsesser's ivory-colored Coach bustier and sheer skirt, there was a wedding dress for every bridal aesthetic on the red carpet this year, all of which would just as easily stun at a modern-day wedding as they would way back when in the Gilded Age (maybe with a few minor tweaks).
Keep scrolling to see (and save for later) every wedding-ready Met Gala look below.
WHO: Hailey Bieber. WEAR: Saint Laurent
WHO: Sydney Sweeney. WEAR: Tory Burch
WHO: Paloma Elsesser. WEAR: Coach
WHO: Alexa Chung. WEAR: Christian Siriano
WHO: Kylie Jenner. WEAR: Off-White
WHO: Julianne Moore. WEAR: Tom Ford
WHO: Cynthia Erivo. WEAR: Louis Vuitton
WHO: Camila Cabello. WEAR: Prabal Gurung
WHO: Emma Stone. WEAR: Louis Vuitton
WHO: Eiza González. WEAR: Michael Kors
WHO: Miranda Kerr
DATING & RELATIONSHIP
Topics:DATING ROMANCE STORIES
When you go on a date with a guy, you’re super attracted to and vibing with, it can be difficult to see through what I call “the fog of love.”
You’re so into him that maybe you overlook that terribly creased shirt, that backhanded compliment, or the obvious reasons your relationship will never work.
That’s a huge part of my job as a dating coach. You can think of me as your big brother, making sure you’re reading between the lines and making good choices so that you end up with a guy who is a good long-term fit for you.
So, is it time to say, NEXT?!
If he has these signs, lean in. If he doesn’t, move on.
- He values your personality
Low-value men only look for short-term flings and are primarily concerned with a woman’s physical appearance. He has no interest in who you are or what you have to say because he’s not planning on sticking around long enough for it even to matter.
In contrast, high-value men are looking for something real. Usually, they’re old enough to have reached a point where they’re done with meaningless hookups, so a woman’s personality matters more to them.
He’ll look at how much fun he has around you, your sense of humor, interests, and passions.
- He will respect your opinion even if he disagrees with you
In every new relationship, there comes a time when you eventually have your first big fight. Until this point, you agreed on everything, and suddenly, you didn’t.
In this moment, he will either be very disrespectful (low value) or respect your viewpoint and be open that he disagrees (high value).
Remember, you don’t have to agree on everything – that’s impossible!
- He won’t be needy because he will have a life outside of the relationship
A high-value man will always have things going on outside of his romantic relationship. He will have an active professional life and an active social life. He will have other obligations and maybe even kids he regularly spends time with.
The bottom line is that he will remain independent even when he’s in a relationship and have other priorities besides you.
Sometimes, this can be difficult to deal with, but you both must have a life outside of each other because this creates a healthy relationship dynamic.
So take a look at your own life. Do you have a thriving career, a circle of friends you spend time with, hobbies you love, and other interests that keep you busy?
Remember, no amazing man will want a life with you unless you have an amazing life without him!
- He won’t play games and will be clear about what he wants when it comes to commitment
Look, he’s not going to tell you on a first date that he wants to commit to you because that’s not healthy!
But he won’t play games after a few months when commitment is naturally on the table. He won’t start saying he’s not sure if he wants a relationship or start messing with your head. A high-value man would be straightforward with you because he respects you and won’t have spent all this time with you if he didn’t see it going somewhere.
High-value relationships are clear and consistent.
- He presents himself well
Another of the signs you’re dating a high-value man is if he knows how to dress to impress, be comfortable in high-value environments, and shows up with the right energy.
I was working with a super high-value client, and she went on a date with a guy wearing these terrible, decade-old jeans ripped to shreds (and not in a good way). He had a low-value job and wasn’t presenting himself well.
She was making excuses for him and trying to justify why they were potentially a good match, and I told her it was time to say, NEXT!
- He will give you emotional support when you need it but call you out on your BS
I like to be with people who call me out on my BS and support me emotionally. Jessica is super supportive but always calls me out, and I like that. Don’t be a yes-woman because high-value men aren’t looking for this. They want to be with someone candid who challenges them when needed.
If you want that optimum balance of support and callouts, it requires being with a guy who is confident enough to speak up and disagree with you.
- The relationship will feel uncomplicated
The final sign that you’re with a high-value man is if everything feels easy most of the time. You should both be on the same page.
If a relationship is complicated in the early stages, there’s a good chance it’s not right for you.
Low-value men tend to always be in the middle of a mess, whether moving apartments, in the middle of a divorce, or transitioning jobs.
So be honest with yourself when you’re out there dating so that you leave room for the right guy to show up.
Have you ever wasted time in a low-value relationship? What would you do differently knowing what you know now?
Share your story with me in the comments below!
I talk a lot about keeping an eye out for red flags when dating and in a relationship. For example, when a guy has no photos on his dating profile, trashes his ex on your first date, or explicitly tells you he isn’t looking for a relationship – RED FLAGS! But what are green flags, and why are they equally important to look out for?What the heck is a green flag anyway?
A red flag = problematic, unhealthy, or toxic behavior when dating, which is likely to lead to an unhealthy relationship.
A green flag = positive behavior or personal qualities that indicate this person is likely to approach relationships in a mature and healthy way.
Just like traffic lights, red means hit the brakes and take a step back, while green means it’s safe to keep moving forward.
Knowing what the common red and green flags are helps us avoid potentially unhealthy relationships and recognize what healthy relationships look like. This awareness helps you quickly weed out the low-value, unavailable men so that you don’t waste time pursuing a connection that doesn’t match your love vision (Little Love Step #2) or the future you want to build. You can then move toward high-value men who display healthy behaviors, and you’re far more likely to find yourself in relationship alignment.
The thing about humans is our brains are trained to look for the negative. This means we might spend all our time scanning for red flags and completely ignore green flags. And that can lead to you overlooking a potentially amazing man.
What are green flags in a relationship? 22 things to look out for 1. You both remain independent
When both partners have a healthy attachment style, they won’t feel the need to spend all their time with each other and ditch their friends and family. When couples over-rely on each other, there’s a high risk of becoming codependent, which weakens your relationship. Plus, how boring will it get if you only hang out with each other? We all saw what happened during the pandemic – most couples ran out of things to say to each other because they were stuck with each other 24/7.
A green flag is when a man values his independence and encourages you to maintain yours. He should spend quality time with his friends and pursue his hobbies and goals, and you should do the same. This stops you from relying so much on each other and helps you take responsibility for your happiness and growth.
2. You feel like equals
What do I mean by this?
You make decisions together, have an equal say in everything, have access to the resources you need, and hold each other to the same standards. This is equality.
The flip side of this is when a man handles everything to do with money, invites a load of people to your house without discussing it with you, or insists on ordering for you when you’re out to dinner. These are red flags.3. He’s self-aware
Another green flag to look out for when dating and in a relationship is when a guy is aware of his behavior, emotions, flaws, patterns, fears, and dreams and how his actions might affect other people. He takes time to reflect on his past experiences to understand them better, learn from his mistakes, and improve in the future. Self-aware men are far more likely to be intentional about how they show up in a relationship, notice issues when they arise and recognize when they are at the center of those issues.4. He knows what he wants and is honest about it
It doesn’t matter if a guy is looking for something casual or serious. What matters is he is clear on what he wants and vocalizes it early in the dating process so that you’re both on the same page. He’s not afraid to have an open and honest conversation with you about where his head is and where the relationship might lead.
On the flip side, a red flag is when a guy avoids answering questions about his intentions for the relationship and plays games with you. Mature, caring, honest men will not do this.5. He respects you & your boundaries
A green flag early on is when a man values your opinions, feelings, and needs – even if they’re different from his own – and gives you the freedom to be your authentic self.
The first step here is to set clear boundaries so that you feel comfortable and safe when dating and in a relationship. Once you’ve done this, if a man crosses your boundaries or even prods at them, it’s a red flag.
For example, if you tell a man that you would feel safer meeting him in a busier, more public place, he should immediately understand and not try and change your mind. If there’s a certain sexual activity you don’t want to try, he should respect that and not push you until you give in.
6. He listens well
Does he actively listen to you on a date? Does he ask you thoughtful follow-up questions so he can get to know you better? And does he remember things you told him later down the line? These are all shiny green flags when dating and in a relationship because he is demonstrating a clear effort to hear and understand who you are.
Active listening is crucial in the long run because it creates deeper levels of emotional intimacy in the relationship. Plus, it means he will be able to hear you when you’re in conflict with each other and try to empathize with where you’re coming from so you can work through it.7. He is a healthy communicator (or is actively working on being better)
Communication truly is an essential foundation of any healthy, long-term relationship. If one or both of you don’t know how to express your feelings, discuss and work through them, you will quickly run into problems.
A green flag is when a guy makes you feel seen and heard and uses “I statements” instead of pointing the finger at you. This is how to work through conflict together as a team without hurting and blaming each other. It’s about taking responsibility for your actions instead of making the other person feel wrong.
For example, let’s say a guy goes out with his friends and doesn’t send you a text to let you know he got home safe and leaves you to worry. Once you express your concern, a green flag statement would be something like, “I’m sorry I didn’t check in or consider how that might have led you to worry.” A red flag statement would be, “you’re too sensitive,” or “why do you always go crazy about this stuff?”8. He’s able to open up and be emotional with you
The ability to open up and be vulnerable is linked to being a healthy communicator. A healthy relationship relies on both people recognizing their emotions, where they originate from, what they need, and sharing these openly and honestly. This is how we form emotional connections and develop real intimacy.
It’s not easy to do this, but it’s an essential skill to build a healthy, stable relationship that lasts. Yes, there’s a possibility of rejection, but on the other hand, there’s a possibility of love, and you cannot fall in love without taking this risk and being able to let someone in.
A red flag is when a man is emotionally unavailable or afraid of intimacy. It doesn’t make him a bad person; it just means he’s trying to protect himself from this risk.9. He validates your feelings
You are entitled to feel all your feelings. It’s a green flag when dating or in a relationship, and your partner can empathize with your perspective and honor what you’re feeling, even if he disagrees or has a completely different point of view.
The flip side of this is if a man disregards or invalidates how you feel when you’re fighting – this is a form of mistreatment, and you deserve more than this.10. He gives you audio + visual
In my Love Accelerator program, I encourage all women to look for audio and visual cues from the men they’re dating.
What does that mean?
That a guy tells you he’s going to do something or makes plans with you (audio) and then follows through with his actions (visual). If he’s all audio, i.e., he tells you he’ll show up to a family gathering but flakes out at the last minute, it shows that he doesn’t honor his commitments, which is a major red flag.
But if he’s always there when he says he will be and comes through on his promises, it demonstrates that he respects you and himself and is invested in the relationship. This is a green flag – you have to be able to count on someone if you’re going to be with them for the long haul.11. He’s kind & caring
We all have those moments where we behave less-than-stellarly and throw an uncalled-for temper tantrum. But generally speaking, if a man treats you well, is kind and caring (even when you’re arguing), shows up when he says he will, and treats other people well, it’s a green flag.
Sometimes, men will put on an act when dating because they’re trying to get something from a woman, so it can be difficult to know how genuine he is. That’s why it’s helpful to look at how he treats others, especially people he can’t gain anything from (e.g., a waiter or a taxi driver). You want to be with someone who does his best to do the right thing and treat people with kindness. Not because he thinks he’ll gain anything from it but because it’s the loving thing to do and aligns with his moral compass.12. He’s empathetic
Have you ever been in a relationship where you’ve felt sad, and your partner ends up mirroring your mood? Or he tries to understand where you’re coming from and does his best to support you and lift your spirits. This is a sign of empathy and a sure-fire green flag in any relationship. A good partner will be able to understand and relate to other people’s emotions (including yours).
You know who doesn’t have empathy? Serial killers and psychopaths. Everyone else has empathy.
13. You feel comfortable around him
Another green flag to look for is feeling like you can be who you are and not have to walk on eggshells or try hard to impress them. You should feel comfortable and at ease with a man because this indicates that you feel safe, which is key to building trust.
If you’re constantly worried about how you look, what you’re saying, and what he’s thinking about you, it might be because you’re insecure and need to work on your self-worth. If so, head back to Little Love Step #1. The second possibility is that he behaves in a way that puts you on edge, or there’s something about him that brings dis-ease to your body, which is a red flag.14. He’s actively engaged in the relationship
High-value women only invest in a connection if they see a man invest in them. So when a man is texting, calling, making plans, going out of his way to impress you and show you that he wants to pursue things, it’s a green flag. Not just when you’re in the dating phase but for couples who have been in a relationship for years because a serious relationship requires both people to show up every day.
This is one of those green flags you can see early on. If he’s not engaged and invested in you or the relationship, it’s a red flag, and it’s time to put your energy elsewhere – NEXT!15. He has healthy relationships with others
This is a green flag for two reasons. Firstly, healthy relationships with friends, family, and coworkers show that he can communicate effectively with others. Secondly, it shows he has other things going on besides you but is willing to make space for you. This is another commonality with high-value men and women. Like I always say, no amazing man will want a relationship with you unless you’ve got an amazing life without him! And this goes both ways.
Pay attention to how he talks about others. If he mentions friends and family with respect and kindness, it’s a green flag and tells you he has the capacity to form and maintain healthy relationships.16. It feels stable
If you’re constantly wondering how your partner will behave or react to something, and your connection feels volatile, it’s a red flag. In contrast, if you can trust how a man will treat you and respond in a situation (for the most part), and you feel safe and stable with him, that’s a green flag. This is why long-term relationships are, to a certain extent, boring. They must be because balance, calm, and a certain degree of predictability are key to a healthy relationship.17. He wants to give you what you need
It will take a while for a new partner to get to know you intimately and learn how he can be a great partner to you. People naturally give and want to receive love in different ways. So if he is eager to learn and understand your needs, love language, erotic blueprint, and the little things that mean a lot to you in a relationship, that’s a green flag.
Pay attention to the effort he puts into accommodating you in his life and delivering what you need without making you feel unreasonable.18. Things are moving at the right pace
One of the primary reasons men ghost or pull away comes down to moving too fast and investing too much in one guy too soon. Little Love Step #5 of my Little Love Steps is all about pacing the progression of your connections.
It’s a green flag if both people move at a steady pace, have time to get clear on their feelings, and organically develop a connection. If he is willing to give you the space you need and slow things down when you need to, even if he’s ready to commit, that’s a sign of respect and understanding.
If a man puts pressure on you or tries to escalate the relationship too soon, it’s a red flag. Ask yourself, why is he in such a rush? Good things – like you – take time, and if he’s not willing to be patient, then it’s time to say NEXT!19. You make a great team
Yes, you should maintain your independence and be your own person in a relationship, but it should still feel like you’re on the same team. That means you work together, have each other’s back, make joint decisions, and navigate life’s challenges as a unit.
If you’ve just started dating a guy, this might be as simple as cooking a meal together or navigating an escape room together! In a relationship, that might mean helping someone job hunt when they get laid off or planning a vacation together instead of letting one person do all the work.
20. He is willing to grow
Every relationship is different because every person is different. A relationship is about compromise and fitting your lives together. None of us are perfect, and we all have strengths and flaws. Naturally, you’ll morph into each other slightly without losing your core sense of self.
If a man can take feedback without getting defensive, work on his weaknesses, and learn and evolve as an individual and in the relationship, it’s a green flag. He should strive to be his best self and encourage you to do the same.21. Your relationship feels good
Research by John Gottman, Ph.D., and Robert Levenson, Ph.D., suggests that happy couples enjoy more positive interactions than negative ones (5:1). And that makes sense, right? The happy moments should outweigh the bad times. In my book, you should be happy together 90% of the time. While conflict and bad days are inevitable, you should enjoy most of your time together. Pay attention to how you feel with a man – if time with him feels warm and positive, that’s a green flag for your future relationship.22. He’s happy to talk about the future
The final green flag to look out for when dating or in a relationship is when a man is happy to discuss the future with you. If you’re looking for something long-term, this is an important sign of commitment. So if a man is happy to be open about what he’s looking for and doesn’t run away when you tell him what you’re looking for, it’s a great start. As time goes on, if he’s making plans with you weeks or months into the future, e.g., a vacation or attending a friend’s wedding, this is a good indication that he sees you in his future and is not afraid to commit.Conclusion
Yes, it’s important to be aware of red flags so that you notice when they happen. But don’t let yourself get too focused on the negatives that you miss the positives!
Are there any other green flags that are missing on this list that you make a point of looking out for when dating someone new? Share them with me in the comments below.
The post 22 Green Flags That Signal Strong Relationship Potential appeared first on Love Strategies.11 Meaningful Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Him And Her Posted: Tue, 31 Jan 2023 20:45:28 +0000
Trying to come up with some perfect Valentine’s Day gift ideas can feel stressful. February 14 always feels like it comes with a lot of pressure to get our significant others something extra special. But, finding a memorable, meaningful gift doesn’t have to be so stressful. You just might have to think outside the box and go beyond the gift wrap. And while this might feel like extra work — and pressure — it can result in some of the most thoughtful, romantic, and unique Valentine’s Day gift ideas.
So, if you’re looking for a meaningful Valentine’s Day gift idea that’ll help deepen the connection between you and your partner, you’ve come to the right place! We’ve put together a few creative suggestions that’ll sweep them off their feet!Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas for Him and Her: 11 Creative Ideas to Show How Much You Care
A recent Groupon survey revealed that 80% of US consumers are planning to hit the shops to find that perfect Valentine’s Day gift. So, where do you start when it comes to finding a meaningful gift that’ll really show your partner you care? To help get you started, we’ve put together a list of X unique Valentine’s Day gift ideas to get you inspired!1. Get them a subscription to a meal prep service
If your partner loves to cook, consider getting them a subscription to a meal prep service. Together, spend February 14 creating a high-quality, romantic meal at home. You can then keep the recipe for future inspiration on a rainy day. This is perfect for the partner who doesn’t mind getting their hands a little dirty.2. Give them the gift of the great outdoors
If your partner loves being amongst nature, consider getting them an annual national parks pass. This is one of the most thoughtful Valentine’s Day gift ideas out there and it’ll really show them that you care.
For a reasonable price, an annual pass gives you access to more than 2,000 national parks across the US. For nature enthusiasts and travelers, you can’t beat this one.3. Hook them up with a glamorous ride (for a night)
This one is perfect if your partner loves cars, glam, and the lap of luxury. Rent a high-end car to create the perfect Valentine’s Day date night. Better yet, show up on their doorstep in the new ride and fork over the keys. Sometimes date nights are about indulgence. This is for those seeking it!4. Plan a romantic Valentine’s Day escape
You can learn a lot about someone from how they operate under pressure. An escape room is a great way to do that in a safe, controlled environment. There’re so many different kinds of escape rooms nowadays, from those focused on horror to those centered around solving puzzles.
Most of all though, escapes rooms are just plain fun. But, they aren’t for everyone, so make sure your partner’s the type of person who likes a little brain tease.5. Spend the day at the spa
According to YouGovAmerica, 19% of American women would like to receive a certificate for a spa day as a Valentine’s Day gift. And, with lots of spas throughout the country offering special deals on February 14, this is certainly up there with the best Valentine’s Day gift ideas for her. Seaweed wraps, massages, and saunas are the real key to the heart.6. Get them concert tickets
If your partner is a big music fan, concert tickets are an amazing way to show them you care. There’s nothing quite like dancing in the middle of a buzzing crowd while listening to your favorite artist perform their music live. Your partner will be able to appreciate that.7. Check Airbnb for weekend deals
If you live in a city, checking into a quiet Airbnb can be the romantic getaway you’re after. Sometimes a simple change of scenery is all you need to spark an intimate moment. This little step outside the normal routine can do just that.
There are tons of options to choose from when it comes to romantic Valentine’s Day getaways with Airbnb. Pick where you’d like to go and surprise your partner with a packed bag on the morning of February 14. Few Valentine’s Day gift ideas are more romantic than that!8. Take the leap (sort of)
Indoor skydiving is all the rage these days. For those that aren’t quite ready for the real thing, indoor skydiving offers you a fun experience at an accessible price with almost none of the risk.
There’re plenty of locations across the US where you can give this exciting Valentine’s Day gift idea a go. So, if your partner is into off-the-wall experiences, this might be your pick. What better way to say you’re “falling” for them!9. Give them something homemade
When it comes to cute Valentine’s Day gift ideas, handmade crafts are an amazing way to show how much someone means to you. Whether it’s a homemade gift set or an engraved photo frame, these types of gifts are truly meaningful. Don’t worry if you’re not experienced with making DIY crafts either, the thought and effort you put into the gift are what’ll make it special!10. Get them a custom star map
Finding that perfect Valentine’s Day gift for him or her is all about thinking outside the box. Custom star maps fit this exactly and will truly show your partner how mean they mean to you. Whether it’s the moment first met or the unforgettable memory of that first date kiss, custom star maps let you capture the precise position of the stars at a special date and time.
Companies like The Night Sky are renowned for offering quality products that can be specially tailored to you. As an added bonus, they often offer special February 14 deals for those looking for that perfect Valentine’s Day gift.11. Go with tradition and book a dinner reservation
Sometimes, the classics are still the best. With 22% of Americans saying they plan to get dressed up and go for an unforgettable dinner this February 14, it’s hard to look past this option as one of the best Valentine’s Day gift ideas. Valentine’s Day is about the two of you, so pick someplace quiet where the food is good and the atmosphere is romantic.Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas: Make Your Partner’s Heart Swell!
The best Valentine’s Day gift ideas are the ones that are thoughtful, creative, and unique. There’re many ways to show love and appreciation and they’re not all wrappable. This means skipping the gift card and finding something memorable instead. Although this might be harder and more time-consuming, it’s worth it!
The post 11 Meaningful Valentine’s Day Gift Ideas For Him And Her appeared first on The Date Mix.Romantic Valentine’s Day Date Ideas to Escape the Crowds Posted: Tue, 31 Jan 2023 20:45:27 +0000
Where do you start when it comes to choosing the perfect Valentine’s Day date idea? You know what it’s like. Heart-shaped chocolate box commercials clog the airwaves of every channel. All restaurants in town are booked with an overpriced prix fixe meal. Yep, Valentine’s Day is back! And although you’ve already treated your partner to a thoughtful Valentine’s Day gift, you’re now looking to combine this with the perfect date night.
Your only problem? Every spot you thought of is already crowded with couples who sorted their plans months ago. Don’t worry. We’ve put together a list of romantic and creative Valentine’s Day date ideas so you won’t have to deal with the February love rush.9 Creative Valentine’s Day Date Ideas for Him and Her
1. Candlelit dinner at home
Can’t get into a restaurant? No problem! Valentine’s Day home date ideas are all the rave right now. Pick a recipe, shop for the ingredients at your local grocery store, choose some nice wine, and prepare for a romantic night in.
When the time is right, light the candles and you have a restaurant experience in the comfort of your own home. Who said the best Valentine’s date ideas had to involve leaving the house?
2. Winter picnic
Bundled up in your warmest winter clothes? Packed some blankets? Picked selection of your favorite fruit and cheese? You’re ready to go!
If you can, choose your winter picnic location in a spot where you can light a fire and snuggle up. Because of the colder weather, you’ll have a good chance of being alone. A private, unique, and romantic Valentine’s Day date idea!
3. Romantic scavenger hunt
For the type-A folks out there, a romantic scavenger hunt can be one of the best Valentine’s Day date ideas. It’s a great way to put a little effort into your display of affection. Hand your significant other the first clue in bed in the morning, then let the games begin.
The best part is, it’s totally up to you how big you want to make it. Whether you keep it in the house or take the scavenger hunt all around town is up to you.
4. Chocolate making class
How many times have you given or received a box of chocolate for Valentine’s Day? Now, how many times have you made the chocolate? Right. There’s a class for everything these days and chocolate making is no exception.
Google “chocolate-making classes near me” and you’re bound to find one at your local chocolatier or rec center. If you and your partner prefer to stay in, choose from one of the many chocolate-making classes online. It’ll be messy, fun, and romantic. The best part is, well, eating chocolate. It’s a win for everybody.
5. Stargazing hike
If you’re feeling up for the challenge, bundle up and get hiking. You’ll probably want to pick a short trail since it’s likely to be cold. But, few things are more romantic than a clear, starry night with your partner.
6. AcroYoga course
As if yoga alone wasn’t trendy enough, now you can try it with a partner. It might sound like a bit of an out-there Valentine’s day date idea, but it can help you and your partner to connect in a whole new way.
It’s worth doing some research to find the best studios in your area before getting started. But AcroYoga is a fun way to get a workout in and get physical in a sensual way. If someone gets dropped, at least it’ll be worth a few laughs.
7. Bed and breakfast getaway
Itching to get out of town? Book a bed and breakfast somewhere within driving distance. It’s a good way to get a change of scenery and away from the hustle and bustle of your hometown. And your breakfast gets taken care of so you can relax the morning away.
8. Couples spa day
It’s a classic Valentine’s Day date idea for reason. A spa is the epitome of relaxation and pampering, and your partner will thank you for it. Nothing says I love you like a deep herb scrub and essential oil massage, followed by a few minutes in the sauna and a nice dinner to top it off.
9. Volunteering at the SPCA
If you can’t get a pet but miss having animals, this is your ticket. The Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals (SPCA) is always on the lookout for volunteers. Choose this Valentine’s date idea if you and your partner fancy spending the day hanging out with the pups and kittens that have had a rough ride in life. Do some Google searching to find your local SPCA branch and get in touch to let them know you’re available to help. You won’t regret it!
You’ll win bonus good citizen points as a reward for your selfless work too. I guarantee you this has not been suggested as a cute Valentine’s Day date idea before, but it’s one of our favorites!Craft Your Best Valentine’s Date Together
When it comes to Valentine’s Day date ideas, it’s always important to remember that spending quality time with your partner is the most important part, regardless of the specific activity you end up choosing. Work out a plan together for something special that you’d both enjoy doing. And, if you’re genuine, sweet, and present with each other, that’s the sign of a good date and a good relationship!
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Valentine’s Day 2022 is a year behind us and it’s now time to gear up for Valentine’s Day 2023! There’s plenty to be positive about this year and now’s the moment to be our best selves!
If you’re single and wondering what to do on Valentine’s Day 2023, I’m here to offer my two cents on what to do to still have a loved-up kinda day. I want to help get you in the right mindset and arm yourself with a few action steps not only to make February 14 a happy one but also a day that’ll launch you into 2023 with an open and positive outlook!Valentine’s Day 2023: A Guide to Making it Goodie
Avoid social media
Ok, before you call me a crazy person, hear me out. One of the biggest problems with social media as a society is that it can increase FOMO and feelings of loneliness, disappointment, and inadequacy. You may think you’re just checking in on family and friends, but when you see others experiencing Valentine’s Day in a way that makes you wish you had, the truth of the matter is that it can negatively impact your mood.
Your goal this year is to find a way to maximize happiness and minimize any chance of feeling the blues. Making a plan to avoid going on social media for at least 24 hours on or around February 14 can help do just that.
Write yourself a card
I know that giving yourself a card for Valentine’s Day may seem uninspiring. But, I’m not talking about forcing yourself to go out and buy a card at the grocery store and giving it to yourself (although if that makes you happy please do). What I suggest is getting some beautiful stationery and writing down all the good things you have done in the past year, the things you like most about yourself, and what brings you joy.
Maybe you’ve overcome some incredible personal obstacles in the past year that you’re proud of? Or maybe you’ve tried some new activities and made some unexpected friends that excite you? Whatever it is, focus on the positives and the things that make you smile and enjoy recognizing the accomplishment in that.
Dedicate the whole day to yourself
Valentine’s Day 2023 is on Tuesday this year but that doesn’t mean it’s a day for getting caught up in work and not focusing on yourself. Your goal starting now is to sit down and start planning what your perfect day might look like.
Begin by making a list of your favorite activities or guilty pleasures. Then pick one or two things from that list and make them happen. It could be ordering in your favorite take-out or candlelit yoga, taking a doubly-long bubble bath with a book, or watching a Romantic Comedies marathon.
Think about what will feel good for you. Do you want to dress up and put on some red lipstick for a Zoom catch-up with friends? Or is it a day of solitude in your PJs? Whatever you choose, remember it is YOUR day and you can be as selfish as you want to be, just make sure to make an actual plan for yourself for the day!
Do something nice for someone
As much as this is a perfect ‘me day’, make sure to take a moment to connect with the other important people in your life too. It’s true, you may not be in that forever relationship yet, but that doesn’t mean you can’t tap into that special sharing and giving part of you.
This can be as simple as sending someone a simple handmade card or flowers or even just a nice text wishing them the very best Valentine’s Day possible and thanking them for being in your life.
Buy yourself a nice gift
Like many around the world, you have had a very trying couple of years and this little gift is a way to thank yourself for being you and continuing to push forward in challenging times.
The gift can be practical or a splurge, but the intent is to make the purchase a conscious effort to give something to you, from you… no strings attached. Buy yourself 100 roses or an air fryer – truly whatever floats your boat and will make your heart smile!
Plan Your Valentine’s Day 2024
New Year’s is usually the time for resolutions, but if you want the next Valentine’s Day to be the one you share with that special someone you have to start working towards making it happen. And when I say work, I do mean work.
When I was a struggling single in my early 30s I knew I had to change things up. I flipped the switch and made it a goal to find the man of my dreams. I truly treated this goal as a job, not as some idyllic dream. My action steps included reading self-improvement and relationship-building books, as well as putting myself out there on dating sites and single’s events.
Within one year of that choice and by sticking to my plan, I met the man of my dreams. We have been married for almost a decade now. This can be you too if you want to make it happen enough to take steps in that direction.
Dating, especially on Valentine’s Day 2023, may look a bit different to years past, but if you plan for what would make you feel good you can enjoy celebrating YOU and the special people in your life on the day! Remember that there’re many different kinds of love and many different kinds of ways to celebrate that! This year, be your great love and plan your perfect kinda day! You deserve it!
If you feel like you could benefit from some more support reach out to Amie here. Amie Leadingham is a Master Certified Relationship Coach. Her greatest accomplishments come from seeing her clients find lasting love, and she offers a 30 minute Free Relationship Readiness Review here. Amie has been named one of LA’s “Best Dating Coaches” by DatingAdvice and featured in a variety of media outlets including the CBS Network, Fox 5 News, People Entertainment Weekly Channel, HelloGiggles and Martha Stewart Weddings. Grab her free eBook, 5 Dating Traps Keeping You Single here.
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There is no better way to reach people’s hearts than through food. And in the case of your wedding day, choosing the right food and drink for your reception is a major consideration. It’s important to find a great wedding caterer regardless of whether you’re planning a formal dinner or a cocktail hour with appetizers to have a remarkable food experience. We’ve listed the most important questions you’ll need to know the answers to before you hire a caterer.Are you available on our preferred day?
The first question you should ask is whether your wedding date is available. Once that’s done, you may want to ask if your wedding will be the only event on their calendar. You will receive a more personalized experience and service since you are the only event on that day.Do you have any experience catering at our venue?
Do you want to get the best catering experience for your special day? If so, it is important to pick a wedding caterer who has the expertise and understanding of working with different venues. Knowing that they have worked with other venues similar in design can bring confidence in their ability to cater an event successfully. It would be even better if they have specific experience at your chosen venue!
Not only will this provide assurance during your decision-making process, but having someone aware of all parts of the facility yields great potential for stunning results on a memorable day. With this added knowledge and familiarity, a caterer could create excellent food and drink options tailored to fit within its hallways. You can learn more here about finding a wedding caterer with experience at the same venue as yours.What are your menu options? Do you have a standard menu, or are you able to design a customized one?
Whatever type of meal service you select for your wedding reception, whether it’s a plated dinner, a buffet, barbecue or an hors d’oeuvres bar, it will influence the overall vibe of the day. If you already have a unique vision for your meal service style, it is essential to find out if your caterer can accommodate it.Do you have a favourite dish that you serve most often?
Caterers often specialize in a particular cuisine, such as organic foods, vegan cuisine, kosher, halal food, south Asian food, and African food. In addition to cuisines, many of them are famous for a signature dish. Your caterer should be familiar with the type of food you want.What’s included in your package and what costs extra?
An additional fee or upgrade charge can throw off your wedding budget. It is important to be as transparent as possible with your caterer in order not to be disappointed with what you get. You should be aware of any additional charges that may be added beyond what is stated before.Can you take care of various allergy or dietary requests?
Your caterer should be able to handle any dietary restrictions you have or the dietary restrictions of your guests, such as gluten-free, nut-free, or vegan to satisfy everyone. If there will be children at your reception, you might also inquire about children’s meals.Where do you source your food from?
In some wedding caterers’ portfolios, you can find a list of local sources of food that they serve. In case you prefer to eat local, fresh, and organic food, you may want to check on the availability of those options.Are you also able to make wedding cakes?
Catering companies that can provide wedding cakes are certainly convenient, but they are not always the best choice. In that case, you can hire an outside cake baker to create the signature cake of your choice.Do you offer server and bartender services?
This is a significant question to ask before you decide on your caterer since you’ll need servers and bartenders to accommodate your guests. The catering company’s staff and servers play a crucial role in interacting with your guests throughout the reception. To ensure your loved ones are well taken care of during the reception, ask how many servers and bartenders there are per guest.Are linen, table setting, and accessories provided by your company?
To complete the dining experience, you will also need the necessary rentals. The items listed include glassware, flatware, plates, tablecloths, etc. These items may be provided by some wedding venues. If your wedding venue doesn’t offer them, ask the caterer if they can arrange rentals or if they provide them as part of their service.Are you covered by liability insurance and possess the proper catering license requirements?
Behind all the fun, there is a legal aspect of picking up vendors. You should ask your wedding caterer if they have the proper catering licenses and liability insurance so they can cater at your wedding venue. Check if they have a liquor license as well if they will serve alcohol at your wedding.Is there a cancellation policy at your company?
Just to be extra cautious, you may want to find out the cancellation policies of caterers. Can you receive your deposit or at least a portion of it back if you cancel before your wedding date? Finding out will make you feel safer.
Picking up the catering company is a huge step. Consider your time, budget and preferences with these questions to find the perfect wedding caterer for your special day!
It’s no secret that first dates can be incredibly nerve-wracking and uncomfortable. Years ago, when dating, I’d get so nervous that I’d have to drink a ton of water on the date so that I didn’t feel so awkward!
Chances are you’re meeting someone you met online for the first time. That might fill you with anxiety because you have zero idea what’s going to happen.
What if he was great at texting and is a total psycho in real life?!
What if you have a mind blank, can’t think of anything to say, and sit silently for most of the date?
Did you know that most studies show that it takes between 3 seconds and a minute to judge whether we like someone and that we tend to uphold that decision forever?
So that first meet-up matters, but how can you calm down and focus on enjoying first dates?
Many people think they can’t control their nerves, but the good news is there are strategies you can use to ease your anxiety and go on a first date with the right type of energy.
Here are three tricks to make a first date more natural.
- Get your mindset into the right social state before a date
Have you ever gone out and you’re in that zen flow state? You’re charming the pants off everyone, saying all the right things, and you’re on fire.
On the flip side, have you ever gone out and not been in the mood? It doesn’t matter where you are or who’s around you; you don’t want to be there, you feel disconnected, and everyone can sense it.
This is proof that socializing is a mindset. It’s all about how you feel. And getting to that peak social state is something you have total control over.
I recommend you get socially warmed up before heading to your date, whether you head to a different bar first, high-five some strangers, or flirt with the barman.
It’s the same principle as physically warming up your body before a heavy workout at the gym. If you don’t do that first, your body can easily get injured, making it much harder to complete your workout.
Have a go at getting socially warmed up before your next date.
- Have a story from your day ready to go
One of the most common questions people ask early on a first date is, “how was your day?”
You don’t want to reply with something boring or negative like, “it was okay,” or “my boss was being a jerk as usual.”
So come prepared with a fun, positive, and interesting story.
Maybe you had an entertaining conversation with someone at work, or you found an amazing coffee shop on your lunch break that sells the best baguettes you’ve ever had (like, better than Parisian baguettes).
If it happened yesterday or a couple of days ago, that’s okay too.
The final trick to make a first date more natural is to “smalk,” which means smile while talking.
A lot of dating advice tells women to just smile at their date, which is strange. But smiling while talking makes you appear warm and charismatic and greatly affects how someone receives what you say. Plus, it will signal to him that you’re interested.
Have you got a first date coming up?
Try out some of these strategies, and tell me what happens in the comments below!
There are universal things we all like and dislike about new relationships.
Like? The possibility of meeting someone amazing on a first date and the rush of excitement and passion in the honeymoon phase.
Dislike? Having the dreaded talk where you define the relationship. How do you know when to define the relationship (DTR)? How do you know that he wants to be exclusive? And where do you begin having “the talk” without appearing needy or scaring him away?
But inevitably, you reach a point in the dating phase where you’re ready for that next step. You’re tired of the confusion of living in a perpetual state of limbo where you’re dating but aren’t boyfriend and girlfriend yet, but you also don’t want to see other people.
FYI, until you’ve explicitly sat down and defined the relationship, assume that you are not exclusive and that he is dating and potentially sleeping with other women. You are also still single, and I’d encourage you to continue dating other men. It’s healthy to keep your options open, and it stops you from getting too hung up on one guy. That way, if things don’t work out, you won’t lose any sleep.
Why is it important to define the relationship?
The obvious benefits of defining the relationship are that you end the confusion, see where you’re both at, and get on the same page. There’s also the possibility you realize you’re on very different pages, like different books in opposite sections in the library, and at least you then have clarity and can move on. The less obvious benefits of having the DTR are that you can clarify your needs and set boundaries (Little Love Step #6), which is a crucial step for any long-term relationship.
Remember that not everyone is looking for a committed, monogamous relationship. This is another reason why it’s so important to discuss your values and deal breakers early on in the dating phase so that you don’t invest a ton of time and energy into a man only to find out months later that he wants to keep things casual.
Signs he wants to define the relationship
You don’t want to have the DTR if you know that the guy in question is on a completely different page and doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. Luckily, there are some obvious signs where a man will show you how he feels. For example, he will continue to text and call, ask you out, want to see you regularly, open up more to you, and even make future plans with you.
I always encourage women to pay attention to a man’s actions (the video) rather than his words (the audio) because words are easy to say, but his actions will tell you how he truly feels. So even if he says he wants to be exclusive, but he’s partying it up every weekend with his buddies and posting photos on his social media of him with other women, he clearly doesn’t.
Don’t get stuck in a “situationship” because you’re burying your head in the sand and pretending not to see what’s right in front of you, hoping the guy will eventually change and want to be with you. In my experience, these guys don’t change. Furthermore, high-value women don’t wait around for guys who aren’t investing in them, showing up, and being consistent.
When to define the relationship
There is no exact time frame for when to define the relationship. Why? Because everyone is different, every relationship is different, and it takes us all a different amount of time to open up. Just because your friends became exclusive after a month and have been happily married for years, it doesn’t mean your timeline will be the same.
That being said, if you are looking for a rough guideline in our Love Accelerator program, I recommend having the DTR once you’ve known each other for at least two months and spent a minimum of 10 hours together. The two to three-month mark is a solid amount of time to get to know someone, see them in various situations, and determine whether you’re compatible in the long run. Plus, it gives you time to see lots of people, explore your options, and decide that you want to invest solely in this one guy. This is what I call Little Love Step #5.
By this stage, you will probably have experienced a few key milestones together, like holding hands in public, meeting each other’s friends, and maybe even going on a small trip together. These are good signs of things progressing in the right direction, and he wants to define the relationship.
Research has proven something significant about that two to three-month period because it takes people roughly 66 days (on average) to develop and form new habits.
If you define the relationship too soon, you might end up in a relationship with someone who isn’t the right fit for you simply because you haven’t spent enough time with them.How to define the relationship
Before I show you how to define the relationship, I want you to know that I get how scary this step is. It requires you to be vulnerable with a man you really like and want to move forward with. You know you need to have the talk, but you’re afraid that he might not be in the same place. But like I said, there should be clear signs that he wants to define the relationship too. If you haven’t seen any intent from him, then you’re not ready to have this talk. If you’ve followed the Little Love Steps, he will likely initiate the DTR with you.
1. Own what you want
You don’t need to come out and tell the guy that you want a relationship with him, but it is more than okay to own that a relationship is what you want. If you’re not the kind of woman who is happy keeping things casual and are at a point in your life where you want something real and mature with a guy who fits the future you want to build, that’s great. Don’t feel guilty or ashamed for wanting that.
Unfortunately, we live in a society where women are shamed for everything. You’re shamed for being single and not wanting the whole marriage and kids thing, and then you’re also shamed for wanting a relationship. Sometimes, there will be guys who shame you for wanting to label things and take that next step, but that’s only because they like the freedom of keeping things casual with you.
So after you’ve been talking for a couple of months and you think he’s a great guy and you’re ready to define the relationship, own what you want. Tell him that you’re in a place where you’re looking for something real and that if he’s open to that, great, and if not, then you’re probably not the best fit. This way, you’re putting the ball in his court and giving him the opportunity to commit or walk away.
2. Ask him if you should be seeing other people
Another great way to broach the DTR is to ask the guy in question if you should be seeing other people. He’ll either say, “no, I don’t want you seeing other people,” or he’ll say, “yeah, I think you should be dating other guys.” Either way, you’ll get a stronger sense of where his head is.
From here, you can clarify the situation. If he says he doesn’t think you should be seeing other people, then you can ask him if he’s dating other women. If he says no, you can ask, “does that mean we’re exclusive?” And if he says yes, then you’ve just created a boundary for commitment.
Still, if he says he thinks you should be dating other guys, you still need to clarify what he’s saying. Follow up with something like, “okay, so you have no interest in anything more exclusive here?” If he says no, then be clear with him that it’s a dealbreaker for you. Be willing to walk away.
This is a great conversation because it makes him decide what he wants. Most of the time, if everything has been going well up to this point, and he has been investing in you and consistently showing up, he won’t want you to continue seeing other guys.3. Ask him what he wants
Another way to define the relationship is to start by saying something like, “look, I’ve enjoyed getting to know you, but I’m curious – what are you looking for from this?” If he asks what you mean, you can say, “Well, are you at a point in your life where you’re looking for a relationship?”
At this point, you should have a strong sense that he does want a relationship, but it’s important to be direct about it and gain full clarity on what he wants.4. Don’t be afraid to lose him
The one thing you don’t want to do is have him tell you he wants to keep dating other women and then agree to this situationship where he gets all the perks of being in a relationship without any of the responsibility that comes with it.
The final thing to remember when having the DTR is to mentally prepare yourself for the possibility that it won’t go the way you want it to. If he wants to keep things casual or isn’t ready to commit, you must be okay with losing him. You have to be willing to walk away, go back to Little Love Step #3, start meeting new guys, or pursue some of your other options (if that feels right). High-value women know they have walking power and won’t hesitate to say, NEXT!
What’s after defining the relationship?
If you successfully sit down to define your relationship and are now in an exclusive relationship, congratulations!
You might be thankful now that heavy conversation is out the way, but remember that’s just the first step in a healthy, long-term relationship. Relationships require constant work, commitment, and communication to thrive. Enjoy this phase, but don’t sit back and rely on it either. Keep learning, talking, growing together, and ensuring you’re both on the same page as you align your relationship with a shared life vision (that’s what we call Little Love Step #7).
What part of defining the relationship do you struggle with the most? I’d love to hear your experiences and stories with the DTR – drop them in the comments below.
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Goodnight texts for him are a great way to create a meaningful connection with a partner. Communication is key to any good relationship, especially if your man relates to words of affirmation as his core love language.
But, where do you start when it comes to crafting the best goodnight text for him? The first step is to think about the kind of mood you want to create. Are you looking to set the tone for your next date, get his mind racing with sexy thoughts, or simply send a reminder of how much you love him? Whatever your intent, a succinct goodnight message can work wonders.
To help you get started, we’ve put together an extensive list of 51 of our favorite goodnight texts for him, covering everything from cute to flirty. Check it out below!Cute Goodnight Texts for Him: 17 Examples That’ll Warm His Heart
When it comes to goodnight texts for him, sending a cute message is sure to deepen and strengthen your connection. These are great for letting him know that he’s on your mind and will send him to sleep smiling!
1. I can’t wait until I can kiss your gorgeous face again.
2. Only [insert number of days here] until I see you again!
3. Let’s do [insert favorite activity here] when we next see each other, my treat!
4. Can’t wait to see you and make up for lost time soon!
5. I wish we could cuddle right now, but I know that when we can, it will be worth the wait.
6. I’m just texting to let you know that I’m thinking about you and can’t wait until we’re together.
7. Whenever I miss you, I remind myself that I’m so lucky that we found each other.
8. I can’t wait to have a Sunday morning lie-in together soon.
9. You’re my dream guy. Can’t wait to see you soon!
10. I’m so happy that we met.
11. Tell me about your dream date so I can make it come true?
12. Counting down the hours until I can kiss you again.
13. My bed feels too empty without you here.
14. Sleep well and chat to you in about 8 hours. I’m looking forward to it already!
15. Thank you for cheering me up today.
16. I’ve been looking back at some of my fave photos of you before bed, love you loads.
17. Sweet dreams babe, you definitely deserve them.Get Hot Under the Collar With These Flirty Goodnight Texts for Him
When coming up with the best goodnight messages for him, don’t be afraid to get a little flirtatious. After all, there’s no harm in letting his imagination run wild! Sending him something flirty over text will ensure you’re on his mind as he drifts off for the night. Check out 15 of our favorite flirty goodnight texts for him below!
18. What are you wearing in bed right now?
19. I wish we were snuggled up naked together.
20. I was about to go to sleep…unless you want to distract me first?
21. I can’t sleep. Want to help keep me awake?
22. I’m going to sleep now. Hopefully to dream about how little sleep I’d be getting if you were here…
23. Sleeping naked feels like such a waste when you’re not here with me.
24. Tell me your bedtime fantasy?
25. I wish I could kiss you all over.
26. There’s too much room in my bed, if only you were here.
27. Describe how you’d keep me awake if we were together right now?
28. I’m really hoping I have some steamy dreams about you tonight.
29. I really wish I had my hands on you instead of my phone.
30. Come keep me warm?
31. You’re my favorite bedtime fantasy!
32. If only we were together right now…In an Established Relationship? Re-Ignite the Romance With These Sweet Goodnight Texts for Him
Rekindling an established relationship with new romantic energy can be truly exhilarating! So, if you’re in a long-term exclusive relationship with your partner, try out these sweet goodnight texts for him to help recapture that new relationship energy!
33. I can’t wait until I can lay my head on your chest again.
34. I so wish we were in the same bed right now.
35. I’m snuggling with my cat wishing you were here too.
36. So, about living together…let’s work on that?
37. I wish you were here. You’re sexy even when you snore!
38. I’m cold. Come keep me warm?
39. I’m already looking forward to talking to you in the morning!
40. If you were here, you’d be the comfiest pillow ever.
41. I know I always complain when you hog the blankets, but even that beats sleeping alone.
42. It’s hard being apart, but I love knowing that it’s not for long.
43. Call me when you wake up? I want to hear your voice again as soon as possible.
44. Soon we can wake up together again.
45. I love it when my pillows smell like you.
46. I love you with all my heart. Sweet dreams!
47. Sleep tight and dream of me!
48. I’ve been missing you all day, but especially now.
49. Already excited to talk to you in the morning!
50. I’m so excited about seeing you tomorrow that I just can’t sleep!
51. Thank you for being the partner of my dreams.It’s Time to Get Texting!
So there you have it, our top 51 picks of romantic goodnight texts for him! We hope that these examples will give you some inspiration and help you to foster a deep, meaningful connection with your partner.
Whether you’re in a long-term relationship or you’ve just started dating, keeping up good communication with your partner is key. So, the next time you’re laying in bed wondering what to say before falling asleep, look back at this list, pick your favorites, and send them off to make sure you’re in his thoughts as he drifts off for the night.
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Have you ever said something to a guy you wish you could take back?
Usually, this happens when you’re STD.
Nope, that doesn’t stand for what you think it does.
S = starving.
T = tired.
D = drunk.
And when we’re all three of these things, we become total monsters!
Here are seven things you should avoid saying to a guy, no matter how mad he makes you. Even when he leaves his dirty socks next to the laundry basket instead of putting them in the basket, despite talking to him about it a million times.
- I hate you
It’s natural to have disagreements in relationships. I’ve been in fights with Jessica and my previous partners. But no matter what happens, you have to maintain a level of love and respect when arguing.
Under no circumstances should you tell a guy you love that you hate him. You might hate his behavior, but you don’t hate him.
Once you’ve said it, you can’t take it back.
- I’m dating other men
You probably won’t say this to a guy you’re exclusive with. This might crop up when you’re still dating and exploring your options.
I recommend you talk to multiple guys until you reach Little Love Step #6. However, you don’t need to go out of your way to rub this in a guy’s face.
Usually, a woman might say something like this to make a guy jealous. But that’s high school shenanigans.
Now, if he explicitly asks you, don’t lie. But don’t advertise it either.
- I miss my ex
It’s never a good idea to talk about your ex. You don’t want to hear about his ex, and he doesn’t want to hear about yours.
This can be tricky if you’re divorced because your ex was a big part of your life and may still be in the picture if you have kids together.
But I strongly urge you to think of “ex” as a swear word and refrain from saying it when talking to a new guy. All this will do is prevent you from building a connection and keep you stuck in the past.
- I’m more important than your friends
No, you’re not!
He should have other priorities, and so should you.
He needs to have guy friends, and you need to have girl friends.
You both need to have independent lives and give each other a healthy amount of space in a relationship.
- Telling a guy you should be more like (insert name)
You may wish he was more romantic like Sarah’s partner or tidier around the house like your brother is.
The thing to remember is that no one is perfect. We all have flaws, including you.
Telling a guy you love that he should be more like someone else isn’t nice, and it isn’t going to change him. He is who he is. If you don’t like it, then you can walk away.
- You’re a loser
Again, this is a cruel thing to say to anyone.
And if he truly is a loser, why are you still with him?
Time to say, NEXT!
- You can’t spend time with (insert name)
This is a boundary violation.
It doesn’t matter if you don’t like his friends, it’s not up to you who he spends time with.
Naturally, there are some gray areas here. One of his friends might be a bad influence and drag him into sticky situations. But still, that’s on him to recognize that person is a toxic influence in his life.
Similarly, if he’s trying to go out late at night to a bar with his ex, that’s inappropriate, and you’re right to be bothered.
But generally, you’ve got to let him do what he wants.
Avoid saying these things to a guy you love, and don’t spend time with men who are saying these things to you!
Trying to figure out the difference between dating vs. relationships — and what they actually mean — can be tricky. It’s an age-old question after all: are we in a relationship or just dating?
If you’re tugging at your hair trying to figure this out, we’re here to try and help clear a few things up. Then, when you’re clued up on what means what, you’ll be ready to sit down with your partner and discuss how to define your connection to one another. Ready to find out all you need to know about the dating vs. relationship debate? Check it out below!Dating vs. Relationships: What Constitutes Dating?
The definition of dating refers to that exciting, light, airy period when you like and spend time with someone, but you don’t necessarily know them that well yet. A date can be many things: a walk in the park, dinner at a restaurant, or even a romantic Netflix marathon at their place.
When you’re dating somebody, you’ll mostly find yourself pre-planning meetings with them and spending time getting to know them. All this, of course, is part of the process of figuring out whether you’re a good fit for one another, romantically.Dating vs. Relationships: What Constitutes a Relationship?
The Cambridge Dictionary’s definition of a relationship describes it as “a close romantic friendship between two people.” A relationship then is when two people have bonded on a deep enough level to commit to one another further. Relationships are usually more relaxed and calm than the dating stage. And, while dating may last a few weeks or months, relationships can last a lifetime.
The will-we/won’t-we nature of dating — which let’s be honest, is pretty thrilling — is now settled, and the two people in question have decided to move forward together as a couple. This generally means they only have eyes for one another and are committed exclusively.7 Key Differences Between Dating and Being in a Relationship
Okay – now we’ve established what defines dating vs. relationships, it’s important to take a deeper look at the key difference between the two. The main difference between dating and being in a relationship is the mutual commitment to each other. You and the person you’re with have agreed, either officially or unofficially, that you’re seeing each other exclusively and are in a partnership together.
Alongside this, there are a few other common signs that can help couples to determine the difference between dating and relationships. We’ve outlined seven of these differences below!1. Exclusivity
As mentioned above, the majority of relationships involve both people being exclusive to one another. That means no sleeping around, and no romantic feelings towards anybody but your partner. When you’re dating, on the other hand, it’s not uncommon to date more than one person at the same time. Remember, you’re essentially still single until you have a conversation to confirm the opposite.2. Availability
When you’re only dating someone – and therefore still getting to know them – the time you spend together will likely be confined to individual dates you arrange: dinners; romantic walks; that sort of thing. When you’re in a relationship though, you’ll spend much more time together. In fact, your partner will likely become your go-to person when making plans. This is a key difference between dating and being in a relationship.3. Relaxation
You can use many words to describe the dating process, but relaxing might not be one of them. When people date, they strive to show their best side. They wear their finest clothes, ensure they go out with perfectly quaffed hair, and arrive at first dates equipped with funny anecdotes and flirty questions. It’s all about appearing attractive to the person sitting opposite.
Conversely, when you’re in a committed relationship, the time you spend together will be far more relaxed. You already know each other well, and there’s no longer the pressure to appear flawless and fascinating. You can fully be yourself.4. Reliance
When it comes to the dating vs. relationship debate, reliance is a key difference to look out for. When you’ve just started dating someone, you likely won’t rely on them too much. If you’re working through some personal issues, for example, you’ll probably talk to friends and family before talking to your date. After all, it might seem overwhelming to them if you suddenly unload all your problems on them. In a relationship, however, it’s normal to rely on one another for support.5. Plans for the future
If you tried to make long-term plans with someone you just started dating, you’d look needy at best and mad at worst. Dating is low-commitment until you get to know one another. Long-term plans come when you enter a relationship together and begin to marry your hopes and dreams for the future.6. Ugliness
When dating, we typically always try to look our best and show off the more gleaming, alluring sides of our personalities. Being in a good relationship, however, presents more freedom to be ugly. This means not having to look our best, but it also means feeling comfortable and safe enough to show our partner the full range of our moods. A relationship is based on trust and love. This means accepting someone for everything they are.7. Friends and Family
People who’re only dating don’t tend to meet one another’s families and friends. There’s not much point in introducing people to your inner circle who you might not see more than a couple of times. When a relationship develops, however, it’s time for your loved ones to see your new partner. Fingers crossed they get along!Dating vs. Relationship FAQs
Still feeling a bit unsure about the difference between dating and relationships and what this could mean for your love life? Below, we’ve tackled some of the most common dating vs. relationship FAQs to help you out!Can one change into the other?
Absolutely. The majority of couples will have been through the dating phase, during which they learned all about one another and decided to take their relationship to the next level. This doesn’t mean you have to date before entering a relationship though, nor does it mean you have to have a relationship after dating.Is sex a part of dating?
For many people, sex is a part of dating. That thrill of sex on the first date offers a rush of unforgettable excitement. Despite this, engaging in physical intimacy with someone you’re dating doesn’t necessarily mean the connection between you and your date will deepen. But, establishing whether there’s a sexual connection is as important as figuring out whether your outlooks on life and love are in sync.Can you date without it leading to a relationship?
The thing about dating is that there’s no guarantee it’ll work out. Often, it involves meeting multiple people, searching for that one meaningful connection that makes our hearts soar with excitement.
This means that there’s always the chance of investing time in dating someone only for it to not develop into a relationship. Look at it this way though: The search for love is all part of the fun! And whether your dates lead to true love or not, you’re bound to have some interesting stories to tell after.Can you go straight into a relationship without dating?
It’s possible to have a relationship without ever having dated at all. Perhaps you find yourself swept up in a whirlwind holiday romance, or you realize after many years that your colleague or friend is your true love. In these instances, people may skip the “getting to know you” stage of dating and hop straight to the stability and depth of a committed relationship.So: Is Dating the Same as Being in a Relationship?
Basically, no! Dating is generally a precursor to a relationship, with its unique perks and pitfalls that go alongside those of a relationship. Remember, when it comes to dating vs. relationships, each is exciting in its own way. And, as always, communication and empathy are the lifeblood of a healthy and fruitful romance.
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If you’re single and looking for love online, having a compelling dating profile is vital. And that’s where your photos come in—the combination of them can hugely impact whether someone clicks through to learn more about you.
Your choice of five photos might sound like it isn’t enough to make much difference, but trust us when we say that each one counts! In this blog post, we’re here to help you craft the perfect photos to make your dating profile stand out from the competition and lead to many potential suitors swiping right. Read on for our top tips on creating a winning photo gallery.Shots Expressing Your Hobbies
One of the most critical parts of any profile is communicating who you are and what you’re passionate about. Showcasing your interests through photos can be a great way to give potential matches an insight into your personality and attract anyone you want, so aim to include at least one photo that highlights your hobbies and passions.
The trick is to strike a balance between fun and intriguing. For example, if you love traveling, don’t just post a picture of yourself on a beach in Mexico—try snapping a shot of yourself exploring an ancient ruin or strolling through a bustling city street.A Professional Headshot
Showing your professional side through headshots can effectively attract attention and demonstrate your responsible side. A simple yet professional headshot is a great way to put your best foot forward and show potential dates that you take yourself seriously.
Be sure to dress for the occasion and avoid overly casual attire or silly faces in your photo. The goal here is to look polished and confident, so choose a shot that reflects your best self.
For maximum impact, add a headshot that shows off your interests—like if you’re a lawyer, perhaps posing in the courtroom or at your desk.A Candid Photo
In addition to a professional headshot, capturing some candid shots of yourself is crucial. These will help potential matches quickly determine whether you’re someone they’d like to get to know better.
However, not all photos should make it to your profile. Avoid posting any photos that are too revealing, as this could send the wrong message. If you have sentimental value photos, you can make your own memory book or album and share that with your dates. The goal is to show that you have an interesting life, without giving away too much information.A Group Photo
Group photos can be a great way to demonstrate your social side and give potential matches an understanding of the groups of people you like to hang out with. Try to get a few shots with different groups of friends and family members.
Having a photo of you with your friends or family can also help potential matches gauge how vital relationships are to you and whether your lifestyle fits in with their own.
The key is choosing a natural and not overly posed photo. A good tip is to find one where the shot’s focus isn’t on you—maybe have your friends or family members in the foreground, with you slightly off to the side.A Full Body Snap
A full-body snap is the last type of photo to include in your dating profile. This is the perfect way to show off your physique, but it’s essential not to be too revealing—aim for something that looks natural and tasteful rather than overly provocative.
A great way to do this is by including a photo from an activity such as hiking or swimming. Not only will this demonstrate your love for the outdoors, but it will also help potential matches better understand your body type.
As you can see, crafting the perfect photo gallery for your dating profile doesn’t have to be daunting. With these tips in mind, you’re sure to create an eye-catching portrait of yourself that will help you attract potential matches.
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You may have been in several casual and serious relationships in your life, but have you ever stopped to consider what exactly a healthy relationship is? The trouble is, many of us learn what relationships are meant to look like from watching the adults we spent most of our time with as children, i.e., our parents. And unfortunately, not all of our parents are in healthy relationships or even understand what a healthy relationship looks like themselves.
A healthy relationship doesn’t mean perfect because we all have flaws and bad days. But your relationship should be healthy 90% of the time and bring out the best in you.
Unhealthy relationship characteristics
- Hiding who you truly are
- Walking on eggshells around them
- Controlling behavior, money, transportation, or clothing choices
- Being critical about core parts of who someone is (e.g., their career, their appearance)
- Feeling pressure to change who you are
- Being afraid to voice your opinion
- Feeling obliged to spend time together
- Not feeling listened to or heard
- Feeling disrespected
- When your partner invalidates your feelings
- Being codependent on each other
- Not being able to communicate effectively
- Neglecting your own needs for your partner
Healthy relationship characteristics
You know you’re in a healthy relationship when you:
- Have respect for each other
- Set boundaries
- Communicate openly and honestly
- Fight fairly
- Feel comfortable with each other
- Trust each other
- Are equals in the relationship
- Take responsibility and accountability for yourselves
- Show affection
- Maintain your independence
- Are both committed to making the relationship work
One of the most important indicators of a healthy relationship is that you both respect each other, even when you disagree. That means you listen and empathize with each other, cater to your partner’s needs (to a certain extent), practice understanding and forgiveness, take an interest in each other’s interests, support and encourage your partner’s goals and dreams, create space for them in your life, and do everything you can to build them up.2. You have boundaries
You will have boundaries as individuals and boundaries you create as a couple. Think of a boundary like drawing an imaginary line in the sand, and you make it clear to your partner that they are not to cross this line. On one side of the line are all the things you are okay with, and on the other side are all the things that make you uncomfortable. It’s important to set boundaries so that we tell our partner early on what is and isn’t okay. It doesn’t matter if his needs conflict with yours – you’re allowed to put your needs first, and you don’t need to cater to all of his needs, especially if they make you uncomfortable.
If you communicate a boundary and your partner crosses it, they are disrespecting your boundaries, which means they are disrespecting you.
So think about what your boundaries are. They can be physical, emotional, sexual, digital, material, and spiritual. The next step is to communicate your boundaries to your partner. There will likely be moments during the dating phase when it feels natural to express a boundary. For example, let’s say you’ve been seeing a man for three months, and he surprises you with a romantic weekend away. You’re having a great time, and feelings are getting stronger, but he then makes a move in the bedroom, and you’re just not ready to sleep with him yet. This is one of your boundaries, and this is the perfect time to communicate it if you haven’t already.
3. You have open and honest communication
When you first meet a guy and get to know him, it would be weird to give him your entire life story. Plus, we all love a bit of mystery, so you want to be like an onion and reveal another layer of yourself every time you see someone. Pacing like this is important because it gives you time to build trust and see if you’re compatible in the long run.
But over time, to build that all-important emotional connection, you have to get comfortable being vulnerable as you share your hopes, dreams, fears, and insecurities. This is all part of falling in love. When you’re open and honest about your feelings, needs, and boundaries, it prevents misunderstandings and feelings from getting hurt. In a relationship, there will be times you need to share something that the other person may not like, and it’s equally important to work on actively listening when your partner is the one talking.
As a general rule, I recommend being radically candid with each other. That means you don’t even tell little white lies like, “sure, that shirt looks great on you,” when it’s the ugliest shirt you’ve ever seen, but you don’t want to hurt his feelings. But remember, there is a way to tell the truth while also being kind so that you avoid hurting each other. Like, “I don’t think that shirt does you justice, but how about that blue one? I love you in that.”4. You fight fair
Fights are inevitable in a long-term relationship. The only way to avoid them is to agree with everything your partner says, and if you do that, you’re not being yourself = an unhealthy characteristic of a relationship.
What’s most important when you disagree is to get back to a state of calm where you can both discuss it, take turns to listen, and come up with a compromise. A sign of a healthy relationship is when you still treat each other with kindness when you bump heads. If things get too heated, go for a walk, take some deep breaths and come back to it when the temperature has gone down.
5. You trust each other
Research shows that our ability to trust people in relationships stems from the attachment style we developed as children. If we experience secure, stable, trusting relationships, then we’re more likely to be able to trust new partners. On the flip side, if we experience unstable relationships as a child, then we’re likely to have trust issues. So if trust issues are a recurring pattern for you in relationships, take some time to look at the model relationships you saw as a child. Working with a therapist can help you become aware of and heal unhealthy attachment styles.
Even if you find it easy to trust, it takes time to build. It’s based on consistently showing up for one another, being reliable, respecting boundaries, being honest and communicating how you feel, and not just talking the talk but walking the walk.
But one thing is for sure, if you don’t trust each other, you aren’t in a healthy relationship, and it won’t be long before everything crumbles.6. You are equals
Another key sign of a healthy relationship is if you are both equals and treat one another like equals. That means you make decisions together, both have access to the resources you need, and both people’s needs and interests are supported and valued.
Naturally, there will be times when one of you is putting more into the relationship than the other because we all go through ebbs and flows like this. For example, one of you unexpectedly loses your job or is working extra hard taking care of a newborn baby. But generally, it should feel like you are equals.7. You take responsibility & accountability
If someone cannot take responsibility for their actions, admit when they’re wrong, and apologize, then there is no way they will be able to form a healthy relationship. Continually placing blame on others and not calling yourself out on anything is a clear sign that someone is not holding themselves accountable.
Both people need to own their words and actions and hold their hands up when they make a mistake. Even if you had no intention of hurting your partner with your words or actions, if they are hurt, it’s still important to take ownership of that. Apologies need to be genuine, coupled with a conscious effort to correct that mistake in the future and do better.8. You’re affectionate
Research has shown that passion at the start of a new relationship declines over time, but our need for affection, comfort, and tenderness does not. This suggests that passion eventually transforms into compassionate love. Healthy relationships require deep trust, intimacy, affection, and commitment.
There’s no right amount of affection because we all have different needs. What’s important is that both people are happy with the amount of affection they receive. And that affection should be a genuine appreciation and love for each other, which can be expressed in different ways. Knowing each other’s love languages can help you show love and affection in ways that mean the most to your partner.
9. You’re both independent
Another sign you’re in a healthy relationship is that you maintain your own independent lives outside of each other. You nurture your friendships, hobbies, passions, and career path and enjoy time alone.
As I always say, no amazing man will want a life with you unless you have an amazing life without him! Likewise, I’m sure you’re ten times more attracted to a man when he has exciting things in his life that are external to dating you.
Maintaining this independence helps you grow as individuals and ensures you don’t rely too heavily on your relationship. And let’s be honest, if you spend all your time in each other’s pockets, it’s not long before you legitimately run out of things to say to each other.10. You’re both committed to the relationship.
The final sign you’re in a healthy relationship is if you both feel that the other person is fully committed to the relationship and is putting in the time and effort so that it thrives. A 2020 review of relationship studies found that if both people in a relationship believe their partner is in it for the long haul, their relationship is more likely to be healthy.
A relationship really does take two. Think of it like two people on a paddle boat trying to get from one island to the next. They both have an oar in hand. The boat moves forward seamlessly when they’re rowing at the same pace. But if one person drags ass or completely stops rowing? The boat will go majorly off course, or worse, in a circle!
If you need clarification on whether you’re in a healthy relationship, go through the points on this list one by one and ask yourself if it rings true for you. Be honest. Don’t sugarcoat the truth.
If you discover you are in an unhealthy relationship, there’s a strong chance it’s because this feels comfortable and familiar to you because the first relationships you saw as a child were unhealthy ones. Don’t blame yourself; remember that you can end this toxic cycle and rebuild your self-worth. Begin with Little Love Step #1, and don’t settle for a relationship that doesn’t make you feel good.
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New York is the most exciting city in the world. There’s always something to do, always something to see, and always something open, no matter what time of day. It’s a magical place — especially when you’re with your partner.
But, with so much on offer, finding the most romantic things to do in NYC can feel a bit daunting at first. That’s why we’re here to help! For singles dating in New York, there are plenty of wonderful ways to spend a morning, afternoon, or evening in NYC with your partner.Romantic Things to Do in NYC: 22 Unforgettable Activities to Try 1. Plan a picnic in Central Park
Central Park offers NYC daters acres and acres of meadows, gardens, nooks, and crannies that are perfect for settling in for a sunny, romantic afternoon. Fill up the picnic basket with your favorite snacks and drinks and pick up a picturesque spot to hang. When it comes to summer date ideas, this one is tough to top!2. Visit a bookstore
Bookstores are underrated when it comes to romantic date spots. So, head out and browse The Strand’s impressive collection of new and used books together. For that extra slice of romance, pick out your favorite romance novels for each other and chat about them over a coffee!3. Discover Grand Central Station’s best-kept secret
Hidden places make for great romantic dates and Grand Central Station’s Whispering Gallery is no exception. Make your way to the lower level of the terminal, near the Oyster Bar, and whisper from corner to corner to each other under the domed walkways.4. Take an art gallery walk through Chelsea
There are over 400 in the neighborhood alone, and most of them are free! What’s not to love?5. Go museum hopping down Museum Mile
Head out to the Upper East Side and take a cultural tour through some of NYC’s most renowned museums. The Guggenheim, The Met, and the Museum for African Art are just some of the options located along 5th Avenue between 110th and 82nd Streets.6. Head up to the Top of the Rock
When it comes to romantic things to do in NYC, the stunning city view and photo ops on offer from the Top of the Rock Observation Deck are hard to beat. Pro tip: Book a slot after dark to capture romantic selfies set against the background of a fully illuminated New York City.7. Check out Pier 17
Prefer a free view? Head to the top of Pier 17 in the Seaport District. Get ice cream from Mister Dips while you’re there. The rooftop view offers a stunning romantic view over Brooklyn Bridge and even plays host to live concerts during the summer months!8. Snuggle up on a harbor cruise
Enjoy breathtaking views from a different vantage point: the water. One of the most romantic things to do in NYC is to cuddle up on a harbor cruise while you travel down the Hudson. This is a great way to take in the city from a quieter, less stressful setting.9. Go plant shopping
NYC’s small but charming flower district in Chelsea is surprisingly romantic. Noble Plants is a local favorite for affordable greenery and pots.10. Grab some sweet treats
Nothing says romance quite like chocolate. Head out to the heart of Greenwich Village and treat yourselves to something sweet from Varsano’s Chocolate. Specializing in homemade, hand-dipped chocolates, the store makes the perfect spot for those looking to treat their special someone!11. Ride the tram to Roosevelt Island
Romantic date ideas in NYC don’t have to be complicated. Taking a tram out to Roosevelt Island is a lovely, unique, and scenic way to spend an afternoon with your date.12. Visit the Green-Wood Cemetery
It’s not everyone’s cup of tea, but hear us out. For some couples, a romantic thing to do in New York might be to walk through a graveyard. The Green-Wood Cemetery in Brooklyn is a hauntingly romantic spot for an afternoon stroll. It’s also a former Revolutionary War battlefield and brimming with history.13. A summer gardens tour
When the sun is shining, take a walk through one of NYC’s gorgeous botanical gardens. The Brooklyn Botanic Garden, the Queens Botanical Garden, and the New York Botanical Garden in the Bronx are some of the most popular choices.14. Head out for a carousel ride
Go on a carousel date to ride the SeaGlass Carousel in Battery Park or Jane’s Carousel in Brooklyn. Both are the perfect amount of whimsical and romantic.15. Find a secret garden
Hidden within the concrete jungle, there are small pockets of green in nearly every NYC neighborhood. From the Elevated Acre in the Financial District to the Church of St. Luke in the Fields in the West Village, these hidden gems make for some of the most romantic date spots in the city.16. Head to the beach
Believe it or not, The Big Apple has several beaches. In fact, they offer one of the best date ideas in NYC! Escape the hustle and bustle and head down to Coney Island for hot dogs on the pier and rollercoasters at Luna Park.17. Organize a day trip
Want to get even further out of the city? Take a day trip to Dia Beacon or Storm King Art Center and take in contemporary art and sculptures. Both have endless cute couple photo ops.18. Grab some culture
Get your fill of medieval art and architecture at The Cloisters in Fort Tyron Park. It’s worth the price of admission for the romantic courtyard alone.19. Dinner and a show
When it comes to romantic things to do in NYC, it’s hard to look past this one. After all, it’s a classic for a reason. Enjoy a romantic dinner together in the theater district and then head out to a Broadway show.20. Watch the sunset
Sunsets always guarantee romance, especially over the backdrop of the NYC skyline. To turn it into a date, head to a rooftop bar at dusk and enjoy the spectacular moment together. There are dozens around the city, so you can’t go wrong.21. Check out NYC’s best speakeasies
Finding a speakeasy is one of the most exciting, most romantic activities NYC has to offer. The intimate vibes of hidden gems like Raines Law Room make it feel like you and your date are in on one of the city’s best-kept secrets.22. Have a fancy nightcap (or two) in Tribeca
There’s so much romance on offer in Tribeca. It’s home to some of the best date night restaurants in the city, while specialized venues like Brandy Library are perfect for enjoying a premium nightcap after a romantic dinner. Both have seriously stylish digs that’ll keep the romance going as the night winds down.Romantic Things to Do in NYC: Fall in Love in the City That Never Sleeps!
When it comes to romantic things to do in NYC, couples aren’t short of choices! New York has an exciting sense of whimsy and wonders that just can’t be beaten, which certainly makes it one of the best cities for dating. We hope this list of romantic activities in NYC inspires you to plan an epic day, afternoon, or evening with your partner.
If you need help to stand out from the crowd, chances are you want to impress your friends, colleagues, and partners with something unique. Learning a second language might be the solution for you!
Not only does picking up a new language give you an edge on the job market and expand culturally, but it also could make you more attractive. We know that intelligence is one of the universally accepted traits in our society, and you can demonstrate yours by becoming bilingual.
However, learning a second language comes with many more benefits other than just appearing smarter. If you are looking to learn a second language, here are some reasons why it might just make you more attractive:Increased Confidence
Confidence often stems from knowledge. The more you know, the more confidence you will have in yourself. Learning a second language is no exception! When you first start to gain proficiency, you already feel proud of your accomplishment. As your ability increases, so does your assurance that you can communicate with people from diverse backgrounds. This newfound confidence shows and makes you attractive to others.
What’s more, being able to communicate in multiple languages can give you the upper hand when making an impression. You can show off your skill and appear interesting to potential friends or romantic partners.
The best part is that you can further develop confidence through practice and use. The more you engage with people in a second language, the higher your self-assurance will become, making you even more attractive!Improved Social Skills
Learning a new language requires much more than memorizing vocabulary words. You must also learn about the culture, customs, and mannerisms that go along with it. You also pick up valuable social skills in gaining proficiency in a language.
These can be anything from learning to carry on polite conversations to understanding cultural nuances and body language signals. Being able to navigate different cultures makes you more attractive because it shows that you are open-minded and sociable.
The cultural awareness acquired by learning a second language also gives you the confidence to approach people from different backgrounds. This ability is attractive as it can lead to greater opportunities for new social and professional relationships.
For example, taking a French course as a second language at Lingoda can help you network with French speakers from around the world. It also helps you understand the language and culture of the French people, giving you a better chance at making an impression.Increased Brain Power
Learning a second language demands time, effort, and dedication – all of which are attractive qualities. Picking up a new language requires practice to master its intricacies. As such, it can help sharpen your cognitive skills and improve your memory.
It also boosts your brain power and makes you more intelligent. This is because using two languages engages both sides of the brain, which in turn leads to better problem-solving capabilities. Being bilingual can give you an advantage over monolingual peers and allow businesses to recognize your potential quickly.
Moreover, studies have shown that bilingualism slows down the effects of aging on the brain and reduces your risk of developing dementia or Alzheimer’s. This is a massive plus for anyone because it shows that you are not only intelligent but also mindful of your health.
Some may argue that intelligence is not attractive, but the truth is that it can be a beautiful quality. Being intelligent and knowledgeable makes you seem more capable and reliable, making you more desirable. When people can tell that you have put in the work to learn a second language, they are likely to be impressed by your intelligence and hard work.Career Advancement
A second language can give you a competitive edge in the job market. Most employers prefer bilingual applicants as it opens doors to new opportunities. For example, knowing the local language is essential if you are applying for a role at an international company or seeking employment abroad.
Speaking two languages also gives businesses access to a broader pool of markets and customers. This means that having a second language in your repertoire can make you more valuable to companies, making you an attractive candidate for any position.
In addition, learning a foreign language opens up opportunities for those looking to start their own business or venture into freelance work. For instance, if you are fluent in Spanish, you can tap into the sizable Spanish-speaking market in the United States. Offering bilingual services or targeting a niche audience could be beneficial for any business.
Fluency in a second language can make you more attractive when applying for higher education. As such, it is an important skill to have if you want to pursue a degree abroad.Improved Self-Esteem
Learning a second language can also help you gain confidence and boost your self-esteem. It gives you the assurance that you can navigate different cultures and communicate with people from all walks of life. This can be particularly empowering for those who may have felt limited by their language skills in the past.
When you’re confident in yourself and your abilities, it makes you more attractive to potential employers and peers. A second language is a sign that you are open-minded and willing to learn new things – qualities people look for in others.
In addition, mastering a foreign language can make you feel proud of yourself and your accomplishments. It is a great way to challenge yourself and gain a sense of achievement when you finally reach fluency. This can be incredibly motivating and help build your self-esteem over time.Creates a Feeling of Satisfaction
Learning a language can be highly satisfying. This requires hard work, dedication, and commitment to become proficient. When you can communicate with others in their native tongue, it gives you a feeling of accomplishment that no other activity can offer.
Furthermore, learning a language can give you more insight into the culture and lifestyle that comes with it. You can immerse yourself in the language and learn its history, customs, and traditions. This knowledge will give you a greater appreciation for the language and culture that go with it.
For people looking for a fulfilling activity, mastering a second language can provide satisfaction and accomplishment. It is an enriching experience that will make you proud of your achievement. The hard work and dedication it takes to learn a language can be gratifying.Helps Create New Connections
Speaking two languages allows you to form connections with people from different backgrounds. Learning a language is a great way to meet new people and explore different cultures. This can be especially helpful if you want to make new friends or build relationships with those from other countries.
Knowing a foreign language also gives you better access to different online communities. You can join forums, find new connections on social media platforms, or even watch foreign films with subtitles. This means you can easily stay in touch with people from other cultures and countries.You Learn New Perspectives About Your Own Culture
Knowing a foreign language can broaden your perspective on your culture and identity. You may find that you appreciate aspects of your native culture more when you compare them to the one you are learning. This can be incredibly rewarding, as it allows you to understand yourself better and appreciate where you come from.
In addition, understanding another language can also help to broaden your understanding of global issues. For example, if you are aware of the news in a different country, it can give you a unique insight into how other countries view and deal with specific topics. This kind of knowledge is invaluable when forming opinions on important matters.You Get to Enjoy More Works of Art
Knowing a second language can also help you appreciate different art forms. For instance, if you learn Spanish and read classic novels from Latin America, you can better understand the culture behind them. You may even enjoy books in their original language more than translations.
Similarly, watching foreign films with subtitles can open up a new world of cinema. It can also be an enjoyable way to learn the language, as it helps you to connect with the characters and understand the story better.You Enjoy Traveling More
If you travel to a foreign country, speaking the language can make your experience much more enjoyable. You can communicate better with locals, ask for directions and get help.
Learning the basics of a language before traveling is also incredibly useful. It allows you to engage in conversations with the locals, try new foods, and participate in activities you may only have been able to do with language knowledge. This can be incredibly liberating and help you to make the most of your travels.
Having the freedom to explore a new place and connect with the locals can be one of the most rewarding experiences. Knowing two languages allows you to do this much more easily, so it is well worth the effort.
Learning a second language has many benefits in your personal and professional life. It can help you build relationships, open up new opportunities, appreciate art and culture differently and enjoy traveling more.
The reward for learning a language is immense, and it can be incredibly rewarding to feel confident in your ability to communicate with different people from around the world. So, if you’re thinking about learning a new language, go for it! You won’t regret it!
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Tinder is a popular dating app that allows users to quickly browse through profile pictures and swipe right if they’re interested, or left if they’re not. It uses a simple, location-based matching system, and is available on both iOS and Android devices. The app has been around since 2012, and it is considered as one of the pioneers of dating apps.
One of the most common things people like about Tinder is its simplicity and ease of use. The app’s interface is straightforward, and users can quickly set up a profile and start browsing potential matches. Additionally, Tinder’s matching algorithm is based on location, making it easy for users to find potential matches who are nearby.
Another thing people appreciate about Tinder is the variety of people it attracts. The app has a large user base, which means users have a wide pool of potential matches to choose from.Tinder App Features
Some of the main features of the app include:
- Profile creation: Users can create a profile by linking their Facebook account, or by manually entering their information. Profiles typically include a photo, a brief bio, and a list of interests.
- Swipe-based matching: Users can browse through potential matches by swiping left or right on a person’s profile. If two users both swipe right on each other’s profiles, they are considered a match and can start chatting.
- Chatting: Once two users are matched, they can start chatting. Users can send text messages, photos, and videos to each other through the app.
- Location-based matching: Tinder uses location data to show users potential matches who are nearby. Users can also adjust their location settings to see potential matches from other areas.
- “Boost” feature: Allows users to pay for a feature that boost their profile for a limited amount of time and be shown to more people who are active on the app.
- “Tinder Plus” and “Tinder Gold” : Upgraded version that allows users to see who already liked them, undo a previous swipe and change location.
- “Super Likes”: A feature that allows users to indicate that they are particularly interested in a particular user. If a user receives a Super Like, they will be notified of it.
- “Moments”: A feature that allows users to share photos and short videos with all of their matches at once. Moments disappear after 24 hours.
- “Passport”: This allow users to change their location and swipe potential matches from other areas.
Overall, Tinder’s features are designed to make it easy for users to find potential matches and start chatting with them.Tinder Reviews
However, some people may have different experience about the Tinder Reviews. Some users complain about the prevalence of fake profiles, and the fact that some users are only looking for hookups. Additionally, there’s a common criticism of the app that people find it a bit superficial, as users make a decision based on profile pictures alone and not much information about the person.
It’s worth noting that, like any dating app, Tinder’s effectiveness will depend largely on the user’s own efforts and preferences, ultimately it’s not the app itself but people using it who create the experiences.
Some users like Tinder for its simplicity and ease of use. The app’s interface is straightforward and easy to navigate, and users can quickly set up a profile and start browsing potential matches. The app’s location-based matching system also makes it easy for users to find potential matches who are nearby. Additionally, many people appreciate the large user base that Tinder has, as it means there is a wide pool of potential matches to choose from.
On the other hand, some users have had negative experiences with the app. One common complaint is that there are a lot of fake profiles on the app, which can make it difficult to find genuine matches. Additionally, some users find that many people on the app are only looking for hookups, and not serious relationships. Some also say that the app can be quite superficial, as users make decisions based on profile pictures alone and not much information about the person.
Additionally, many people find that the app’s monetization options, such as the “Tinder Plus” and “Tinder Gold” can make it harder to find matches and enjoy the app.
Overall, opinions on Tinder tend to be quite varied, as people’s experiences with the app can depend on a variety of factors such as their location, what they are looking for, and how actively they use the app.
Picture this. You went on an epic first date with a guy and brought your A-game. It’s the next day, and you want to text him to tell him you had an amazing night, but you don’t want to look like a desperate Debbie. Maybe he has already texted you, and you’re obsessing over what it means and how to respond. But what on earth do you text a guy after a first date to let him know you’d love to see him again without scaring him away?
It’s easy to over-analyze things, rewrite your message a hundred times only to think it’s all super-cringe, and delete everything.
You could ask your friends for help, but if they’re single and known for ending up in complicated situationships, they’re probably not going to give you the best advice. Scratch that; they’re going to give you terrible advice.
In this post, I’m sharing when and what to text a guy after a first date to guarantee yourself a second one.
When to text a guy after a first date
In your teens and twenties, it’s an unwritten rule that you’ve got to wait 3.6 days before you text or call someone after a date or until they text you first. This is how you create that IDGAF (I don’t give a f*ck) vibe that is supposed to make a guy or girl want you even more. We all eventually grow out of this phase (hopefully).
Imagine if you had an amazing time with a guy now, and he didn’t text you for three days. You would assume he didn’t connect with you, and you’d probably give up hope that you would hear from him.
As we get older, transparency becomes more important because we realize that time is finite and we’re secure enough to be open and honest with people. If a man is into you, he’ll be pumped to hear from you. And if he didn’t feel a spark, you’ll find out much sooner than if you both waited X number of days to pick up the phone.
There are no concrete rules for when to text a guy after a first date. Later that evening or the next day is a good window to aim for and ensure you’re being respectful. This also gives you enough time to reflect on the date and decide if you want to see each other again.
You don’t need to wait for a man to text you after a date, especially if he was the one who asked you out and planned the date. If that is the case, it’s polite to thank him and tell him that you had a nice time (if you did). As this was your first meeting in person, you’ll probably have a lot to say, but make sure you keep your message short and sweet. Texting is not for writing essays!
This is a great way to open up the conversation and see if a second date might be on the cards. If he beats you to it, don’t play it cool and wait to respond. This won’t increase your chances of a second date!
What to text a guy after a first date
One of the reasons there is so much pressure on that first text after a first date is that you’re wondering if the other person wants to see you again. This confusion can be eliminated if you have this conversation at the end of your first date. It doesn’t need to be awkward. If he doesn’t bring it up, saying something like, “I’ve had a really nice time tonight,” can help kick-start the conversation and see where his head is.
If this doesn’t happen, or you need a little more time to consider whether you want to go on a second date, reflect on how it went. Does he meet your love vision? How did he make you feel? Do you want to see him again?
Once you’ve made your decision, then you’re ready to text him.
Here’s what to text a guy after a first date (if you want a second).1. Say thank you
It might sound boring or unoriginal, but you’d be surprised how refreshing it is in our modern dating world (of ghosting and Netflix & chilling) when someone thanks you after a date.
Text him something like, “Thank you for last night. I had a wonderful time getting to know you better!”
This is a great way to start a conversation with him, see if he feels the same, and potentially bag yourself a second date.2. Remind him of a highlight from your date
What was a stand-out moment from the date for you? What was your favorite part? Did you eat some amazing food? Did you learn something unbelievable about him? Or did he make you laugh so hard that you shot water out of your nose?
Capture this moment in your message to him. Say something like, “Last night was fun! My highlight of the date was when (insert your highlight here)… it’s still bringing a smile to my face.”
This walk down memory lane will bring him back to your date and, if it was a success, how much he enjoyed being in your company.3. Follow up on something from your date
If you had a great time on your first date and want to see him again, chances are the conversation flowed, and you had a lot to talk about. Why end the conversation there? Pick up on something you spoke about when you text him.
“Hey! I was thinking about what you said last night about (insert topic here) – that was super interesting. I’d love to know more.”
Or nudge him about an in-joke.
“I still can’t believe you said if you could only eat one thing for the rest of your life, it’d be broccoli. What the heck?!”4. Comment on something positive about the first date
People love to be around other positive, happy, high-energy people. Following up after your first date is a brilliant way to continue with this energy and remind him how good you made him feel on your date.
That could mean you comment on how nice the bar was or how great the food was.
“I can’t believe I’ve lived in this town for years and never been to that bar. It was so fun!”
“That was hands down the best lobster I’ve ever eaten. I’m still thinking about it now!”
If he’s unsure whether you had a good time, this will clear up any doubts and give him the go-ahead to ask you on a second date.5. Share a link to something happening they’d be into
Use what you learned on your date about this guy and shared things you have in common to drop into your text. Maybe there’s a band you both love, a sport, or perhaps you’re both really into wine (more than the average person). Do some (light) research and see what’s happening around you. If you see something you’d both enjoy, drop the link in a text to him.
“Did you know that (insert band) is playing in town next month?”
“There’s a cooking class in this amazing restaurant downtown that I think you would love!”
There’s always room for not-so-subtle hints that you want to go on a second date.6. Make it clear you’d like to meet up again
I don’t recommend asking a guy on a second date because letting him ask you out again makes him work for it and allows him to lean into his masculine energy (and you into your feminine). But, if you’re feeling confident, you know you want to see him again, and you don’t want to waste time, be clear that you do want to see him again.
“Last night was great. I’m glad we finally got a chance to meet IRL!” We should do it again sometime.”
That’s short and sweet, and to the point. You clearly want to see him again, and you’ve put the ball in his court.7. Suggest doing something together that came up in conversation
What you’re looking for when you’re out meeting new guys and going on dates is someone you’re compatible with and have shared interests and values with.
Hopefully, you spent time exploring each other’s interests, and if you’re keen on a second date, you probably have some things in common.
Maybe you both love art, hiking, or eating pancakes. Pick one shared interest you discovered, and weave it into your text.
“I enjoyed last night! We should do it again sometime, maybe over pancakes ”
Or, “I walked by this incredible art gallery today on my lunch break, and they’ve got a new exhibition that I think you would love!”8. Send a funny meme
The ability to make some laugh is underrated and truly goes a long way. A shared sense of humor is important in a relationship and will help you bond in the early stages of dating. And if you ended up sharing an in-joke, even better because this helps build intimacy.
If you did something embarrassing on the date, like snort when you laughed or took too big of a mouthful of spaghetti and couldn’t talk for a whole minute while you chowed down, make a joke of it.
Find a silly meme or gif that sums up the moment and is guaranteed to make him laugh out loud. Send it to him with a text that says, “Me last night. But honestly, it was refreshing to feel like I could be my true, dorky self with you!”9. Be honest with him about how nervous you were
Next up on this list of what to text a guy after a first date is rooted in being open and honest. Most people get nervous going on a first date. Even if you’re incredibly confident, extroverted, and used to meeting new people all the time, going on that first in-person meetup is daunting. You don’t know if he’ll look like he does in his pictures (is he really 6ft?) or if you’ll have anything to talk about. You could be about to meet a man you never see again or someone who ends up becoming your husband. The possibilities are that wide open.
So it can be nice to shoot him a text being honest about how nervous you were.
“I was feeling the butterflies ahead of our date last night. But I felt super comfortable with you – thank you for such a lovely evening.”10. Check out something he recommended
Did he recommend a movie, a band, or a coffee house and was raving about it so much that you felt like you had to check it out?
Well, check it out! Listen to a couple of songs from that band, watch the movie, or grab coffee at that place he suggested on your way to work. But when you text him, be honest about whether you like it.
For example, let’s say he tells you his favorite movie is Gladiator, and he’s mock offended you’ve never seen it: “everyone has to watch Gladiator!”
You’re curious, so you finally give it a watch. But you didn’t really get what all the fuss was about. I mean, sure, it was okay, and Russell Crowe wasn’t bad to look at, but there wasn’t a whole lot else going on there for you.
Send him a text like this: “So I finally watched Gladiator, and honestly, I don’t get it. Finding Nemo moved me more.”11. Send him a (modern) mixtape
If you found out on your first date that you both have a shared love of music or are into very different genres (e.g., he’s a house man and you’re a country-pop gal), it could be cute to make him a digital mixtape. Creating a playlist of your favorite songs (or his favorite songs) is way more informal than making an actual mixtape or burning songs onto a CD (who even has CDs anymore?!). Plus, it’s a thoughtful surprise that will make him think of you when he listens to it.
So you could compile a list of your favorite songs right now or a list that will take him back to that awesome time he spent traveling in South America that he told you about on your date.
How will he be able to resist asking you on a second date after that?!12. Give him a compliment
You want to avoid repeating anything you said on your first date, but giving him a thoughtful compliment based on his personality rather than his appearance is a great text to send. Mention how interesting it was to hear him talk about something specific, how you felt like he was a great listener, or how inspired you were by how passionate he was about his business.
Everyone loves receiving a compliment! You’ve just got to be careful that you don’t go OTT here because you don’t want to seem desperate.
Send him something like this:
“It was great to meet you last night! I always like people who XYZ.”
“Last night was awesome! Hearing you talk about XYZ was super interesting.”13. Offer to teach him something!
If you’re wondering what to text a guy after a first date to snag yourself a second, think about what he told you he’s terrible at that you’re actually pretty good at.
Maybe he said he’s a lousy cook (burns toast all the time), or he cannot draw or paint anything even if his life depended on it.
Think about your strengths, and give yourself a chance to shine.
“I feel bad that you’re basically living on beans and (burnt) toast. I know you said mac and cheese is food of the Gods, so I’d love to show you how to make it sometime ”
“So I know you said you can’t paint to save your life, but there’s this painting class where you go and paint whatever you want and drink wine, and I hear it’s a lot of fun! Maybe it’ll loosen those hands up a little!”14. Tell him you had fun
Although this text sounds a little simple, letting the guy know you had fun on your date makes it clear that you enjoyed his company and getting to know him. Sometimes, this is all a guy needs to have the confidence to ask you on a second date.
“Tonight was fun. I had a great time getting to know you more!”
It can be difficult for men to read women. He might be a little insecure or new to dating again and unsure whether you want to see him again. This will give him a chance to either politely decline or give him the green light to ask you out again.15. Feeling brave? Send him a voice note
This is a next-level text to send a guy after a first date. But it’s not for the faint-hearted! If you’re a bold, confident woman who can’t even remember the last she sent a text since voice notes were invented, this is for you.
The great thing about sending a voice note is it’s way more intimate and exciting than a text. Most people get loads of texts from dates, but how many get a voice note? This will make you stand out. Plus, you’ll be able to communicate through your tone of voice and lift the message of what you’re saying.
Something like this would be perfect:
“Hey (his name), I woke up with a smile on my face remembering our date last night! It was lovely to finally meet you.”Conclusion
With this list, you’ll never be stuck wondering what to text a guy after a first date again! Save it, share it, print it out (if you’re old school like that), and get yourself that second date.
Next time you give one of these texts a go, tell me how it goes in the comments below!
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Imagine this: you end up on a date with someone who seems to be your dream man. He calls and texts when he says he will. You’ve got many shared interests like yoga, cooking, and drinking fine wines. He’s kind, intelligent, and makes you laugh. He has a great job, and he hasn’t done any jail time. On paper, he’s the perfect match. It’s like the Universe finally answered the call you put out, and you can’t quite believe your luck.
Sounds great, right? There’s just one problem. The physical attraction isn’t quite there. It’s not that he’s a bad-looking guy (far from it), but the chemistry feels off. You’re not entirely sure what it is, but there’s a disconnect, and you wish there weren’t.
So, what do you do when this happens? Should you be dating someone you’re not 100% physically attracted to? Can that attraction build over time? Or is it unfair to keep dating a guy when you’re not fully into him, only to break things off in the near future?
Keep reading because I’ll be answering all of these questions and more.Things to consider when dating someone you’re not physically attracted to Do you want him or just want a relationship?
When you’re ready and open to meet someone and have a strong desire for a relationship, it’s easy to confuse that desire with attraction for someone. You don’t feel it for this guy, but you want to because you want to find love. So maybe you’re trying to force it to be a fit when it’s just not.
So before you go any further, ask yourself if you want someone in your life or this man in particular.Are you emotionally distracted?
The second thing to consider is what else is going on in your life. If you went through a messy divorce or breakup, had a big career change, or have been under a lot of stress recently, this is likely to have flung you into an emotionally distracted state.
When you’ve already got too much on your plate, it’s difficult to be attracted to anyone, and it’s unfair to try and start something new when you don’t have the emotional capacity for it.
Give yourself the time you need to work through these emotions. Be honest with the man you’re dating right now. Only start dating again once you’re in the right head and heart space.8 Reasons for dating someone you’re not physically attracted to at first 1. It takes the pressure off dating
The first reason why I would recommend dating someone you’re not attracted to is that it takes a heap of pressure off the dating process.
Do you remember the last time you met a guy who looked like the leading man straight out of a hit rom-com? Chances are you automatically became more self-conscious and found yourself in a fluster. Maybe you were trying hard to impress him or even presenting a version of yourself that you thought he would like. This is normal.
Remove the physical attraction, and you’ll no longer feel self-conscious about how you look, how you sound, or whether you’re interesting enough. There will be no pressure to “perform.” It’ll feel easy and comfortable, the same as it does when spending time with a friend. And you can focus all your energy on building emotional attraction with this man and seeing if your personalities and values match.
2. Remember that physical attraction fades
When you’re thinking long-term, it doesn’t matter how sexy you both are or how sexy you find each other. Because that physical spark will always fade over time, this is normal. Eventually, you get so used to someone’s appearance that the physical chemistry fizzles. This is as good of a reason as any to keep dating someone you’re not physically attracted to.
We live in a world that places such high importance on physical appearance. Many of us are obsessed with how we look and how other people look, most of which is perpetuated by the media. We only post photos on our social media that show us in our very best light and add filters to make further improvements. On dating apps, we make instant judgments about people based on a couple of photos of them.
Physical attraction is nice to have, but what if you shifted how you think about attraction? How attractive somebody is comes down to so much more than their appearance. You could meet the hunkiest man you’ve ever laid eyes on, only to find he has nothing interesting to say and is about as dull and dry as a cheese-less cracker.
If you’re looking for a relationship and love that lasts, it’s important to get to know guys on a deeper level and see if there is an emotional attraction.3. It can stop you from choosing the wrong men
Dating someone you’re not physically attracted to is a great way to avoid dating men who aren’t good for you.
You might have a “type” that you always go for. But just because your type is tall, dark, handsome bad boys who have tattoo sleeves and drive Harleys, that doesn’t mean you should only date guys who fit into this narrow box. You might love lobster rolls, but does that mean you should only consume lobster rolls? No! Imagine what you’d miss out on… ramen, pizza, mac & cheese, ice cream, peanut butter cups…
If you’ve been consistently unlucky in love and believe you’re under the one-date curse, it’s time to widen your search. There’s no better place to start than dating someone who looks different from your usual type. Someone who you might usually overlook. They say don’t judge a book by its cover, but far too many of us are still guilty of this.4. Attraction can take time to grow
How often have you witnessed a man and a woman start as friends only to develop romantic feelings for each other? This is a classic example of how attraction genuinely does take time to build.
When you meet someone in person for the first time, you see them in a very controlled, pre-planned setting. There’s only so much of them you can see when you go for a drink or grab dinner together. You haven’t yet had a chance to see how they interact with their friends and family, how they respond to stress or act in a crisis, or how generous and supportive they are.
Seeing a man in all of these other scenarios can make you more attracted to him. Sometimes it will hit you out of the blue, and he’ll go from being a “mergh” to a straight-up ten out of ten. But only if you give it a chance.5. It helps you focus on his personality
Have you ever been blown away by how hot a man is that you couldn’t think about anything else? You ended the night knowing no more than his first name and maybe what he’d look like shirtless.
The whole point of dating is that you get to know someone on a deeper level, and sometimes, very good-looking people make it difficult to focus on that!
Dating someone you’re not immediately physically attracted to also gives you room to focus on other, more important, things like his personality. Ultimately, looks fade, but personality, intelligence, humor, and values last.6. You might share some deep values
That brings me nicely to the next point, which is all about values. One of the most important factors in a relationship standing the test of time and lasting long-term is shared values. Are you aligned on where you want to live, the kind of lifestyle you want to lead, and whether you want to get married and have kids?
Dating someone you’re not physically attracted to allows you to discuss these important things and determine if you’re compatible in the long run. You might find you’re a sensational match when it comes to values.
Your time is far too precious to waste it dating men who don’t fit into the future you want to build.7. It’s sexy when someone “gets you”
One of the best parts of a relationship is the closeness you form, where you are best friends and understand each other almost better than anyone else. It takes a long time for a connection to develop organically this way, which is why dating someone you’re not initially physically attracted to could lead to something special.
So if you’re unsure about the man you’re dating, ask yourself if you enjoy spending time with him. Is he a good listener? Is he demonstrating that he’s interested in learning more about who you are and what makes you tick? Are your love languages compatible? Do you feel comfortable with him?
When someone just “gets you” in a way that most others don’t, they score a ton of points on the sexy-ometer.8. It will expand your mind
You know when you meet someone from a different country or culture, and they snap you out of the little bubble you’ve been living in, in a very good way? This is why we love to travel, eat new things, and have new experiences. All of it expands our horizons and brings something new to our lives. Dating someone you’re not physically attracted to can be a wonderful way to do this.
Dating someone who isn’t your “usual” type and who you wouldn’t usually spend time with will force you out of your comfort zone and help you have new, interesting conversations. This is the heart of all first dates: having a unique experience with a new person.
So what if it doesn’t end up leading somewhere? At least you put yourself out there, and you’ll learn a lot you can carry with you on your dating journey.How to date someone you’re not physically attracted to
Have I convinced you to give that guy a chance and see if attraction builds? If so, here are some extra tips for dating someone you’re not physically attracted to.1. Have an open mind
There is so much more to beauty than the narrow definition that society has come to over the years. Sometimes it takes a while to truly see and appreciate someone’s beauty. Maybe it’s when he wrinkles his nose when he laughs. Maybe his entire face lights up when he talks about his business.
When you let go of your learned definitions of beauty, you might just be surprised. Have an open mind with every man you date. After all, you’d want them to be open-minded about you and not judge you at face value, right?2. Give him three dates
You don’t need me to tell you that first dates can be awkward. Half the population is introverted, and it takes a while to feel comfortable with someone new. People get nervous. Both of you are trying to present the best version of yourselves and figure out whether there are mutual grounds here that can develop into something.
My rule is if you’re dating someone you’re not physically attracted to and unsure if he’s right for you, give him three dates. Three dates is a good amount of time to see more of someone’s personality and gauge whether there’s emotional attraction. If there is, you can build on this.3. Focus on what you like about him
As I mentioned, physical attraction always fades, and in a long-term relationship, you will spend a lot of time together. If most of your attraction to a man is physical, you’re not going to love living with him.
So, for now, forget the physical side of things, and focus on what you like about him. Is it that you have a similar sense of humor? Do you both love watching documentaries on Gaia or swimming in the ocean? These common interests and shared values are a great foundation for a happy, long-lasting relationship.
4. Think about long-term compatibility
It’s natural to initially judge someone based on appearance, especially when you don’t have much else to go on. This is why dating apps can be tricky to navigate because you’re usually basing your decision to chat with someone on how cute their profile photo is.
But if you’re looking for something long-term, you must think long-term instead of being blindsided by the here and now. How compatible are you? Are you both looking for similar things in a relationship? Do you want kids, and how do you want to raise them?
These things are way more important than how much you want to drag them into the bedroom with you. You’ve got to make sure that the man you choose is someone you can learn to love being around outside the bedroom too.5. Build an emotional connection
Have you ever met a guy who was smoking hot, and you really liked him? But after a series of dates, things just naturally fizzled out. He got bored, didn’t want to commit, and pulled away.
This has happened to most women at least once in their life. Usually, it’s caused by focusing too much on a physical connection and not taking the time to build an emotional connection. This emotional attraction and connection take you from dating to wanting to be in a committed relationship.
So if you’re dating someone you’re not physically attracted to, this is a golden opportunity to open up and focus on building an emotional connection.Conclusion
If there’s one thing I’d love you to take away from this article, it’s that physical attraction fades. Is there a better reason than that to date someone you’re not immediately attracted to?
What’s the worst that could happen? After three dates, you still don’t feel attracted to him in any way, so you don’t see him again, and you move on to the next guy.
Are you dating someone you’re not physically attracted to, or have you ever done so in the past? I’d love to hear your story, so drop it in the comments below!
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Figuring out how to date after a divorce isn’t always easy. Even the word ‘dating’ can be enough to raise the hairs on your arm when you’re still in the wake of a divorce – no matter how amicable it was.
The simple fact is, the end of a marriage is a huge event that can shift your entire outlook on life and love. Aside from dealing with the emotions and logistics involved in the divorce itself, tricky questions emerge: How long should you wait to date after divorce? How exactly do you start dating after a divorce?
If you’re in this situation and are feeling a bit overwhelmed, don’t worry! With a few pointers and some top tips in mind, knowing how to date after a divorce doesn’t have to be so daunting. Let’s get into it.How Long Should You Wait to Date After a Divorce?
First things first, let’s answer this question with another question: Are you still grieving and processing the divorce? If the inside of your head still feels like a stormy sea, it’s probably not the best idea to swan dive back into the dating pool. Everybody processes challenging life events at different paces, so there’s no telling exactly how long this will take you.
If you’re still holding onto hopes that you and your ex-partner will reunite, it’s important to deal with these feelings first. If you attempt to start dating while still reeling from your divorce, you’ll likely find it difficult to make real, meaningful connections. Likewise, people will probably find it difficult to get to know the real you – the one who isn’t trying to get over heartbreak. Trying to date too soon may result in further hurt.
Once you truly feel like you’ve moved on and gotten past your divorce, it’s worthwhile taking some time to think about what, or who, you’re looking for. Remember, you might’ve changed as a person in the chunk of time since you last dated. What you were looking for last time around may be different from your preferences today.
So, before you begin dating, sit yourself down and consider what it is you’d like to find in a potential new partner.
– What personality traits would you like to see in them?
– Is their choice of career important?
– Do you want somebody who shares your communication style?
– Do you want somebody who shares your love language?
– Are you dating to find a serious relationship, or just for fun?
– Do you mind dating somebody with children?
– Do you have any lines in the sand – any deal breakers you’re not willing to look past?
It’s worth spending a little time figuring out the answers to these questions. It’ll help you find someone you actually want, rather than somebody who’s simply available.How to Start Dating After a Divorce: 5 Ways to Try
When thinking about how to date after a divorce, the hardest step can often be knowing where to start, especially as things might’ve changed quite a bit since you were last single. Don’t stress though! Below, we’ve put together a few fun and easy ways to jump back into the dating scene.1. Dating apps
You may have met your ex-spouse on a dating app, or you may have never used one at all. Either way, dating apps are a huge part of modern dating. Whether you’re an online dating pro or a complete novice, give Zoosk a go to start connecting with like-minded singles online. This is a great way to ease yourself back into dating after coming out of a divorce!2. In-person classes
From salsa to poetry, in-person classes are one of the best ways to meet people. You show up to the same place over several weeks or months, learn a new skill, and slowly become friendly with a new crowd. It’s a less direct method of meeting somebody, but a more gentle way, too.3. Singles events
There are tons of great singles dating events out there. Whether it’s speed dating, a simple meet-and-greet, or just drinks, singles events offer fun and relaxed settings to meet new people and make genuine connections.4. Social events
There are all kinds of communities out there, online and offline, offering social events. It might be group hiking, rock climbing, gardening, board games, or anything else. Choose the one you find interesting, and with a little luck, you’ll meet somebody you can really connect with.
Platforms like Meetup offer the opportunity to find social events based on your interests and location. So, wherever you’re based in the US, find an event you’re into a take the leap into a world of new connections!5. Friends of friends
When it comes to knowing how to date after a divorce, sometimes the old-school options are still the best place to start. Hanging out with friends of friends can be an easy and relaxed way of meeting new people. Simply tag along to dinners and nights out with friends, and see who you end up meeting along the way.5 Tips for Dating After Divorce
Got a date all set? Here are a few snippets of advice for the big night.1. Be yourself
Don’t try to morph into the person your date seems to expect you to be. Be yourself and let your personality shine. When the right person comes along, they’ll like you for simply being you.2. Relax
If it’s your first date in a long time, it’s natural to feel nervous. However, just be sure to remember to chill out, and keep your expectations realistic. Come equipped with some first date conversation topics and see if there’s some chemistry there!3. Take it slow
There’s no rush! Take the time to get to know the person sitting opposite you, and ease yourself back into the dating scene. If you try to move too fast too soon, you risk feeling overwhelmed. Allow yourself to acclimatize, and don’t feel like you’re under any pressure.4. Maintain your standards
Don’t accept poor behavior, even if you’re feeling a little lonely and are keen to find somebody. After a lengthy period in a marriage, any attention can be flattering, but watch out for any online dating red flags!5. Be upfront about your situation
If you have kids, let your date know sooner rather than later. You don’t need to get into the grisly details of your divorce — in fact, it’s probably better than you don’t — but do be upfront about any information that might influence their decision to date you.How Date After a Divorce: The Bottom Line
Knowing how to date after a divorce can be both intimidating and exhilarating. There’s no telling who you might meet and what future rosy memories you might form together. But, remember to take it slow, go at your own pace, and hold onto your values. Above all, try to have fun and be yourself! Who knows where your next romantic encounter might lead?
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I found this fantastic list and wanted to share it with you. It’s how to say “I love you” in more than 100 languages. Don’t think about it as something that serious, but more as a means to have fun and to take a smile out of a girl. It’s always cool to have something unique to say if you meet a Hungarian, Icelandic or Korean girl
Afrikaans – Ek het jou liefo
Albanian – Te dua
Arabic (to male) – Ana behibak
Arabic (to female) – Ana behibek
Armenian – Yes kez sirumem
Bambara – M’bi fe
Bengali – Ami tomake bhalobashi
Belarusian – Ya tabe kahayu
Bisaya – Nahigugma ako kanimo
Bulgarian – Obicham te
Cambodian – Soro lahn nhee ah
Catalan – T’estimo
Cherokee – Tsi ge yu i
Cheyenne – Ne mohotatse
Chichewa – Ndimakukonda
Chinese (Cantonese) – Ngo oiy ney a
Chinese (Mandarin) – Wo ai ni
Comanche – U kamakutu nu
Cree – Kisakihitin
Creole – Mi aime jou
Croatian – Volim te
Czech – Miluji te
Danish – Jeg Elsker Dig
Dutch – Ik hou van jou
Elvish – Amin mela lle
English – I love you
Esperanto – Mi amas vin
Estonian – Ma armastan sind
Ethiopian – Afgreki’
Faroese – Eg elski teg
Farsi – Doset daram
Filipino – Mahal kita
Finnish – Mina rakastan sinua
French – Je t’aime, Je t’adore
Frisian – Ik hald fan dy
Gaelic – Ta gra agam ort
Georgian – Mikvarhar
German – Ich liebe Dich
Greek – S’agapo
Gujarati – Hoo thunay prem karoo choo
Hiligaynon – Palangga ko ikaw
Hawaiian – Aloha Au Ia`oe
Hebrew (to female) – “ani ohev otach” (said by male) “ohevet Otach” (said by female)
Hebrew (to male) – “ani ohev otcha” (said by male) “Ohevet ot’cha” (said by female)
Hiligaynon – Guina higugma ko ikaw
Hindi – Hum Tumhe Pyar Karte hae
Hmong – Kuv hlub koj
Hopi – Nu’ umi unangwa’ta
Hungarian – Szeretlek
Icelandic – Eg elska tig
Ilonggo – Palangga ko ikaw
Indonesian – Saya cinta padamu
Inuit – Negligevapse
Irish – Taim i’ ngra leat
Italian – Ti amo
Japanese – Aishiteru or Anata ga daisuki desu
Kannada – Naanu ninna preetisuttene
Kapampangan – Kaluguran daka
Kiswahili – Nakupenda
Konkani – Tu magel moga cho
Korean – Sarang Heyo or Nanun tangshinul sarang hamnida
Latin – Te amo
Latvian – Es tevi miilu
Lebanese – Bahibak
Lithuanian – Tave myliu
Luxembourgeois – Ech hun dech gaer
Macedonian – Te Sakam
Malay – Saya cintakan mu / Aku cinta padamu
Malayalam – Njan Ninne Premikunnu
Maltese – Inhobbok
Marathi – Me tula prem karto
Mohawk – Kanbhik
Moroccan – Ana moajaba bik
Nahuatl – Ni mits neki
Navaho – Ayor anosh’ni
Ndebele – Niyakutanda
Norwegian (Bokmaal) – Jeg elsker deg
Norwegian (Nyonrsk) – Eg elskar deg
Pandacan – Syota na kita!!
Pangasinan – Inaru Taka
Papiamento – Mi ta stimabo
Persian – Doo-set daaram
Pig Latin – Iay ovlay ouyay
Polish – Kocham Cię
Portuguese – Eu te amo
Romanian – Te iubesc
Russian – Ya tebya liubliu
Scot Gaelic – Tha gra\dh agam ort
Serbian – Volim te
Setswana – Ke a go rata
Sign Language – ,\,,/ (represents position of fingers when signing ‘I Love You’)
Sindhi – Maa tokhe pyar kendo ahyan
Sioux – Techihhila
Slovak – Lu`bim ta
Slovenian – Ljubim te
Spanish – Te quiero / Te amo
Swahili – Ninapenda wewe
Swedish – Jag alskar dig
Swiss-German – Ich lieb Di
Surinam – Mi lobi joe
Tagalog – Mahal kita
Taiwanese – Wa ga ei li
Tahitian – Ua Here Vau Ia Oe
Tamil – Nan unnai kathalikaraen
Telugu – Nenu ninnu premistunnanu
Thai (to female) – Phom rak khun
Thai (to male) – Chan rak khun
Thai Informal – Rak te
Tunisian – Ha eh bak
Turkish – Seni Seviyorum
Ukrainian – Ya tebe kahayu
Urdu – mai aap say pyaar karta hoo
Vietnamese (to female) – Anh ye^u em
Vietnamese (to male) – Em ye^u anh
Welsh – ‘Rwy’n dy garu di
Yiddish – Ikh hob dikh
Yoruba – Mo ni fe
Zazi – Ezhele hezdege
Zuni – Tom ho’ ichema
Any language missing? Make sure to leave a comment!
The magic of a real, physical letter cannot be duplicated by any of the new forms of communication. A letter is, in the end, something tangible, something we can touch, keep and hold and that can be preserved in a way that emails, phone calls or text messages will never be.
A love letter is an actual testament of love – and it’s a record of your relationship that will stay with your woman for the rest of her life.
It’s not cheesy and it’s by no means outdated – writing a love letter is a beautiful and very romantic thing to do, and receiving one can really mean a lot for your girl.
A girl cannot hear too many times that you love her and she’s beautiful – she’ll never get sick of it. You must keep telling her over and over, no matter for how long you have been together. It matters – and a letter is one of the best ways to do it.
This guide is meant for those of you who have a girlfriend already. I don’t suggest writing love letters to girls you haven’t been with it – at least not without a careful analysis of her case. But then, if you are single, use the ideas an inspiration for your seduction!How to Write a Love Letter
It doesn’t matter if you are not a good writer. What matters with a letter is that you are true and honest about your feelings – that from the bottom of your heart you believe what you are writing.
There’s no structure, or exact how-to to write them. But if you are lacking ideas, you should definitely work on these areas:1- Keep Telling Her How Great She Is And How Much You Love Her
Again, it’s never enough. Tell her how beautiful she is and how much you love her – keep telling her, she WON’T get tired of it.
What are the nicest things about her? Is it her eyes? If so, write her that you love her eyes, and so on. Tell her that you love her for her personality, and be precise about what exactly is what drives your love for her.2- Recall Great Moments You Had Together
Write about your best times with her – trips, dinners, walks, conversations and just plain random moments. Tell her how great they were, and how much you enjoyed those moments with her.
Recall the feelings and magic from the moment – you holding hands, your breath, your kisses, and the smiles, vibe and love that you have in your memory.3- Tell Her How Being With Her Makes Your Life Better
It’s a very strong thing to say – but, at least I, if I’m with a girl it’s because she makes me a better person. Not all girls are equal – a couple inspire, others are plain loving and others are very supportive. Find out which type(s) is your girl and tell her how great she makes you feel.
This is where you put the smart compliments – those from deep inside and those that matter most. If you are very inspired that your girlfriend got a new job, got into a school, or whatever thing she did – TELL HER. Tell her how watching her makes you fight for more. Same if she supports you, etc.4- Speak About Future Adventures and Good Moments to Come
Future Adventure Projections, as I wrote, are very powerful – and they work well not only while you try to seduce girls, but also if you have one already. They keep the spark lit, and they make girls think and meditate about the good times to come with you.
Tell your girl you are looking forward for more hugs and kisses, for great times to come and, also, point out one or two things you want (and will) do with her. This is probably the most important part of all!5- Reaffirm Your Love to Her
It’s never enough! Close the letter telling her how happy you are to be with her, how great she is and that there’s no other girl in the world that can come close to her. Tell her you love her no matter what, and that you will keep loving her today, tomorrow and for much more time.Last Details
Post the Letter. Be old fashioned – put the stamp, seal the card and send it via the good old postal mail. It’s old fashioned, but it will surprise her much more. She’ll be browsing for the bills and stuff and voila, there’s your letter. She’ll love it.
Be Spontaneous. Be random – just write her one day out of the blue without any special purpose or special reason. The least she expects the letter, the more surprised she will be, and the stronger the effects will be. Don’t wait to her birthday, why not write her tomorrow?
And I mean it – why not, if you have a girlfriend, write her a love letter NOW? I totally recommend you to! And I’m looking forward for all of you to share your experiences in the comments below.
There’s no single technique or trick as effective as projecting adventures together. It’s the most powerful thing you can ever do with a girl, and it’s ridiculously under used.
Most girls would like to have a more exciting life. It’s not that they don’t like their own, or that they find it boring – it’s just that a mundane, normal life is unexciting by default.
People love traveling and extreme experiences because they are exciting, they break the norm – they are different. Everyone likes a break in the rules.
Everyone longs for adventure, for excitement – if you want to win, position yourself as THE option for it.You Are an Adventurer
First, be an adventurer yourself – break the norms, do crazy stuff. Travel and see the world. Be spontaneous. Invent or start something – you must be special yourself if you want to break the norm.
It’s not realistic if you are the usual boring, cubicle guy and you promise her weeks and months of fun and adventure. You must have something cool in your life resume – be a bit of an artist, a painter, a writer, an spontaneous guy. Do epic shit, do crazy stuff.
I’m writing this from Lapland, north of the Arctic Circle. I’m here for a few days – riding reindeers, playing with huskies and watching the northern lights, all while I’m the -30 C freeze me a bit.
People call me crazy (which I am), but then THIS IS ADVENTURE. People (and girls) are speaking about this with their friends – oh, Mario is in Lapland. He’s doing this, he’s doing that. People are excited about it – even if they are not here.
If I take a girl, and tell her we’ll do something as cool TOGETHER, she’ll inevitably believe me. I do this all the time – though never project them in a place as cold as Lapland!Easy and Concrete Examples
But the best part is that you don’t need to come all the way to the North Pole to be exciting. Here are two more personal examples of very cheap (read: free) adventures.The 5-Star Hotel Sneak
I really dragged a girl to one of the best hotels in Buenos Aires and used all the facilities without paying a cent. Illegal – can get me to jail, etc. Luckily it went all right – we used the huge pool, the sauna and even ordered food.
It was not about sneaking in (we both could pay a couple of nights there), but it’s about the adventure. It’s the trick of being crazy, of doing something exciting. This girl told EVERYONE we met how great of an adventure that was it.
Now, you don’t even need to do it. It’s enough if you already SAY IT. Again, this is about projecting future adventures. As I’ve the precedent, next time I tell a girl about this she can really believe I’ll take her to do something as crazy.Let’s Dance Tango in the Streets
I’m Argentinean, and as such have all this (supposed) Latino-charm, plus the blessing of being from the “land of tango.” Tango, in case you don’t know, is probably the most sensual dance there is. I’m no expert, but I still know how to dance it.
I’ve told girls, after a couple of drinks,“ let’s dance tango in the streets”. “Let’s suit up – let’s look all nice and dance a tango in (insert a cool place in your city). It will be fun.”
I give details – “just imagine, you and me. People watching, people clapping – I’ll teach you the steps, the tricks. It will be fun.” I go on for a while, and always emphasize the ‘fun’ part of it.
I got models and some ‘impossible’ girls with this very trick – even if we then never actually did it.
And you don’t need to dance tango or sneak to a 5-star hotel to have an adventure. The point is to do something exciting – something that involves HER as a protagonist, and that will be a moment to remember.
What does she want to do in her life? What are her dreams? Is there ONE adventure she’s longing for? If you position yourself as the solution, or the ‘highway’ to such adventure, you’ll GET THAT GIRL.Fictional Stories Work
This works even if you project something entirely fictional. As long as you carefully project you two doing something fun together, the trick WILL WORK.
It all comes down to how good of a storyteller you are. Do role-plays together – make her imagine things, make her picture exciting, funny moments together in her mind.
This is the single most powerful aphrodisiac there is. Try it out, and you won’t be disappointed.
I work with women looking to attract a long-term relationship that lasts, and if you’re looking for commitment rather than a hookup, it’s important to start a new connection the right way.
So, how do you do this?
You build emotional attraction.
If a man asks you out and is pursuing you, there’s a high chance he is already physically turned on by you. But how do you build that all-important emotional connection?
Hint: you don’t need to head to the bedroom!
Here are some strange (but proven) ways to turn a guy on emotionally.
- Withhold intimacy until you build that emotional connection
Ten years ago, I went to an event and met this amazing woman who I instantly connected with. We ended up on a first date, and everything was going great until she said:
“Look, can we just skip all this and go back to your place? I like to look for sexual compatibility before getting to know someone.”
I was shocked! Although this is most guys’ fantasy, it had never happened to me before, and I didn’t know what to do.
What’s funny is it instantly killed the vibe we had the moment it happened. All that juicy tension that was building between us was gone. I wasn’t feeling it anymore, and neither was she.
In life, we value what we work for. When something is too easy, we rarely appreciate it.
This is why if you’re looking for a relationship, I recommend staying clear of the bedroom until you’ve gotten to know the guy and built a friendship. Make him work for you!
- Change your voice tonality to something more soft & sensual
If you’re looking for a masculine, dominant, alpha-male kind of guy, then you’ve got to give men a chance to lean into their masculine energy.
How do you do that?
By leaning into your feminine energy.
Many of our clients here at Love Strategies are alpha females at the top of their careers and natural leaders. I’ve found that a lot of these women spend most of their time in their inner masculine because their work requires this and because they have a misconception that feminine energy is weak. But feminine energy is powerful in its own way.
One of the best ways to lean into your femininity is to bring awareness to your tone of voice and speak in a softer, more sensual way.
The words we say matter a lot less than how we say them.
- Ask him for advice
One of my clients is a chief software engineer and works at the top of a super successful Silicon Valley company. Last week she mentioned she was talking to a guy she liked but could feel him slipping away. She also noticed that she had gradually been defaulting back to her take-charge alpha mode.
I told her, “Ask this guy for some advice.”
“I don’t need any advice!” she said.
I asked her, “do you want to feel wanted by this guy?”
“Yes,” she answered.
“Well, he needs to feel needed by you.”
Most guys (at least high-value ones) are not intimidated by smart, successful women. However, they do want to feel needed in a non-needy way.
A simple way to make them feel needed early on is to ask for some advice. You could ask him if he knows the best yoga studio in town, a recommendation on a neighborhood to move to, or tips on how to go shopping for a new car and snag a deal.
When you do this, he will instantly feel needed and want to guide you through the process. This is a great way to build an emotional connection.
- Try something new together
The final way to emotionally turn a guy on is to have a new experience together. I recommend doing this after you’ve gone out with a guy two or three times and you’re at what I call Little Love Step #4.
You could explore a new city, go rock climbing on a date, or visit a vineyard together. Whatever it is, it has to be new for both of you, and it has to be fun and exciting!
What this will do is help him associate that fun and excitement with you. And this is a powerful way to connect on a deep, emotional level.
The #1 thing I do not recommend you do
Do not, under any circumstances, send a guy a picture of you that you would not want to be posted on social media.
Unfortunately, many women find themselves in a situation where photos they send in a private context to a guy are shared with his friends or, worse, posted online. Once a picture like that gets out, you can’t take it back.
Of course, this is a gross breach of privacy and trust. The best thing you can do to avoid this is to not send photos like this to anyone you don’t fully know or trust. It’s not worth it, and you don’t need to do this to build a meaningful connection.
I love seeing a woman who has “come into her own.” Ya know, the woman who was once insecure, but somehow found her swagger and is now more confident than ever? The woman that learned to stop apologizing for her mere existence. The woman that has the cajones to say “This is who I am dammit. Deal with it!”
That’s a woman who has come into her own. What’s even better, men are attracted to her even more. Men love that she is comfortable with her perfection and her flaws. They love that she doesn’t care about what they think of her.
Her opinion of herself is the most important in her world.
Don’t get me wrong; she’s not arrogant or condescending. She’s not the type to step on others to get what she wants. She’s confident, not abrasive.
A woman that has come into her own isn’t afraid of putting herself “out there.” It’s by putting herself out there that she’s learned to hold her head up high and accept her imperfectly perfect self. It’s by putting herself out there that she’s been able to get men effortlessly.
The question is, are you secure enough to put yourself out there?
Are you willing to make mistakes and learn when it comes to dating? If you’re not…then you’re too guarded. If you’re too guarded, you wouldn’t see your Mr. Right even if God himself tapped you on the shoulder and said “Here he is.”
In order to be a woman that has “come into her own”, you gotta take a chance on yourself. How do you do that? If you’ve been trying to lose the same 30 pounds for the last decade, perhaps it’s time to stop fighting those pounds and learn to love them. If you’ve been trying super hard for the last 2 or more years to stay organized, keep your house clean, learn to cook, find balance in your life, afford something expensive, etc, I want you to try something radical.
Stop trying to “fix” those problems and just simply accept them. I had to do this recently. I’ve tried and tried to keep my place clean. But I just finally had a come-to-Jesus talk with myself and said “Look…get $100 and get a maid. All this energy fretting about cleaning could be used to do something else!” When I put it in terms that I understood, I got a maid. And I keep thinking to myself “Wow…why didn’t I do this more consistently before??” What a relief to have someone else scrub my garden tub while I write or coach a client!
Listen, it’s not about cleaning, it’s about accepting myself totally. I don’t like to clean. I used to beat myself up about it and thought that made me unlady-like. In turn, I attracted men who reinforced what I believed: “a good woman always cleans.” The minute I dropped that b.s., I stopped attracting those type of men.
Same thing applies to you. The more you accept yourself, flaws and all, the higher your chances of finding a partner that will accept you unconditionally. The men you attract in your life are mirror images of what you believe about yourself.
When you practice accepting who you are totally, you will magically attract more men who will accept who you are. I don’t care what you look like, when you have an energy about you that says “I’m not perfect, but I still matter!” people, namely men, take notice.
And then…they take you on dates….
Friends with benefits can cause a good friendship to end.
There are a lot of things to celebrate about dating in midlife, namely that you’re smarter about what you want from a romantic relationship now than you were in your 20s. But there are also times when you might feel lonely and in need of some comfort. Maybe you’re even thinking about hooking up with an old pal in a “friends with benefits” situation. But before you do it, here are some things to consider.False Perception of Comfort
We all get lonely a time or two, and friends with benefits might seem like the perfect solution. After all, you’ve got a buddy who knows you and is attracted enough to you to spend the night. But after the sex is over, you will still be left with the empty feelings that drove you to seek out your friend to begin with. Only this time, you’ll add that weird feeling that comes with changing your friendship to include physical contact. Weird feelings with a little bit of loneliness? It can make you feel really bad about your situation and increase the perception that you’re alone.One Person Has Romantic Feelings
As a dating writer, I’ve heard about a lot of friends with benefits situations, and in nearly every case one of the friends tended to have hidden romantic feelings for the other. For one person, sex was more than just attraction and friendship. This led to feelings of confusion for one of the friends, and even fear that they couldn’t really share their feelings. What do you do when the person you normally talk to about things like this is the one you’re having feelings about?It’s Not Just About Your Body
Friends with benefits might seem like the perfect situation in midlife because you’ve got your act together and believe you can have sex without emotional attachment. That’s a perception that doesn’t quite hold water in the real world, however, because with the release of endorphins and oxytocin, your body will experience closeness with the person you’re having sex with that you can’t turn off with your mind. Combine that with the emotional bond that you already have with your friend, and you’ll get a mass of confused feelings heading your way that will make you wish you’d have kept your clothes on and your bedroom door locked.Midlife Doesn’t Have to Mean Settling for Sex Without Emotion
Some midlife daters opt for sex with a friend because they don’t want to get married. But even if you’d like to remain single, friends with benefits will take away from all the hard-won sexual independence you deserve. It might seem like an evolved way to cure a sexual craving, but in reality it will add to emotional confusion. This is exactly what you’re too smart for as a midlife dater. Of the many benefits that dating in midlife has, knowing you don’t have to settle is at the top of the list.Moving Forward With a New Relationship Can Be Difficult
I’ve talked to many daters who said that after they had sex with a friend, they found it more difficult to go on to date with someone else. In some cases, they felt guilty about trying to find a true romantic partner. Their dating life became something they could no longer discuss with their friend. In an effort not to hurt their friend’s feelings, some people even began to lie to their pal about the dates they went on.
The question to ask yourself is: Do you want to stay friends with this person down the line? A friends with benefits arrangement will make that difficult.
You are finished with school, and you have started your career; now is the time to ensure that you have all your ducks in a row. While you may not feel like an adult in your 20s, you are now responsible for making the decisions that will affect your future. While many young adults are focused on good times, those who are successful are finding the right balance between fun and making wise decisions. There is no reason not to enjoy your freedom and youth, but there is an importance that should be focused on your future.
Whether checking life insurance quotes that you can borrow against in a few years or making sure that you stay on top of your health with regular check-ups, there are many ways to establish yourself as a successful adult.Learn to Budget
It only takes one night on the town to ruin your weekly budget. Young adults tend to focus more on the experience versus the cost. While good times are highly recommended, getting into the habit of tracking your spending will benefit you throughout your adult life. Take a look at your earnings, your spending, and where you can make cuts that will bring it into balance. Once you have a reasonable budget established, sticking to it is essential for financial security.
Build Your Savings
Adult life will come with many surprises, accidents, and uncertainties. To be able to go with the bumps and pitfalls, it’s helpful to have an established emergency fund. You may lose your job without warning, or suddenly have a huge repair or medical bill that stresses your budget. It’s important to start growing your emergency and retirement savings as young as possible.Protect Your Interests
Life contains no promises. Anything can happen to anyone at any time. To help protect your interests and assets, having the right insurance coverage is important. Always make sure that your home, life, and auto insurance are up to date.Work On Relationships
Life is no fun without the company of people that you love. To help ensure that you will have friends and family to rely on throughout your adult life, you need to start fostering those relationships now. Learn how to actively listen, stay in touch, and show love to those important in your life.Self Care
As a young adult, you may feel like your focus is being pulled in dozens of different directions. While it’s admirable to care for others, it’s important to maintain a strong self-care routine. Always set aside some time to pamper yourself and work on balancing your physical and mental health.Health Focus
Life is often too busy to worry about the little things like a sore tooth or a suspicious rash. However, as an adult, it’s now up to you to take care of your own health. The key to longevity is focusing on your health and ensuring you get the check ups you need to keep you healthy. Make your annual appointments for screenings, and make sure to keep them.
Being an adult may not be everything you thought it would be when you were a teen. Life can be disappointing in that way. However, learning to be proactive and follow these steps can help you be a successful adult and build a solid future.